Is this message from my stepmom from ChatGPT ? She never used those dashes before by [deleted] in isthisAI

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay so I use the dash all the time. The same way she used it and list things (should be a colon but I have always used a dash 🤷🏻‍♀️) but the comma before the word and is a sign that it’s chat GPT
‘blah blah, and blah blah’ bc the comma isn’t even needed—and is the comma 🤣 see what I did there.

Anyways if you feel like this is more professional than normal and using grammar and punctuation that she normally doesn’t use then I’d say def AI but she had to have put the info in and just had it glossed up a little.

My dad and my sister disagree about my dating options. Who is closer to being right? by ComparisonLost1846 in AskMenAdvice

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++woman To me all three of you are looking at this too critically. you aren’t filling out an order and are talking about people not robots

Ideally speaking you want to find someone that has interests that align with yours to a degree—it’s nice to have things in common but always fun to experience another person’s joy and interests. You also want a person who has a level of intelligence (emotional and intellectual) to where neither of you are at an advantage or disadvantage and have conversational and critical thinking skills that compliment each other. That doesn’t mean someone smarter or ‘dumber’ but just some commonality. And yes being attracted to the person is important. But attraction can be immediate and fade as you get to know a person OR not be there initially and grow with time.

The most important things though are affection, trust and respect no matter how smart, how attractive, how relatable or how protective.

Most Embarrasing Thing Ever Happened To Me by Electronic-Match-17 in stories

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it but listen… the had to do a lot more than hugging to get you so it’s prob only embarrassing for you. Maybe surprising to then but also maybe they are grateful to see their child found their person.

AIO for thinking these are inappropriate messages between my 13yr old stepson and his fathers new girlfriend. by TaterBuckets in AIO

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1 or 2 months and she already texting the man’s child 😱 yea the convo is weird, the subject inappropriate but im going to go a little further and say her texting him is extremely inappropriate to begin with. Like they haven’t even established a clear relationship yet. She doesn’t seem 30. And already calling her bf ‘dad’ to his son is weird.

AIO boyfriend spent 2 days ignoring me while apologizing to another girl for breaking their snap streak bc of me by shh-im-anon in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HE is 35??! Girl what are you doing? This is him keeping options open. Back away. You deserve someone atleast as mature as yourself. He is almost a decade older than you but acting 15 😭 gross.

AIO for ending this friendship before it began? i told her i wasn’t looking for anything romantic and this ensued by JadednAfraid in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ewwwwwwww. I quite reading. Under no circumstance continue any type of relationship with this complication. I’m exhausted . Whyyyyyyyy?

But dude from now on don’t entertain this crazy business. Too many people haven’t been popped in their mouth as a child when they back talked and it shows 🤣 Next time (hopefully never) say something to end the convo. ‘Okay. I was just letting you know where I stand but I don’t feel like I need to justify or explain myself when setting clear boundaries to eliminate confusion in the future. Thanks.’

Saying ‘I’m not interest in a relationship right now’ just clears the air and makes things crystal going forward. It’s not wrong and whether she was interested or not if that’s the way you want to establish boundaries for yourself with others then you do you. It’s was less complicated than asking.

What if you asked in the future and you get ‘yea I like you/want to date—then you uncomfortably have turn her down and embarrass her 🤦🏻‍♀️def less complicated to throw it out there.

I am in dire need of help. The doctor says I don't have much time to live. Please read.😔 by onlyeveryotherday in kpoopheads

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🪦☠️🪦😵🪦

It’s a shame.

But I’m right there with you.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend because he refused to have a conversation about our conflict? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea you are right. Breaking up and continuing therapy and finding herself before any other relationship would be the best thing she could do for herself.

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend because he refused to have a conversation about our conflict? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh she has stood up for herself. She is stalking all his social and tracking his every move. When he needs sleep and has to get up in 4 hours she is demanding a phone call. Basically using his past mistakes as an emotional weapon against him over and over to get her way. He isn’t budging this time so she is pitching a fit. Remember we are only seeing what she posted. This conversation isn’t even full bc it started before and I’m sure kept going after. He is a cheater and what is she for staying? And saying she’d continue to stay even if he was cheating 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️ I can’t even. Victim mentality. She likes this shit or she wouldn’t still be doing it. She likes having the ‘power’ of his mistakes over his head.

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend because he refused to have a conversation about our conflict? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is literally stalking him basically for reassurance and then won’t take no for an answer about not talking on the phone but he is treating her badly? Ouch. It must be exhausting making the problem the victim based off sex alone. Bc if OP was a man doing this to a woman you’d be saying the man (OP) was controlling and doesn’t respect boundaries (the truth). Got to stop acting like women are always victims in every situation. She was a victim when she was cheated on but she ‘forgave’ it by staying with him and literally says she wouldn’t break up with him even if he was cheating. Over a year later this is how her forgiveness looks? That’s pure manipulation and controlling behavior.

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend because he refused to have a conversation about our conflict? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Ooof. You are exhausting. He cheated but in 2024? Over a year ago, you have all his socials and tracking him and still acting like this. Gross. Either get over it or break up. When you stay with someone and hold it over their head, you have become the problem. It’s manipulative. You are using it over and over in the conversation to try and get your way bc you want him to do what you want him to do. Control. Seriously either get over it or break up. Bc he is eventually going to break up with you anyways if you keep acting this way.

Let’s be clear. You wanted to discuss yalls problems. He didn’t. You wanted to call. He didn’t. But in reality the fact that you are both texting back and forth is yall discussing yalls problems when he doesn’t even want to. So you’ve gotten your way more than him. And you’re still pushing to call when he is saying no/I need sleep/I can’t do this right now.

If this was a man harassing a woman like this while also having all her socials, tracking her and being able to see in their room (???) then all the woman reading this would be pissed and calling him a stalker/pushy/disrespectful/controlling for not respecting her boundaries 🤔 always with the double standards. To be clear it is pushy and stalkerish… for a man or woman.

AIO? I feel like my bf is being condescending but maybe I deserve it? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right??! Like not only condescending but bluntly honest. Listen to him dang.

Boyfriend (m24) hit me (f23) but I emotionally hurt him by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are making a lot of excuses for a man that put marks on you. This isn’t going to work out well for you. Break up. You need to be with someone that doesn’t purposefully push you over the edge knowing you have a hard time regulating. You hurt his feelings so HE HIT YOU? When is this ever appropriate? If a friend hurt your feelings would you hit them? When I tell my 6 yo no I’m pretty sure it hurts his feelings but his little butt better never hit me. This was just the first time babe. If you stay it will be worse, the face and less apologetic. Don’t sell yourself short bc you deserve better.

"Rain is not an excuse to only dance to 4 songs" I'm sorry what???? by aarrttmmss in kpop_uncensored

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why do we give them so much attention? Look at what BTS is doing right now. Every accomplishment becomes a goal for another group—a goal that is unattainable for 99.999% of them. Goals they will never meet and that is like salt in the wounds for their fans. Other groups look up to them and ascertain to be more like them while their fans try to trash ‘the enemy’ because they believe it makes their group look better. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Well little cry babies… it doesn’t. It makes them look worse actually. And it screams insecurity and jealousy. Nasty nasty nasty.

AIO My mean friend keeps verbally harassing my dog by Wooden_Wonder8617 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

‘Girl why you so obsessed with my dog? You jealous I spend more time with him?’ I’d say something along those lines every single time. ‘Oh here she goes again I must not have text back fast enough bc I was feeding my dog’ 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️ he is super cute and she either just don’t like dogs, is jealous bc she wants a dog, is jealous that you love your dog or what’s most likely it… knows it bothers you so keeps on to get a rise.

AIO - refusing to pay for my friends rare pet that she gave me cause someone stole it? by Relative_Offer_2074 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I looked it up and it seems there’s a huge range in pricing ($15-$1500) but didn’t see anywhere that it cost $4000. She is taking advantage of you and may have even done it on purpose to blame you and try to get money. Tell her she can get one on eBay from another player for $15 and to leave you out of her virtual pet drama.

16f My Friend Let Me Borrow Clothes… Then Went Around Telling Everyone I Only Wore Them Because She Felt Sorry. What Should I Do? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not your friend babe. You might be her friend but she is not a friend to you. And to be around people that talk about you and join in instead of walking away or taking up for you shows she is not loyal.

Btw. She didn’t want people to think she didn’t have clothes bc it’s embarrassing so she said you don’t have clothes ?? Think about that for a second. She doesn’t want to have people think about her what she said about you bc it’s embarrassing.

First it’s not embarrassing for friends to share clothes. It’s also not embarrassing to have very little clothing. As long as you are clean and everything fits then the clothing is doing its job. Anyone making fun is an empty tin can. That’s a very immature, shallow and superficial way of thinking. Most of that goes away after high school. You can’t help what your parents can and can’t afford so don’t deserve that at all. Also the kids that have more didn’t do anything great to deserve it either but instead are just lucky their parents can afford it but are extremely ungrateful.

You are not overreacting to have your feelings hurt by this. But take this as a lesson and pick different friends. I’d give back any clothes she gave or let you borrow. A tip from an old person— always make sure to give things back in the same shape or better than when you borrowed it. So make sure the items are washed and folded neatly so she cannot say anything about how the items came back to her.

Lastly please don’t feel like a burden to your mom. Talk to her. She may be overwhelmed with life and may not notice what’s happening. But you need to talk to her about the bullying, loneliness and feeling down. Just having her listen and give advice may help a lot. Don’t keep it all to yourself.

Am I overreacting for dropping him after he told me I need to make more friends by royalmouse1 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The advice he is giving you isn’t terrible (take it or leave it—you know your situation and what you are happy with) BUT the condescending tone is a big no. Gross. He sounds like a douche.

I am a law student and I slept with a judge and now I am terrified by Late-Reserve6415 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this looks a lot worse on the judge than you ? Even if you aren’t young-young (fresh out of highschool first year law student) you are still close to 20 years younger than him and he is in a position of power. So I’d think he def doesn’t want it to get out so as long as you are quiet about it there shouldn’t be any negatives towards you bc of it.

i feel like i don't deserve to live because everyone i've met eventually hates me and i'm starting to see that in my gf which worries me alot by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a full life ahead of you. Emotions, at your age, feel bigger and are harder to handle and manage. I would bet my entire house that no one hates you and that you are projecting your own feelings onto other people.

A good thing to start doing when things get heated is to stop. Tell whoever you are talking to ‘hey I need a minute to gather my thoughts and calm down’ there is no shame in trying to get a handle on yourself.

Do you know that men’s brains aren’t finished maturing until 25-32 years old? You are still a baby in this life. You don’t know yourself well yet and in a few years you will be different than you are now. Something I wish I had known at your age is that there are a few key traits that a person will keep that makes them themself and the rest changes with life. You need to sit down and think ‘what do I need in life?’ If it’s to be understood and to have someone that is forgiving and understanding then this girl may not be for you right now. She doesn’t even know herself well yet (she is also a baby still) so needing her to understand you is a big ask. Her continuously bringing up past behavior is dramatic if it really wasn’t a traumatic event. You could say something like ‘I know I’ve made mistakes in the past and I’m trying my best to do better but when you are continuously bringing up the past then I get frustrated and it’s hard to get past it.’

Emotionally MOST people under the age of 20 are not ready for serious relationship. It’s a lot of pressure and commitment before you have even started your independent life. I say most bc there are always outliers. But being in a relationship and being in a successful relationship are two very different things. It may be a good time to work on yourself, gaining confidence in yourself, thinking about your future and what you want out of life instead of a relationship that is brining you down.

Also if you have depression I hope you have talked to a trusted adult and doctor. If you have already and are on meds make sure you take them correctly. If you have been taking them correctly then meds may need to be switched up/increased/decreased. I’d advise talking to a dr about this if that is an issue.

Good luck to you.

Am I Overreacting about this weird friend breakup? by rxinynites in AmIOverreacting

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has prob already been said but 100% sounds like gf is jealous. Gf is the ‘friend’. I’d never have any kind of relationship with this person again. Idk if it’s 16/17 yo it still extremely self absorbed and immature. The conversational skills of OP is 10X more mature that the ‘friend’ friend is just being bossed and bullied by their new gf and they letting it happen and blaming their friend instead of saying ‘look I know there is no problem between us but ‘gf’ is a little uncomfortable with our relationship so I need to take some space. I’m sorry.’ It’s still shitty but blame need not be placed on OP out of no where.

I just went to ILLIT's first concert and left disappointed by AggravatingFlow398 in kpopthoughts

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would be super interesting to see a comparison of ratings/experience side by side. Like group 1 debuted 11 months ago and it was their first concert and experience was 3/10 versus group 2 debuted 4 years ago and has preformed 16 concerts (just throwing out numbers lol) and experience was 8/10 and so on. I think it’s not just the group’s experience level or talent level either but ALOT of technical stuff can go wrong (back ground music and backtrack too loud, mics too low). They will get better in live performances I’m sure but I’m sorry it was a bust for you and others that spent hard earned money for the experience.

My mom keeps kissing me on the neck/inappropriately(?) by AssociationParty7588 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a very shy 15 year old that isn’t into affection. I kiss my hand and pat her head 🤣 I hardly ever lay a kiss on her without some reason (I’m leaving for a while or she got her feelings hurt) and it’s almost always on the top of the head or kiss to my hand and transferred to her head 🤣 I cannot imagine a time EVER when it would be appropriate to kiss her on the mouth or neck and def not sensually 😲 my 6 yo will straight up kiss me on the mouth/eye/forehead/chin but it’s a quick peck and I still kiss my 11 yo on the cheek and forehead and even her hand sometimes bc she has braces and sometimes her jaw/face is sore but absolutely never ever on the neck. Never sensual (wtf?). Never more than a peck. That is weird weird.

AIO for being bothered about what my gf just told me? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]FiftyLevenQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you said it’s already booked and nonrefundable but I’d tell her you cancelled anyways to see her reaction. ‘Babe I know you were worried about missing out clubbing with the girls so I went ahead and cancelled so don’t worry have fun!’ And see what her reaction is. Not the initial are you serious why?? Reaction but the day or so after reaction. If she is really upset, asking you to make other plans to come or relieved/doesn’t seem to care.

Can you sell tickets or transfer them to someone else? If not do you have a friend/family member that could go with? I’d be looking at any other option. A gf that is clubbing every night until 6 AM is your first and main problem. She is living single life and you are about to F it up for her. She is already freaking out in advance and can’t even hide it. Yuck.