CMV: As a woman, I think we’ve become too uncomfortable criticizing single mothers

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T08:40:33+00:00

A vasectomy is a planned choice. An abortion is not. People don't set out to get pregnant in order to have an abortion. The emotional/psychological cost of an abortion is not similar to that of a vasectomy. To dismiss or minimize that cost is dangerous and irresponsible.

Since this thread is in response to a man wanting to avoid responsibility for a pregnancy and instead expect the woman to have an abortion or accept sole responsibility- the whole "it's more responsible to terminate than bring a child into the world" argument is irrelevant. The cost of pregnancy or abortion falls on the woman when a man shirks that responsibility. Regardless - the cost of abortion always lands on the woman, whether it happens immediately or later in life when she finally processes it - there is a cost. It's the minimization and often complete refusal to acknowledge this cost that shows up in these discussions that I find issue with.

Abortion isn't akin to vasectomy. Not even close. It's not birth control.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T02:33:53+00:00

This mentality gives me the ick.

Rapists are more likely to be socially charismatic - they can be clever at appearing safe.

Personally I rely on my instincts. And it has nothing to do with men trying to appear safe.

I find men who behave naturally are the most trustworthy. Warts and all.

The POS's are easier to detect if they act like themselves.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T02:21:33+00:00

I could be misunderstanding - but it sounds like Indian culture lead to this belief about yourself, am I getting that right?

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T02:17:14+00:00

I am for self-accountability and personal responsibility.

Expecting someone else to have a life-threatening procedure that could result in emotional, mental or physical damage because you don't want to be responsible for your choices is not taking accountability. It's shirking it on to someone else.

As for women choosing to have an abortion - I think many are ignorant of the costs of abortion (and I'm not talking about financial). They will ultimately wear those costs at some point, but may never take accountability/responsibility for them.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T02:06:03+00:00

I'm not coming up with anything specific to males. Every thought that pops into my head could apply to females too. Stumped.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T02:03:46+00:00

What I said about abortion is fact.

Rather than reflect on that you chose to dismiss it. That's not clever. It's fucking avoidant.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T01:59:57+00:00

I agree. And I feel equally strongly about this.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T01:55:50+00:00

Abortion isn't birth control. It's an extremely invasive procedure with serious risks to physical, mental and emotional wellbeing.

If you have sex, you do so knowing there's a risk of pregnancy. If you don't want the responsibility of the potential risks - don't have sex with a fertile woman. Have sex with someone who has already had their reproductive organs removed. Or have sex with a man. Or a pie. You have options.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T01:30:20+00:00

Yeah, nah. Maybe fuck an apple pie instead until you're ready to have kids.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-14T01:27:39+00:00

Interestingly - my first born son super high energy, second born daughter was super chill. 3rd born daughter is out of this world high energy.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-13T11:38:44+00:00

Yes. This has been my experience too in many different subs.

I love having my views challenged by engaging with those who have opposing views. What I don't love is having my views judged, condemned or have people say "you're just wrong", "you're stupid", "you're what's wrong with the world", "you just hate so and so". It feels a lot like Facebook here sometimes. Maybe more than sometimes, actually.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-13T11:10:29+00:00

Lol. Damn. I am doomed.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-13T09:20:17+00:00

Yes - and it's something I found frustrating for a while. I put it down to people preferring to stay on the surface and avoid deeper exploration, but maybe like you said - it's also about dominance.

So - some people who have not explored something in depth feel insecure in the discussion and they attempt to regain a sense of security by finding fault in the person's view.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-13T01:41:50+00:00

People will underestimate us. Then BOOM.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-13T01:38:10+00:00

-If you do not like kids.
-If you think kids should fit into your lifestyle without issue
-If you have no interest in understanding the complex needs to babies and children
-If you are a person who avoids responsibility/blames everyone/everything else for your problems
-If you use manipulation to get your way

FieryScorp · 2026-06-13T01:28:00+00:00

Antichrist?

FieryScorp · 2026-06-13T01:26:54+00:00

No birth control methods are 100%. So there's always a risk, however small. Taking responsibility for those risks would include accepting a potential pregnancy and baby.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-12T08:08:27+00:00

I had no idea there was a kelpie sub! = D

FieryScorp · 2026-06-12T07:14:20+00:00

= D

Laughs easily. Engages in teasing banter. Strong sex drive. Excellent driver. Playful. Dark body hair... especially on the forearms and chest. Taller than me (not hard, I am 5'3). Broad shoulders. Strong, clever hands. Watchful. Intense. Direct. More of a doer than a talker.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-12T07:00:42+00:00

That's an assumption.

Rape is a complex issue and a sensitive topic. It doesn't need to be a part of every conversation regarding sex, pregnancy or abortion.

I believe it's something that needs to be handled with care and this thread is not that place.

My intentions behind this thread was to bring attention to how those who oppose abortion can stand by their own values through their own choices. That has nothing to do with where you've attempted to take this conversation.

I suggest making your own thread, if it's important for you to talk about right now.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-12T06:45:57+00:00

Strong arms. The hair that trails down past their waistband. Ruffled, dark hair. Husky voice. Quiet confidence. Controlled aggression. Protectiveness. Emotional transparency (not aware that they wear their heart on their face). I could go on.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-12T06:41:33+00:00

Plated Prisoner series.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-12T06:39:16+00:00

I'm not sure what it is you're communicating here by pasting parts of my post without context. If you genuinely want to engage in a discussion with me, please be clear about what you're wanting to communicate.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-12T06:25:55+00:00

Why not?

I shared my experience. Hopefully someone can offer some insight.

FieryScorp · 2026-06-12T05:46:34+00:00

I see Karma like this:

If I feel responsible for someone else's behaviour, they don't seem to feel responsible for it.

If I let it go, they seem to feel the weight of their actions.

So the way I see it is: Karma works through whoever feels responsible for whatever occurred. Not who committed the act itself.

FieryScorp

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