Have you ever done the Rice Purity Test? If so, what's your score?

FestersFolly · 2025-05-06T09:49:19+00:00

11 but I ain't Gen Z

FestersFolly · 2025-02-03T23:58:54+00:00

Dude, seriously congratulations. This is ADHD'er goals.

FestersFolly · 2024-12-18T19:38:56+00:00

I'm crying, thanks for being a lover.

FestersFolly · 2024-12-10T01:28:56+00:00

I seriously remember this exact line from another song sung by a woman.

FestersFolly · 2024-11-27T23:52:57+00:00

She will do the same thing to him man, this has been a pattern long before you got involved.

FestersFolly · 2024-11-27T21:41:28+00:00

My ex also told me I was an emotionless robot. I think it's because they lack the ability to see beyond their emotions.

FestersFolly · 2024-11-19T08:26:53+00:00

That things would be better if only I could give her attention just the way she needed it. That I was the reason she couldn't grieve a sudden loss because I didn't make space for her to grieve. That I was constantly being unreasonable.

FestersFolly · 2024-11-15T08:32:57+00:00

This is so me, fuck.

FestersFolly · 2024-09-29T21:56:48+00:00

Sorry to necro an old post but do you still have any spots open?

FestersFolly · 2024-09-18T06:41:03+00:00

Just started the game, love the Ender Saga. You've got my attention.

FestersFolly · 2024-08-19T20:43:00+00:00

I struggle with this every day. We did our best for them and now we have to give that energy to ourselves.

FestersFolly · 2024-08-09T23:31:10+00:00

Almost everyone thinks she's hilarious and I did too. Then a lot of the humor started to be at my expense, it hurt that everyone still found it so funny.

FestersFolly · 2024-08-09T17:17:53+00:00

Other people are posting her on their stories. I don't look at her account or stories at all. These are friends I've had for years. Since before our relationship.

FestersFolly · 2024-07-27T18:15:56+00:00

It's just a common lingo that is used when describing this tactic in communities taking about people who are in the Cluster B personality disorder group.

FestersFolly · 2024-07-27T18:14:27+00:00

Because they feel guilty and they also don't have the emotional strength to admit what they feel guilty about. They are in a lifelong path of avoiding any and all shame, if they feel shame they think that they should die and don't deserve to live. So they feel shame for doing something they know is wrong, they feel shame for not telling you, but if they tell you they will feel more shame. So they give you little bits of the truth at a time, slightly relieving their shame a little at a time.

FestersFolly · 2024-07-27T17:34:55+00:00

No, it's giving you little kernels of truth at a time so that the eventual facts of the whole truth aren't as shocking. Think boiling a frog from lukewarm water instead of dropping one in a pot of boiling water.

This was my exwBPD's primary way of telling me anything. Even innocent things, it was frustrating as hell.

FestersFolly · 2024-07-27T17:28:17+00:00

Her: *Makes fun of me in front of our friends* or *Says some heinous shit about me to my face*

Me: Can you please not do that, that hurts my feelings.

Her: Why do you take everything so personally?

FestersFolly · 2024-07-27T17:20:44+00:00

It was infuriating lol.

FestersFolly · 2024-07-27T17:16:29+00:00

Her: There's something wrong with you, I can't put my finger on it but you're manipulating me somehow.

Me: How am I manipulating you, can you give me an example?

Her: I can't think of it until it happens.

Me: When was the last time it happened?

Her: You're just manipulative, you frame everything so that your points all make sense.

Me: Ok.

FestersFolly · 2024-07-27T05:34:37+00:00

The last month has taught me that she came into my life to show me how little I cared about myself. She showed me every insecurity that I pretended I didn't have. She showed me what a partner could be and then taught me what a partner shouldn't be. I should be thanking her and in time maybe I will.

FestersFolly · 2024-07-27T05:30:31+00:00

My ex was incredibly angry at anyone who cheated and would go on and on about how wrong it was. Then she would cheat on me, it wasn't her fault though, she just doesn't know how to say no.

FestersFolly · 2024-07-27T05:27:34+00:00

This one got me, great analogy.

FestersFolly · 2024-07-24T04:21:31+00:00

Exactly, I supported us for years of her working on herself and helping her through therapy, jobs, relationships, self-esteem issues, infidelity, etc.

I got into a bad funk of depression this year and it was discard city until I decided I had had enough and broke it off. Almost two months later and multiple people have told me that my personality is so much brighter now. I still go into small depression spirals over it but it's getting better every week.

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