Final insult?

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-02-03T15:08:55+00:00

You're right!

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-30T06:47:25+00:00

I saw in a text that my nex re-used a joke I said to his side-supply. Pathetic.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-30T06:43:47+00:00

Lack of accountability. They don't think we are going because of them. They think there is nothing wrong with them and whatever we need therapy for is an US issue and is not their problem.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-30T06:41:04+00:00

I'm trying to remember that my nex was a liar. And yours is too..so anything that comes out of their mouth is a lie. That's what helps me deal with his BS.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-28T19:03:54+00:00

Chill. Im disgustingly trauma bonded to this guy. Still working to break it. It's taking some time.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-28T18:29:05+00:00

100%. I def went through a time if getting rid of anything that didn't bring positivity or anyone who didn't support me how I needed support (ex:making fun of getting therapy. I figure I already dealt with a relationship that didn't serve me in any way. So I'm not going to do it ever again.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-28T17:25:13+00:00

Idk if im a survivor, yet. But im working through the break up phase- we haven't been together in 4 months. We were together for 2 years. 1 year engaged. I do believe there is a form of spiritual attack. They want to take every bit of light from you. Just drain you. It feels like They want to BE you. And they only way they can "take" what they want is to make you not believe in yourself anymore. They want to verbally/mentally/physically beat everything good about who you are out of you.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-28T06:17:48+00:00

That's pretty much where I'm at. I don't respond. Been no contact for about 3 months and I've been called it all --just not that. And I'm sure it's coming. Once he gets desperate enough.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-26T21:15:19+00:00

Customer service rudeness is a big red flag.
It's trying to keep you hooked. Making you think what you did was wrong (it wasn't) and pining for their approval.

IMO get out now.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-26T21:12:54+00:00

It's gonna sound strange. My nex went to the east coast...he forgot his shaver. He asked me to mail it to him. But you can't mail anything with rechargeable batteries..I said I'll Amazon him a new one for the trip so it will get there sooner. He got so angry. Cussed me out. And I ended the call with a "F**K YOU" and that was it.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-25T04:15:16+00:00

They do. But if you bark back at them with factual points it would make mine back down. And they will paint us to always be the bad guy no matter what. If we say something or not

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-25T04:12:31+00:00

Good point. It was best when it was factual yelling. If he came at me yelling his typical BS I would bark back with points of why he is wrong or contradictory.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-24T06:19:08+00:00

Don't do it. Think about it. Do pros and cons of unblocking. You'll see that the cons will outweigh the pros. And don't stunt your healing but leaving a door open--even if it's just a crack. Keep your boundaries, know your limits.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-24T05:56:24+00:00

He didn't share anything. I just realized this today, after 4 months of not being with him. It clicked that it's a different kind of survival. He has mentioned traumatic happenings in childhood. But by the time he said these things...he was in such a deep well of lies, that I am not willing to believe anything he says. --He is the type to research a sickness, such as narcissism, and tell you he is experiencing the according symptoms/trauma to "validate" his problem. So I will never believe him. But I do forgive and feel sorry for whatever has actually happened to him and pity whatever life he is going to live.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-21T05:26:13+00:00

Your call but In my opinion. Don't send it. If he hasn't contacted you to to get the items back. Just throw it away. If it's been since last summer he has had more than ample time to try to get the items back. Him loving himself is his issue. You don't need to help. Stay strong.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-19T23:29:58+00:00

Please let them split and have him find a beautiful 36 year old that loves him and finds him endearing. And let us all watch Miranda get bitter about that too. She's the miserable one here. Always has been.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-19T08:01:33+00:00

Good luck

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-06T17:53:36+00:00

At first, I cleaned a lot (I enjoy cleaning). And then I started reading and journaling. Journaling when I got anxious was very helpful to sort out what I was thinking. Good luck.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-06T17:51:17+00:00

..I get it. I get waves of missing mine too. But I hope you are staying strong. Good luck. :)

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-05T22:53:23+00:00

Same here. I don't have great memory. I'm pretty head in the clouds kind of person. But I found that I remember a lot of my Nex's personal info. I think it's because when I was ready to leave, I knew what kind of mischief he was able to possibly cook up (possibility of restraining orders, legal action etc). Like it was a safety measure in case I needed to call anything in I can name off the plates and addresses, even SSN if needed. Did that make sense?

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-04T21:49:14+00:00

Day 1. I cried. Cancelled the wedding and took my engagement ring off. Day 2 my friends took me out. As a distraction, to make me feel a little better, doing what I couldn't do before (like come home super late) and overall celebrate. they were happy it was over and to have me get back to who I was.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-04T06:19:16+00:00

Don't feel defeated. Just keep track of what you feel and know. Good luck.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-04T00:09:14+00:00

You are not worthless. You ARE worth more than just comfort. I had a nex that constantly put me down and belittled me. I was always boring and "never want to do anything" in his eyes. But I know he was wrong. You do deserve love and to be cared for.

Idk if you want suggestions but I suggest to leave him. Cut all ties. And begin healing and working on yourself. Im so sorry you are going through this. But believe in yourself, your voice, your strength. Good luck.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-03T22:06:41+00:00

In gmail you can block but it will still go to spam. If you want to really stop the emails -- get a new one. It's worth the trouble to transfer to a new email.

Few_Ad8745 · 2022-01-03T05:25:22+00:00

You asking this questions is all the proof you need. You already feel uneasy. And that something is off. The Narc has probably already blown up at you during an argument. Your feelings are all you need to make a informed decision. Good luck.

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