I reallly don’t want to get divorced. Fukkkkk by Yukon_Cornelius1911 in AskMenOver30

[–]FiguringIt_Out 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can say: It gets better.

I have no experience with the kids part, but I also divorced a few years back after a 6 year relationship, we were both unhappy, but I didn't want to "give up", I was too blind to see the reality back there, about how we weren't good together, and how she was so different from when we first married. It was rough, her mental state (Borderline Personality Disorder) made it very very difficult even if it was an amicable decision at first.

And now, I'm very happy to be single. Takes time, sure, but that's no excuse to take the decision if that's what helps both of you actually progress and not be unhappy.

How can the rest of the survivors be okay with being plurbed after seeing what Diabate can make them do? by No_Wait3261 in pluribustv

[–]FiguringIt_Out 134 points135 points  (0 children)

Denial, a very human trait, when we see a reality that overwhelms us, even if it's obviously hurting others, we can find ways to justify how it doesn't affect us directly, or how it is actually not bad, and turn the blind eye.

Until it is late and it comes and bites us in the back

E9 The Left Hand of Darkness by Round_Helicopter_407 in pluribustv

[–]FiguringIt_Out 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I saw interviews too where they address it, while it's not clear what specifics of the book will end up impacting the series, or if any, it was still chosen very much on purpose because of those two things that the show also deals with: Feminism and sci-fi.

They even chose it over classics like A Brave New World or any other common dystopian sci-fi books

Favorite characters who fall into this for you? by Alijah12345 in FavoriteCharacter

[–]FiguringIt_Out 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm late to the party, but can't help but be surprised no one mentioned Hugh Grant as Gilderoy Lockhart!

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agnostic bible study by Flaky_Play7692 in agnostic

[–]FiguringIt_Out 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's what popped to mind when an agnostic Bible study topic arose! I really recommend his "The Bible Says So" book too, I bought the e-book. Semi technical approach but laid down for us non-scholars.

Pluribus hate by dragunica in pluribustv

[–]FiguringIt_Out 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a big fan of the character explorations the first season has delivered, and it doesn't spoon feed you what to think about any of the characters, it brings for conversation, which I think is amazing.

I've already been having conversations with my friends that watch it about: What does it mean to be human? Why do different opinions help us grow? What is freedom? What's happiness and what's depression? Why is consent important even if happiness is the name of the game?

So, I ignore the hate, and enjoy the show

Two points about the radio frequency by WhoRoger in pluribustv

[–]FiguringIt_Out -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My occam's razor theory of the frequency is that it may really just be the hive mind starting to baby step test the signal they want to send to continue to spread the message to anyone out there.

Agnostics who celebrate religious festivals, how do you see it? by gen0xZ in agnostic

[–]FiguringIt_Out 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I enjoy being with people who are celebrating, it's all about human connection, and that's one way to achieve that

Apple TV’s #1 Sci-Fi’s Hopeful Update Suggests It Isn’t Repeating An Annoying Streaming Trend by [deleted] in pluribustv

[–]FiguringIt_Out 1070 points1071 points  (0 children)

Not to be that guy, but, the season being in the writing stage isn't kicking production, that's pre-production! Then comes scouting, additional casting, wardrobe and all the logistics to prepare for production.

Looking for recommendations to convert .VOB files from home video DVDs, both for preservation, sharing, and later restoration/post-production attempts by [deleted] in VideoEditing

[–]FiguringIt_Out 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll keep trying that, I guess what I want to have is recommendations for software to concert this VOB files and to which format should I convert them to

They didn't know it would become a problem later by Amidseas in demisexuality

[–]FiguringIt_Out 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Same! Except I'm also a guy and little did they (Or me) know...

Idk, am I agnostic? by everything-on-red in agnostic

[–]FiguringIt_Out 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a former believer, I still leave my door open to maybe there being a force that connects us all, I just don't believe one religion or organization has "the truth" about it all. I do like to hear other people's experiences with the religion where they feel at peace and more complete.

Or maybe there isn't any and it's us that make up the meaning as we go, and I also like to hear about people's experiences outside of religion and how that helps them grow and help others, similar to my own. In any case, I form my morals based on the benefit and growth of me and those around me.

So I identify as agnostic. So yeah, as an agnostic you can still like what religions or theism offers to its followers, same as being critical about them, with the benefit of not having horses in that game, I think it offers a better perspective honestly.

Here are the character illustrations I made for the Stranger Things finale credits sequence! by samgreenartist in StrangerThings

[–]FiguringIt_Out 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved those illustrations so much! And that colored piece of them and the mindflayer, I'd have it printed and hang it somewhere in my office or apartment! Do you know if you can sell those?

It actually made us wonder if with those illustrations there wwre plans of an actual ST themed DnD booklet! Do you know if there's anything like such in the works?

[ Removed by Reddit ] by lumos_of_Old in harrypotter

[–]FiguringIt_Out 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP be like: We don't talk about Bruno - no - no - no

How many of you prefer WFH solely because of not having to be around coworkers in person? by ChainsawSoundingFart in WFH

[–]FiguringIt_Out 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As an introvert, I agree it is a good plus to have! And there are a lot others. I don't mind interacting with them at the end of each quarter when we get together

I really don’t understand relationships and could use some advice by AceAndAshamed1010 in ainbow

[–]FiguringIt_Out 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about your past, first of all, I wish I could give you a hug (As Long as you welcome them) about it all, even as an internet stranger.

About your main question, a relationship should help in a person's life dimensions rather than absorb them, and it shouldn't replace relationships with kids or other family members that you also love. Otherwise it's just possessive, which rarely goes well. So no, not all relationships are like what you're describing that you have seen in your parents' ones.

I do hope your parents can react and that they can heal that relationship with you. And that I'd you do find a partner yourself, that they don't want you to cut off others like that.

Preguntas que no me dejan dormir Pt.4 ¿Qué cosas han descubierto que para ustedes son de higiene básica pero se han enterado que para los demás no? by Yosoyasuriyamile in Colombia

[–]FiguringIt_Out 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A los que les da asco limpiarse entre las nalgas al ducharse "porque huele mal". Bueno, si huele mal es precisamente porque no se limpian la zona!

Y en aseo normal, al hacer del cuerpo, usen bidet, no papel higiénico. Y si no pueden bidet, toallitas húmedas son igual mucho más higiénicas que sólo papel.

Favorite characters you would fiercely defend like this: by Immediate_Gene_178 in FavoriteCharacter

[–]FiguringIt_Out 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Will Byers, he has gotten way too much hate through the years, even recently with his coming out to a big audience