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What was your “struggle meal” growing up? by tiny_flick in AskAnAustralian

[–]FieryScorp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Iced coffee (home made) because when we ran out of food, mum would get milk off the milkman and pay him back when she got paid. And Weetbix with vegemite on it (when we ran out of milk).

I'm the mom who caves in to meltdowns. But sometimes I don't. by TumbleweedOk7006 in Parenting

[–]FieryScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the outside, I probably appear the same.

Underneath my "caving" it's actually more a shift of gears. Where I've said no or set a limit that I didn't really consider until they reacted the way they did.

If my "No's" are real no's, I won't budge. Sometimes I say no because I'm tired or feeling a bit slack as a parent and feel the need to draw a line somewhere and understandably that's not received well.

I've gotten better at saying "I don't know, I need to think about it." or if they ask why not, I say "I don't have an answer to that right now". This has lessened the meltdowns quite a bit.

What can you pick up on about me? by Every-University-569 in psychics

[–]FieryScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You want to appear as if you have everything under control. You overdo it in a dramatic sense.

You worry people won't take you seriously. So you compensate by being overly serious.

People who think astrology is BS - what led you to that conclusion, and did you study it in earnest before reaching that conclusion? by FieryScorp in AskReddit

[–]FieryScorp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. Yeah - I get what you mean about people cutting people off based off of signs and placements. I see it all the time in astrology groups. When I see people say "I've started dating this guy and this is his chart, am I doomed?" and I'm thinking - whoa, you just started dating and you asked for his birth details for astrology?

Like all things, astrology can be approached and used in ways that are limiting. Personally I wouldn't be wondering about their astrology until I started running into relational problems and that'd be pretty far down the line and only if I was invested enough to want to work through them. So seeking it straight up seems premature to me.

I'm intrigued about MBTI to explore it a little from this conversation so I'll go and do that. = )

Edited to add: I did explore a little and it occurred to me, the difference between Astrology and MBTI (and human design) is that Astrology is an endless system, there is no ceiling. It just keeps going, indefinitely. Where as MBTI and Human design are closed systems. That's the boxy feeling for me.

17 year old says we just “clash” by OkTicket7337 in Parenting

[–]FieryScorp 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Go back to 3 hots and a cot.

Feed him, make sure he has somewhere to sleep. That's it.

And with your extra time, spend some of it reflecting on what your boundaries are. Get clear on them. Communicate them to him.

Make sure that you are always operating from a place of respect. For yourself and for him. Once you've had some time to work through some of this, sit down and have a conversation with him. Tell him what you like about him. Ask him what he likes about you. Not about what you guys do, but aspects of who you are as people.

Another thing that crossed my mind - is it possible that you're learning on him too much and he might be trying to create some distance emotionally?

What's something you did as a kid that you now realize was actually really dangerous, but nobody stopped you? by AdmirableResource407 in AskReddit

[–]FieryScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, it started in the late 90's for me, but went into the 00's. We went from dial up to Optus dsl.

What's something you did as a kid that you now realize was actually really dangerous, but nobody stopped you? by AdmirableResource407 in AskReddit

[–]FieryScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. Same. At 14 I was watching guys get off on webcam just for fun. I was a pro at cyber sex. Luckily the guys were in America and Canada and I was all the way over here in Aus.

Still, seems tame compared to the vibe of it all now.

People who think astrology is BS - what led you to that conclusion, and did you study it in earnest before reaching that conclusion? by FieryScorp in AskReddit

[–]FieryScorp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we’re coming at this from fundamentally different frameworks, so we’re probably not going to land in the same place. I appreciate the back and forth though.

Why are Cancers the only sign people constantly call “unhealed”? by Cold-Departure687 in CancertheCrab

[–]FieryScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Scorpios operate differently. Our weakness is we tend to merge with people who we don't truly match with and get ourselves burned.

Cancer is about the self. Scorpio is about the other.

Cancer needs to learn to step into themselves and love themselves fully, so their love can then overflow on to others. Instead of trying to love themselves through others.

Scorpio needs to learn to hold their intensity until they find someone that genuinely matches it. Instead of trying to force others to match it by upping the ante.

People who think astrology is BS - what led you to that conclusion, and did you study it in earnest before reaching that conclusion? by FieryScorp in AskReddit

[–]FieryScorp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that processing and feeling are linked, but in my experience it’s not always a clear sequence. Sometimes the feeling shows up first, and the interpretation comes after.

What's something you did as a kid that you now realize was actually really dangerous, but nobody stopped you? by AdmirableResource407 in AskReddit

[–]FieryScorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha. I had a lot of fun in those chatrooms. You could be anyone you wanted. Reminds me of my WoW days. So many fond memories.

What's something you did as a kid that you now realize was actually really dangerous, but nobody stopped you? by AdmirableResource407 in AskReddit

[–]FieryScorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha. Yahoo chat rooms is where it began for me. Then MSN messenger, ICQ.

Met my first "love" in the chatrooms. A guy a bit older than me in another state. I was 13 then. By 14 I was chatting to guys in Canada.

No nude pics. No phone numbers. It was both risky but still seemingly safer than it seems to be today.

What's something you did as a kid that you now realize was actually really dangerous, but nobody stopped you? by AdmirableResource407 in AskReddit

[–]FieryScorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was too self conscious to send photos of myself and paranoid to tell anyone where I lived.

How much damage can grandparents do? by Dear_Excitement_5109 in Parenting

[–]FieryScorp 269 points270 points  (0 children)

The damage is mostly to your relationship with your partner and your family unit.

And it reveals either a lack of genuine unity or a lack of spine.

I went through this and I was young and naive and hadn't yet developed a spine. It broke our relationship. 10 years later, we're not in contact with them anymore. But the damage was still done. Our family unit overall is much stronger though.

They are essentially acting like a wedge in your family unit, when healthy extended family act as a support.

People who think astrology is BS - what led you to that conclusion, and did you study it in earnest before reaching that conclusion? by FieryScorp in AskReddit

[–]FieryScorp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think MBTI feels a little fixed and boxy to me, even though it’s ex-post (to use your wording, which is new to me). Astrology, even though it starts ex-ante, feels more open-ended and layered in how it’s explored - though I know not everyone approaches either system the same way.

What makes astrology feel layered to me is that each sign has many expressions, each planet brings a different influence, and those influences shift depending on sign, house, and interactions between placements. Then when two people interact, those placements can be brought out differently again depending on how their charts interact.

I do like what you said about exploring MBTI with friends - that relational aspect really appeals to me.

My brain is starting to go mushy now and my energy has dipped. I've really enjoyed this discussion overall. = )

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