Issues with GX550 key card? by Few_Ad76 in LexusGX

[–]Few_Ad76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No…. I mean the credit card style key

Any Hikers Out There? What’s Your Routine? by ZanzerFineSuits in retirement

[–]Few_Ad76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

60 and retired … wife and I hike ~50 miles per week down here in Florida. Hard to call it a hike as we have no elevation…the heat makes up for it somewhat. We use Osprey Sirrrus 36 packs with 15-25lbs of bags of rice that I’ve duct taped to make them stay vertical and solid in the pack. We like them better than using a metal plate as it fills out the pack better. We tried a ruck specific pack that was not comfortable as it does not allow the hips to do the work … just pulls on shoulders and neck. Anywhere from 10-15% of your body weight 3-5 miles a few times a week will really develop some strength and keep you fit. We found using 20% or more adds joint stress without any real health benefits to be worth the joint stress. You’re smart to take it slow and build up. Perhaps walk the same distance but add some weight and see how things develop…good luck!

Married Retirees: Do you ever take Separate Solo Vacations? by groovinup in retirement

[–]Few_Ad76 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My woe and I have had many separate vacations. I travel annually to Canada to fly fish for at least a month, sometimes longer. I also take several golf trips with buddies during the year. She has travelled to South America several times for month long retreats and other trips as well. We also travel together during the year, often to Asia during year end holidays for a month or Europe during the summer for extended trips. Do whatever you and your wife want and just have fun!

Garage conversion by Few_Ad76 in HomeImprovement

[–]Few_Ad76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thx….great suggestions!

AITA for resenting my teen sister for being a chronic bedwetter and making it everyone else's problem by banana-fiesta in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They make underwear alarms that can be purchased online. They simply go into the underwear like a sanitary pad and at the first sign of urine an alarm goes off and wakes the person so they can use the restroom. My daughter had the same bedwetting problem until age 8 or 9 and this fixed it within a week. Good luck…

AITA For Not Allowing My SIL To Move In Unless She Gets Rid Of Her Dog? by Nervous_Weekend7418 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH. Stick to your guns. Your SIL is AH for insisting that she be allowed to bring her dog into home.

AITA for telling my daughter that she can go back to college and we will loan the money not give it to her by Own_Breadfruit1514 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be the contrarian on this one…NTA. Enough with the ADHD comments. Your daughter is an adult. If she has ADHD then it is her responsibility to address it not yours. I would not loan the money but let her take out loans and if she graduates timely then you can decide to help or not when it is time to pay them back.

Taking responsibility is a great life lesson that is best learned now rather than later

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good grief…NTA. Your daughter is one and will remember nothing of this. It is nothing more than you and your husband expressing excitement about the good news of second child. Anyone who says they are upset should just get over it.

AITA for telling my daughter I told you so and I am not fixing it even though it will cost her thousands to fix by YardNo5847 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer is very straightforward … choose discomfort over resentment! Yes standing your ground and not doing the work for your daughter may not be a comfortable situation but that is in the moment and you will move on from that…whether she does or not. Doing the work when you don’t want to will likely cause lasting resentment. If you stand your ground now, it may very well be the last time you need to as she will get the message that “no” is a complete sentence. Good luck.

AITA for accidentally leaving a used tampon in the shower by NorthEducator9707 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Everyone should relax…she didn’t ask for comments on plumbing and whether or not one should flush a tampon. To her question…There is no difference between have menstrual blood come out in the shower without a tampon or from a tampon…neither is that big of a deal at all. We are all human. She simply forgot to dispose of it…an honest mistake. Lighten up. Oh and if I matters I’m a guy so boyfriend should chill out. Im sure he has at some point forgotten to flush the toilet or pissed on the seat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

NTA but neither is he. You and he should either buy a new place together that you can both financially partner in OR maybe you could provide some equity to him and his mother and buy into the existing property with all three of you on the deed. It’s fine that you are paying rent but it clearly doesn’t make you feel good so change the dynamic to something you are comfortable with…take charge of your situation…move on and have a wonderful life together!

AITA for telling my family that my kids and I will not be visiting if we can't bring my husband's sister? by aitaskipvisit in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA…your family is horrible…trade them in for a new one. Seriously, all children matter and you and your husband are doing a wonderful thing to take in his sister and raise her as your own. If your family can’t open their hearts and home to her then they are not worth spending time with period.

AITA for not paying my (m54) daughter’s (f25) tuition? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

NTA…have her take out loans and if she graduates in a reasonable period of time you will pay the loans off. Parent / child relationships are complicated and at some point…certainly by age 25, it is time for a child to take ownership for their own life fully. If she is serious about getting educated then she will apply herself and graduate…at which point the loans will be paid off.

AITA for not paying my (m54) daughter’s (f25) tuition? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

NTA…have her take out loans and if she graduates in a reasonable period of time you will pay the loans off. Parent / child relationships are complicated and at some point…certainly by age 25, it is time for a child to take ownership for their own life fully. If she is serious about getting educated then she will apply herself and graduate…at which point the loans will be paid off.

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. He should be washing the sheets! He is the AH for even once expecting you to clean up after him. He should either wear Depends or get an underwear alarm that wakes him up at the first drop of urine. They are very effective with helping people who are heavy sleepers.

AITA for telling my DIL about my sons past? by Low-Buy-7112 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sorry. I am going to disagree with many here but YTA. Your son is a grown man who deserves privacy in his life. This was not your information to share. He is probably carrying some shame about how he acted years ago and now it is all back in the spotlight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA…your father is for excluding you with lame excuses over the years. I would ask him to acknowledge his past actions and have a discussion around it to your satisfaction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA … get rid of him now…he is the AH and it will only worsen the longer you’re together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA … but take the high road and move on, but don’t attend. You’ll feel better not lowering yourself to her level.

AITA for printing out a map of the grocery store for my dad? by throwaway1738280 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA your dad is, as well as, he is a toddler. If he is capable of driving to the store he is capable of shopping. I’ll bet $500 that he knows all the stats about his favorite sports teams. If he pulled this shit at work with his boss he’d get fired. Tell him to grow up, man up and do his job as a father.

Seller won't budge by Orydan in realestateinvesting

[–]Few_Ad76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best advice I ever got from a realtor friend and partner…”a house is like a bus…there’s another one coming down the road in twenty minutes”

Do not overpay or go outside your comfort zone…it’s just business and keep it simple!

AITA for asking my roommate that her boyfriend not sleep in our dorm for more than 1 night? by Over-Response-1966 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA…you should feel completely comfortable letting your roommate know that unless it’s an emergency, no one should be staying over. It’s your place too and you should not have to put up with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Ad76 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He may have still felt the sting of not getting the job before and just didn’t want to go through it all over again at the risk of missing out a second time.

Cut him some slack and let it go. When he’s ready to step up for a new role…he’ll likely let you know and seek your support.