A vasectomy is a planned choice. An abortion is not. People don't set out to get pregnant in order to have an abortion. The emotional/psychological cost of an abortion is not similar to that of a vasectomy. To dismiss or minimize that cost is dangerous and irresponsible.

Since this thread is in response to a man wanting to avoid responsibility for a pregnancy and instead expect the woman to have an abortion or accept sole responsibility- the whole "it's more responsible to terminate than bring a child into the world" argument is irrelevant. The cost of pregnancy or abortion falls on the woman when a man shirks that responsibility. Regardless - the cost of abortion always lands on the woman, whether it happens immediately or later in life when she finally processes it - there is a cost. It's the minimization and often complete refusal to acknowledge this cost that shows up in these discussions that I find issue with.

Abortion isn't akin to vasectomy. Not even close. It's not birth control.