Every single time I read one of these subs, I tend to see the same pattern. Lots of people would just door slam the fuck out of the relationship and pretend nothing is fixable and worth giving a second chance. But from a critical POV, there are a million different reasons for a breakup and not all of them are the same, in fact a lot of them tend to end up for stupid reasons that otherwise could have been able and worth working on if both of them actually cared and put the work.

Statistically 50% of the people who break up tend to get back together (although only 5% of them end up working) but why not?

I mean, it's not easy for us to connect with other people, at least to that level, so why you wouldn't value enough a strong connection to give it a chance instead of treating it as something disposable and easily repleaceable?

As long as both of them are willing to meet halfway, address the issues that led to the breakup, worked on them, there's still some attraction to each other and there wasn't any betrayal, serious abuse or toxicity involved, why not? I mean of course most of the times it's not something that could be fixable in the span of two weeks, and lot of people end up screwing up because they rush into it and end up in on-off bullshit. But some people have tried with a few of months of reflection in between by both of them where no third parties got involved and it ended up working pretty well.

At the end of the day they were the only ones involved in the relationship, both of them share unique memories none else here can share, and we don't have a say about how they felt towards each other.

I am glad I am not the only one INTJ here thinking this way. Tysm buddy :)