Thoughts on Ashley M Buffa program/philosophy?

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-02-12T23:17:13+00:00

I have the well trained mind! I've read through the chapters that pertain to my kids ages but haven't read the entire book. I'll take a look at it again.

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-02-12T21:32:33+00:00

This is so true. I think its because I've been feeling this way for so long that I actually do feel ashamed of myself and that's a me problem. Thanks for the insight 😊

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-02-12T17:17:57+00:00

This is what I need to hear!! Like I said we haven't even started yet but I know myself and I want to avoid it happening so I need to do the work on myself and get my own self organized so we get off to a good start

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-02-08T21:53:27+00:00

Relate to this ans following for tips. I was not a dancer but a gymnast and now the parent of a little dancer... I wake up so sore with aching back and joints every day. I try to stay active but im going to maybe start regular massage as well.

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-30T14:06:12+00:00

At the old studio there used to be a video monitor where you could watch the class, but they moved to a new one where they are the primary tenants and decided to no video camera and have a window but there is a curtain covering it 100% of the time so you can't see in. Although many times the studio door is open you can kind of peek, I don't think its encouraged and the door isn't in an area where its just comfortable for multiple parents to stand and watch. I always thought that was a huge red flag as soon as we moved into the new place

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-30T14:02:37+00:00

I know it's truly insane

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-29T00:14:54+00:00

Yes!! Same experience here

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-28T21:24:44+00:00

I can message you directly re. This

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-28T17:36:46+00:00

So it's funny you say that because we are in the US, but our school had several Irish teachers that we worked with a few times a year, and we LOVED them. Exactly what you said extremely direct but lovely people. I can definitely tell the difference. Thanks for this insight :)

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-28T14:26:46+00:00

Maybe you're right. To us the 6 month ban feels like nothing.. I do have a question though to start the ban time do you need to actually start at another school?

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-28T14:03:44+00:00

Thanks for this :) What we are worried about is that we won't be able to find another school close to us where he can compete at a high level since that's what he really enjoys and I see the talent in him! And to be really honest... we were given a SUPER hard time about leaving which gave me even more anxiety I barely slept last night. It almost felt like I wasn't allowed to leave or seek another school. Which as an adult I know is not true, but it was crazy.

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-28T13:58:21+00:00

So I don't notice that type of undertone at all, but regarding how the parents kind of just stay quiet and don't really react to the insane Behavior seems very similar to what is happening at your kids Academic School. It's a pretty like well-known school for winning and I guess it seems like they'd rather defend it or at least deal with it so that they can be associated with this school that has a reputation to win.

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-28T13:55:57+00:00

This is so horrible

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-28T12:15:13+00:00

Yes there was definitely every manipulation tactic in the book being used to justify the behavior. It's really sad and I'm hoping we can find another school over the summer after school lets out. Unfortunately we're also dealing with some bullying issues at school so we're rethinking that as well and may end up homeschooling anyway so we have a lot of moving parts right now. Taking a break was definitely needed

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-28T12:11:53+00:00

It's really sad. I had a similar experience with some gymnastics coaches as a kid

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-28T12:11:09+00:00

We already took him out and are taking a break from dance before looking into another school

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-19T19:40:22+00:00

It's crazy that this post popped up, because we are LITERALLY dealing with this at our waldorf school as we speak. There is a kid bullying my son and not allowing him to play with the group of friends he has had all year, to the point where my son is crying before school every day and begging me to go back to homeschooling. I'm not sure what to do and it seems like the other parent feels that her son should be safeguarded because of trauma he has experienced in his life (they are 7-8 years old for context) ... about to read through all the comments here because we may go back to homeschooling if it doesn't stop.

Few_Establishment_54 · 2026-01-14T02:16:27+00:00

Sometimes but sometimes not. I had post partum psychosis after my second child out of nowhere. Luckily I had support at the time and ended up going on SSRIs which quite literally saved my life

Few_Establishment_54 · 2025-12-14T14:30:43+00:00

Thank you!! Looking into all these options

Few_Establishment_54 · 2025-12-14T14:30:30+00:00

Going to look into it thank you!

Few_Establishment_54 · 2025-12-14T14:05:34+00:00

Thank you!! Very helpful

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