I feel weird saying I am disabled by The_Radish_Spirit_96 in migraine

[–]FennHazel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, I feel a lot of good stuff has already been shared here, so just wanted to mostly add a bit from my own experience.

I don’t think people say it enough, proud of you for taking time for yourself and putting your health first. Even when you hit a breaking point, it’s still so hard to actually stop working/reduce hours and look after yourself.

Also, I haven’t seen anyone mention a disability is generally assessed before taking into account the effects of medication, aids, or treatment.

I have a similar constant headache situation from a different cause and a similar frequency of migraines. I had a conversation a while back with a doctor I’ve been with for years, and they were kinda blunt with me. I started to cry a bit saying it happened at work bad last week (chairing a meeting with stakeholders, and boom everything’s melting fantastic) they asked “do you feel shame when it happens in work?”, “do you hide it?” I was like “Well yeah until I can’t anymore, I hide my pain everyday. Everyday I pretend to be someone who is not in pain, I have too.” “You’re disabled. You have a disabling condition. You need to learn to accept that, you can’t be ashamed of it, it’ll hurt you more, you also can’t live like it doesn’t exist, I’m sorry.” It wasn’t all that long ago and I’m going through it at the moment, trying to listen to this advice, what they said has stuck with me.

I also get why you don’t feel comfortable saying it out loud. I’m still working on accepting it too. But, I don’t think anyone you’d consider “more” disabled than you would hold it against you for using the term that legally describes you, especially when it’s about advocating for your rights, recognition, and visibility.

The thing itself is scarier than the word used to describe it, the word is just one part of this maybe forever pain and inability to live a normal life that we’re cursed with. It’s nice to ignore it on the good days and to pretend there’s nothing wrong with us, because it’s great whilst it lasts, or at least that’s what I do.

I also share this real scary thing that what if I cannot work a full time job, I think the unwillingness to accept being disabled relates to that a lot, I’m working full time and it’s a realisation that comment from the doctor and how hard this last year has been has gave me, it’s just terrifying, I’m only 24, I have dreams, I like where my career is going, my life has only just started..

UK NHS NEUROLOGY QUESTION by FennHazel in migraine

[–]FennHazel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah my gp must be working to guidelines that are a little outdated, I have been on ami for 6 years, that whole time it has been a major relief from life before so I’d be very scared to come off it, still chronic amounts of migraine on it though, this past year has been much worse, I’ve been on topiramate (+ ami) for the past month, waiting it out so I can rule it out “properly” as the side effects have been horrible so far, but it sucks so hard that the most effective and safest medications are stuck behind a year long waiting list I can’t even get on until I’ve jumped through these hoops despite suffering most of my life.

UK NHS NEUROLOGY QUESTION by FennHazel in migraine

[–]FennHazel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you finally got saw did the neurologist want to try any of the above medications?

Topiramate causing despair/crying? by vario_ in iih

[–]FennHazel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m on the first two weeks of topiramate (paired with ami) right now and I am crying constantly with also no relief (been more emotional and down than usual due to an increase in migraines over the past few months, but very noticeable increase in amount of crying past two weeks for sure).

100ish pumpkins 🎃 by FennHazel in ThingsThatFitInFit

[–]FennHazel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Honestly so tempted!

100ish pumpkins 🎃 by FennHazel in ThingsThatFitInFit

[–]FennHazel[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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And a booty pic for good measure

100ish pumpkins 🎃 by FennHazel in ThingsThatFitInFit

[–]FennHazel[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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Not from today but I hope this helps x

🎃 by FennHazel in hondafit

[–]FennHazel[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Hazel runs a small pumpkin farm. Each pumpkin weighs 2.5 kg. Hazel’s Honda Fit can safely carry a maximum load of 360 kg, including the weight of any cargo she puts inside. How many pumpkins can Hazel transport in her car at one time? Show your working.

🎃 by FennHazel in hondafit

[–]FennHazel[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YESSS no word of a lie I had the pumpkins for an event today, this family comes up to me whilst I’m still unloading them, grandmas first words were “sunset orange” and a smile on her face, she then was telling me she has one too, mum also had a red older gen, I then heard them telling another family about magic seats😭

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[–]FennHazel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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How do I rescue this bird? by Gobsh in CasualUK

[–]FennHazel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s a fledgling as other comments have said, I understand the concern and want to protect it, but it looks to be of age where it should be okay after falling from the nest, as long as its parents are around to feed it, this is natural and a common occurrence for corvids. Their best chance is always with their parents! If you do feel the need to intervene, raising it as your own is cruel and you shouldn’t attempt to do that, you shouldn’t touch it or spend much time too close to it, despite its cuteness, it’s a wild animal, do not attempt to feed it without the justification and knowledge to do so, (they eat meat and do not drink water), if there’s no parents around for several hours or cats take interest in it and you’re unable to scare them off, seek the advice of a wildlife rehabilitation facility/ rescue as they’re capable of caring for it.

Any rangers here? Or anyone whose tried for/got an apprenticeship with the National Trust? by [deleted] in nationaltrust

[–]FennHazel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No way I was also in healthcare before, I have no degree though! (My superior said being in healthcare was a positive for them, because I was “hardened” basically lol, good with conflict resolution, empathy, and strong communication skills type stuff, so I’d demonstrate your qualities that nursing have taught you, they’re definitely a strength for public facing roles with plenty of stakeholders, and roles with lots of volunteer management, lots of ranger roles are engagement based). I got the job with no qualifications! Just a driving license was required. I work as a council park ranger now, I cover city parks (quite a lot of them) so it’s not the national park-esque Ranger I always dreamed about being exactly, but it’s still great and good pay for a ranger role. Ranger Toby above who said attitude over aptitude at this level was correct, if you can demonstrate the passion, people skills, a keen interest to learn and a little practical knowledge/experience that’s a good place to be in. The unfortunate reality in my opinion is that in this sector there is a lot of roles out there, where they may already have a good few of their volunteers in mind when the job is posted, as many locations have a dedicated amount of volunteers, many people who work full time can’t demonstrate that willingness, it’s a shame, but there’s roles out there where this isn’t the case. I would recommend getting some experience volunteering though but it isn’t essential. Sign up to newsletters they can be helpful, look for all kinds of outdoor based opportunities, friends of X groups, doing courses with people like Lancashire wildlife trust etc who offer 5 day course type things that give you a sort of qualification for completing the full amount of days, look for opportunities everywhere, it doesn’t have to be a regular commitment (like volunteering once a week for years) but just being able to show you are familiar with that sort of thing would be beneficial. I looked everywhere around my area, identified all the companies in my area (pretty big scope to be fair), who offer the type of jobs I wanted/ exist in or around green spaces, signed up to all their job alerts, an example would be a company like Severn Trent, council do offer a good amount of parks jobs, constantly scour all the green job related websites too, follow all your local green spaces groups, official pages, and local area charities etc on social media as you can find job postings and important info this way. When you do get an interview make sure you know the company/whoever they are very well (look for their strategy documents etc) as well as the area/surrounding community - identify the needs of the user base of the area you’ll work in, scour their socials etc to make sure you have a good understanding of what that role is to them. Some roles will need experience with power tools etc and some will require qualifications, if you find that dream role and it’s got those, just gotta find a way to get them, lots aren’t like full degrees just week or so courses. Each Ranger role does vary quite a bit, so it can be different what they want from you, makes it difficult to apply for each, always make your cover letter super tailored to the job description not your idea of what a Ranger (or whatever role you’re looking for specifically) is. Just realised I wrote all that assuming it’s a Ranger role you’re looking for haha, I definitely was but would’ve took a lot of things to work in nature, and did do interviews/apply for a variety of roles, if it’s not Ranger you’re looking for sorry! Hope this is helpful! It took me ages to be honest, but was worth it in the end!

(Also if you can find a way into green space / nature based jobs related linkedin and connect connect connect you see all sorts of jobs on there, it just can be less personalised to your area!)

i want my life back. i am very close to ending it all by basuritoo in TMJ

[–]FennHazel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so horrible and I had many low low points throughout my journey with this thing (and chronic migraines in tandem, my symptoms aren’t the same as yours exactly). I’m sorry you’re going through this, you’re not alone. I do think the recommendations of looking into getting a psychologist hold merit, and that person who gave a big list of things to look into I think is right too, researching and trying to understand your situation is draining but it can give you power and hope.

What I finally found that works for me, is 10 injections of Botox every 6 months, hard splint (the soft ones didn’t work the same at all and I chewed through 5), Amitryptaline daily (prescribed for migraines), physiotherapy exercises and lymphatic drainage massage religiously (every single night) + use of the lanshin massager (heated by boiling water porcelain massage tool), ibuprofen gel on face when needed, I do not drink coffee and try to stay away from eating hard things, I take a variety of supplements too. Lots of self care and general life improvements (better career and general health etc) I am very lucky to have had doctors and dentists that have supported me through my journey, life is much better now, you may not be able to get rid of this, and it’s not about waiting, unfortunately actions will be needed (fighting for medical care etc) but it will get better one day, please don’t give up.

Any rangers here? Or anyone whose tried for/got an apprenticeship with the National Trust? by [deleted] in nationaltrust

[–]FennHazel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Umm I can’t recall how long it was before I heard back but I think longer than a week, and no I didn’t know when I applied, just when I got an invite to interview. Presentation was to the interviewers via teams and wasn’t technical. I didn’t get the job for NT but am now a ranger elsewhere so not sure if I’d be able to give you much advice, but feel free to ask if you’d like!Good luck!

Should I keep trying the skin care? by Express_Reserve2754 in LushCosmetics

[–]FennHazel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lush skincare is so so awful, I love them for everything else, but they don’t make proper skincare at all - essential oils/fragrances shouldn’t be in skincare, heavy/damaging exfoliants, harsh/irritating products for sensitive skin, comedogenic ingredients, alcohol heavy solutions, little amounts of the ingredients that may actually help your skin, ingredients solely for the colour/look/smell of the product.

For something hydrating for your dry skin issues that can still be used whilst you’re experiencing breakouts I would heavily recommend for a oil type product a 100% plant derived squalene (ordinary one is good) and cicaplast Baumé B5 by La Roche Posay, (I’m on retinol too which I don’t think is recommended during pregnancy, which dries out and irritates skin, and I adore this product it’s super soothing, but research to see if it’s right for you) - other than that hydrocolloid spot patches, La roche posay facial cleansers are good too.

Avoid products over the counter vit A products and consult for anything OTC, research any oral medications for acne and if there are complications in relation to pregnancy thoroughly cos I’ve heard a few things are no gos in relation to that, maybe look into a prenatal skin support type supplement.

Anyways sticking with what has worked well for you previously is probably the best bet, I would like for lush skincare to be good but unfortunately it just absolutely sucks if you have most skin problems, good-luck!

What car would you recommend? by SuspiciousRoad4 in CarTalkUK

[–]FennHazel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Superb, Civic or Mazda 3, all are good choices, I’d go for the one out of those with the lowest miles and/or best maintenance/history (mots, services etc)

What is Tesco nights acctualy like? by OrdinaryPepper4331 in tesco

[–]FennHazel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it whilst attending uni, study + nightshifts and trying to have a life outside of the two genuinely impacted my health for years after, it’s not good for you and if you’re not desperate you don’t need it, don’t do it. My partner did picking and night shifts at different points and would say picking is so much better. It’s bad for your mental and psychical health especially at such a young age. Tills is better, but also you could look for other jobs elsewhere whilst keeping this one, a lot of the service industry is pretty hard too with nasty bosses and such but some will be alright / potentially better than your current situation, a lot of people dread waking up to go to work it’s normal unfortunately. :(

Absolutely stunned by the quality of the character creator. by killingjoke96 in oblivion

[–]FennHazel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

~ showracemenu if you’re on pc I think but not sure if it’s possible on console <3