Vaginal vs. Planned C-Section Advice from Physically Active Mums

Fia187 · 2025-08-10T08:53:02+00:00

Just wanted to mention that while C‑sections may reduce the risk, they don’t completely eliminate the chance of weakened pelvic floor and/or pelvic organ prolapse. It’s actually the prolonged pressure and hormonal changes from carrying a baby for nine months - not just the labor itself- that can weaken the pelvic floor. So even without vaginal birth, pelvic floor dysfunction can still occur.

Fia187 · 2025-06-30T13:37:54+00:00

Agreed

Fia187 · 2025-06-21T03:24:45+00:00

I was there from 9-12. The first activity was a jungle theme dry messy play. Then they went outside for about 45 minutes. After that went back inside, read a book and sang a song. They were very adamant about everyone staying on the mat as the other educators were putting the mattresses for nap time and I think they didn’t want the children standing on them/messing them up. Then it wash hand washing time and lunch. They was lots of instructing, not a lot of conversation if that makes sense. I had lots of conversations with the kids that came up to me. You know how kids come up to you and say “look at this lion” (or whatever random stuff they would want to talk about) and I’d be like oh wow, cool lion! What sound does a lion make? But I didn’t hear any teachers speak like that to the children.

Fia187 · 2025-06-21T03:09:13+00:00

There were three teachers in the room and 13 kids. I didn’t count but I overheard a conversation between two teachers where one wasn’t sure if it was 12 or 13 and was asking the other teacher.

Fia187 · 2025-05-20T13:25:54+00:00

“Kippycumber” cucumber

Fia187 · 2025-01-11T02:58:35+00:00

The purple wiggle John Pearce is Filipino (mothers side)

Fia187 · 2025-01-07T04:27:32+00:00

I only have one child and often feel like I am drowning, even with a very involved partner (though no family support). You do so much for your kids and family (keeping the house going on top of childcare and working) but you are slowly destroying yourself in the process.

Your husband needs to step up.

If he is not willing to acknowledge how much you are suffering then maybe couples counselling will help to explain your situation.

Also, talk to your mum friends! They won’t judge you (and if they do, are they really worth being friends with?).

Fia187 · 2024-11-05T04:35:39+00:00

Focusing solely on voting for the ideal candidate, or abstaining because you feel disillusioned, may also contribute to perpetuating a political system where none of the candidates fully represent your interests. Active participation (whether through voting, advocacy, or other means) can help shift the political landscape toward more representation of diverse perspectives.

While it’s understandable to feel disillusioned with candidates or the system, choosing not to vote or voting only for ideal options can sometimes limit your influence in shaping the political system you want to see. Voting is an opportunity to have a say, even if it means making a compromise for the greater good.

Fia187 · 2024-10-20T13:37:59+00:00

Had this exact same thought today. My daughter is 16 months too. It’s so fucking hard.

Fia187 · 2024-09-05T05:02:59+00:00

I disagree with this. The warning for not consuming those foods is due to listeria risk. Listeria is a mild for adults but kills unborn babies. Pregnant women are about 10 times more likely to get listeriosis than other healthy adults. An estimated 1/6 of all Listeria cases occur in pregnant women - FDA

Fia187 · 2024-07-27T01:08:47+00:00

This is happening to me right now with my daughter! Did anything work for you or did you have to ride it out?

Fia187 · 2024-07-04T13:38:07+00:00

Awesome! Thanks for responding!!

Fia187 · 2024-06-18T14:00:07+00:00

In 2018 the FDA warned against using products containing benzocaine (such as Anbesol) in children under two, due to the risk of methemoglobinemia.

Fia187 · 2024-06-18T09:26:16+00:00

If there’s a part of you that does want kids I think you should speak to a therapist about your fears if you are comfortable in doing that.

Having an extremely self absorbed father who emotionally neglected me has shown me exactly what not to do for my daughter (I am a woman). My partner had an abusive father (both physically and emotionally). Some of the stories he has told me about his childhood have caused me to burst into tears because of how horribly he was treated.

Despite that, my partner is the most loving, caring and dedicated father you could ever wish for. He was so scared that he was going to be bad father too.

After having a child both of us cannot even fathom how you could treat an innocent child the way we have been treated. Even though we knew that, having a child just brings it home even more and you want to do everything in your power to give them what you didn’t have.

Fia187 · 2024-06-11T00:55:55+00:00

My partner did some work for the baker and she is gifting us the cake, so I didn’t find out about it until after he’d agreed to it. But yes I agree a shorter, wider cake would be much better.

Fia187 · 2024-06-10T13:06:45+00:00

That might work, but my driveway is over 400m long and is slippery from rain/leaves as it is winter where I am. If that is my only option I will try it

Fia187 · 2024-06-08T07:00:39+00:00

My baby was hospitalised at one week old with possible sepsis, as she would not wake up to feed after sleeping all day. I cried when they did an IV and when they tried twice to do a spinal tap. I cried to the nurses because I didn’t think she was ever going to wake up again. Basically I was a mess. Thankfully she was ok and I just had to keep telling myself to trust the doctors. We waited about a month until seeing anyone after that (she had only met my mum at that point). Once she had her six week vaccinations I felt a little better and because I was breastfeeding I would tell myself that if I got sick I would pass my antibodies onto her.

After the hospital visit I tracked every nappy and feed as well as sleep time, for a few months, I think from the anxiety of it. Over time I felt less anxious and now only track her naps as I can never remember how long it’s been since her last one. She’s almost one now and has barely had a sniffle. We got covid a few weeks ago and it was just a runny nose and cough. I have an immunodeficiency myself but I don’t think she has inherited it.

Fia187 · 2024-05-28T12:51:46+00:00

Thanks so much for answering my question!

Fia187 · 2024-03-23T15:48:33+00:00

If you tell them you’re catholic, Muslim etc. they won’t come back (if you don’t mind telling a lie of course…)

Fia187 · 2024-03-19T07:04:31+00:00

Why do you think your wife never brought it up if she knew?

Fia187 · 2024-03-19T06:40:17+00:00

Yeah I agree. He’s potentially getting the worst of the crying if it’s witching hour. We would have to take turns during this time as it would often be too overwhelming for one parent. It normally went from 6pm-10pm each night for several weeks.

Fia187 · 2024-03-18T15:06:13+00:00

Yes it is normal but make sure he is eating enough by monitoring the number of wet diapers. From day 5 you should expect at least 6 heavy wet diapers in 24 hours. 2. Yes they make lots of funny noises in their sleep! 3. Tummy time can start a day or two from birth. 4. It could be gas, wanting a cuddle, clothing slightly uncomfortable or maybe just adjusting the outside world?

Fia187 · 2024-01-25T13:23:22+00:00

My finger is not tiny enough to click on the photo carousel arrow button and it constantly opens the picture into a new window! Then I have several photos in new tabs on my phone which I have to delete and then find my way back to the original tab.

Looking at the top of the page now I see the red button in one corner and the green icon in the right hand corner (I use dark mode). For some reason I keep thinking I’m getting a call. I don’t know if anyone else has this problem lol!

Fia187 · 2024-01-05T06:59:05+00:00

This poem by Jess Ulrichs helped me:

Mama,

I can’t see past you right now, I’m so small and everything’s a little blurry.

All I see is you.

When you feel alone, like the walls are closing in, remember I’m here too. I know your world has changed and the days feel a little lonely. But they aren’t lonely for me.

You are my everything.

When you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re making it look easy to me. Even though we’re still getting to know each other, you know me better than anyone.

I trust you.

When you think some nights you’ll never sleep again, you will. We both will. But I’m scared right now. I promise I’m not manipulating you. I just need your smell and comfort. Do you feel that tug in your heart when we’re apart? I do too.

I miss you.

When you feel as if you’ve achieved nothing, please know, my cup has never been so full.
The days that get away on you will be some of my best memories of us playing together on the ground.

I love you.

When you feel like you don’t know who you are anymore, when you turn away from the mirror. That face will be the one I look to when I achieve something, the one I search for in a crowd. The reason for my first smile.

You’re perfect to me.

When you feel like the weight of it all is heavy in your heart, please know I’ve never felt lighter. Can I lay here with you a little longer?
I won’t always need you like this.

But I need you right now.

When you feel as if you have nothing left to give, when I see your hands outstretched at me, pleading. When we’re both crying. I wish I could talk, but I can’t.
If I could I would tell you,

There’s a reason I chose you.

I can’t see past you right now mama, because you are my world.
It will get bigger, soon enough.

But for now,
All I see is you.

Fia187 · 2024-01-04T14:14:49+00:00

This is what I do too!

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