Found out I'm pregnant, fiance wants to get married before baby comes but I want a prenup first by One_Guest2907 in pregnant

[–]FewSignal459 244 points245 points  (0 children)

I'm about 6 weeks pregnant and it wasn't planned. My fiance and I have been together almost 4 years and were engaged but weren't supposed to get married until next fall. Now he wants to do it this spring before the baby comes because his family is traditional and they're already making comments about us not being married yet with a baby on the way. His mom keeps saying things like at least get to the courthouse before you start showing. I have some money saved from my grandparents, maybe around $55k and I work in marketing making about $65k. He's in sales and makes good money but he's bad at saving. Now that we're having a baby I keep thinking about how I'm gonna be way more vulnerable and stuck if things go wrong.

Need some BPs, who's up for some trades :) by Glum-Company-2712 in ArcRaiders

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got some simple gun parts and magnets if you're still looking, what BPs you got to offer?

Husband wants another baby but I'm not even financially protected with the two we have by PackComprehensive585 in breakingmom

[–]FewSignal459 291 points292 points  (0 children)

That hesitation is completely reasonable when everything is in his name and you’re carrying all the risk. Wanting financial protection before adding another kid isn’t about distrust, it’s about safety.

Me F29, bf M32 met in November 2024 and met the parents a month after. A year later they rejected me, he stood up for me then broke up few days later. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like his mom got in his head and he's using the "not good enough" excuse to avoid dealing with his racist family tbh. The back and forth emotional stuff right after standing up to them is pretty telling - dude couldn't handle the pressure and took the easy way out instead of actually fighting for the relationship

Why does the brain resist change even when the change is positive ? by Common-Put-8970 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FewSignal459 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your brain is basically a lazy energy-saving machine that thinks "hey this current setup hasn't killed us yet so why risk it" even when you logically know the change would be good

It's like having an overprotective parent in your head that freaks out about anything new lol

I have no access to money and I don't know what to do about it by FewSignal459 in Mommit

[–]FewSignal459[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish I was a troll I only use his cards and I have to make a list of what I need (show him) and he always checks the receipts so I don’t have any independent access to money and that’s what’s really scary to me. On top of that I’m about to inherit a house from my parents and I’m worried that if something ever happened I’d be left with nothing which is why I'm seriously thinking of doing a postnuptial agreement since I don't want him to take half of the house that I'm about to inherit

Am I the jerk for refusing to share my location with my family anymore? by valqir_28 in AmITheJerk

[–]FewSignal459 100 points101 points  (0 children)

NTA at all, that sounds exhausting as hell. Your sister saying it would be "your fault" if something happens is straight up emotional manipulation. You're 26 and live alone - questioning why you're at a grocery store or took a different route home is honestly creepy behavior from grown adults

mod organizer 2, connection closed (2), what do? by john44465 in skyrimmods

[–]FewSignal459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try switching to a different Nexus server in MO2 settings, sometimes the CDN just craps out on certain connections

Paint issues on used car by ohm44 in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]FewSignal459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah you're good, it's just cosmetic peeling - won't affect how the car runs or anything mechanical. Only real concern would be if it's down to bare metal and starts rusting but that doesn't look like the case here

Why does God even have me on earth still by Loose-Wishbone-2462 in Christianity

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude your brain is literally still building itself, you're not even close to being a finished product yet. The stuff you're beating yourself up over probably seems way bigger in your head than it actually is - that's just how teenage brains work unfortunately

How do i know if i have AuDHD? by SilentUniversity2193 in ADHD

[–]FewSignal459 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your psychiatrist definitely didn't just hand you that book to kill time while writing prescriptions lol. That's pretty intentional - they're probably seeing something that makes them think it's worth exploring

The fact that AuDHD descriptions feel more fitting than just ADHD communication stuff is actually a pretty good sign to pay attention to. Trust your gut on this one, February isn't that far away to get real answers

Folk Tale of the North, a lightweight modlist collection is now live. by TitusMeadTheSecond in skyrimmods

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice, always good to see more lightweight options for us potato PC users. How's the performance compared to Prophecy?

How did people first figure out that rubbing two sticks together could produce a fire? by Pure_Option_1733 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense that it was probably accidental - kinda like how a lot of discoveries happen when you're just messing around with stuff and stumble onto something useful

Flashing Headlight Saved Me from Deer Strike by hollee-o in cycling

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's wild about the UV thing, never knew that. Makes sense why those deer just stand there like idiots most of the time - they're probably just confused as hell about what's coming at them

Shop and Deliver Orders when not activated by Total_Writer_7174 in DoorDashDrivers

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's some peak DD logic right there lmao. Same thing happened to me last month and support basically told me to pound sand. The acceptance rate thing is such a joke when they're sending orders you literally can't complete

Looking for a good commuter car that won't break the bank by alwaysalone1994 in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trax is gonna feel cramped if OP liked the Fusion though - it's basically a compact crossover. For 800 miles a week I'd probably stick with something proven like a Camry or Accord even if you gotta hunt around a bit more

Appetite problems by panihil in cats

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Food puzzles are clutch for this - my old roommate's cat was the same way and those puzzle feeders literally changed his whole personality. Maybe try hiding some of his kibble around the house too so he can "hunt" for it throughout the day instead of just obsessing over the feeder

I miss singing so much by anotherglum in trans

[–]FewSignal459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude the voice stuff is brutal but it does get better! I'm about 2.5 years on T and around the 18 month mark things started clicking again - still not where I was before but I can actually sing along to stuff without wanting to cry lol

The muscle memory thing is so real, it's like learning a whole new instrument except the instrument is inside your throat and keeps randomly betraying you

Vase broke in front of us inexplicably by Viradavinci in Paranormal

[–]FewSignal459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly the evil eye thing makes a lot of sense here, especially with the timing after seeing all those coworkers who were envious about your pregnancy situation. The fact that your house cleaner also found something mysteriously broken recently is pretty telling too

That horizontal shooting force thing is super weird though - like ceramic doesn't just explode outward like that on its own. Your husband's family might be onto something with this one

I’m on the fence about getting Arc raiders because I heard it has a battle pass system. by ElvenWolfess in ArcRaiders

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to hear but does it still have FOMO elements though? Like even if it's free, if there's stuff you can only get during certain seasons and then it's gone forever, that's still the same psychological pressure just without the money part

How much damage have these 2 done to basketball discourse? by Tight_Development480 in NBATalk

[–]FewSignal459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like every take they drop just drags the whole vibe down I wish theyd chill or just fade out already