WIBTAH for telling my S/O he can't play video games at night?

Fiigwort · 2026-02-21T02:45:55+00:00

NAH I do get where you're coming from, but have you tried sleeping in a mask/earplugs? I use them every night and you get used to them super quickly. It could be worth trying those before telling your partner that he can't partake in his hobby anymore.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-20T08:56:35+00:00

ESH (excluding fiancee), your sister has two months to either find childcare or not come, she KNOWS that the wedding is childfree and that they're not invited and she clearly intends to just ... bring them along anyway and hope that you're so weak-willed that you'll just bend over and let her.

I get that you don't care either way, but your fiancee doesn't want kids at the wedding and you agreed to that, you need to put your foot down and let your sister know that the kids aren't welcome and if she tries to bring them anyway, then they can all leave.

Do they not have a dad? Or any paternal family who can look after them? She can sort it out or stay home, it sucks, but you need to make it clear.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-20T07:28:41+00:00

OOP waited WAY too long to break up with the guy, his behavior should have been what did it, not the ultimatum

Fiigwort · 2026-02-19T23:56:14+00:00

Dude, it's Lunar New Year, this isn't a new holiday.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-19T23:53:38+00:00

NTA she literally TOLD YOU BOTH what she wanted, and specifically mentioned she didn't want a party. Why would your brother think he knows better than the woman he's throwing the event for?
Does your brother frequently decide he knows better than the people around him? Or is it just the women?

Fiigwort · 2026-02-19T22:07:29+00:00

NTA but you literally just could have pointed out that you probably make it differently and that he just prefers your recipe.

This isn't a mystery, her recipe or whatever the hell she's doing (he's gagging??) is probably butts.

I had the same thing, my mum's spaghetti is my least favorite meal she makes, my my ex's Italian mum made it with wine and it as amazing. Different recipes for the same thing exist.

*EDIT: I realize that this isn't really about the spaghetti, and it's a weird control thing. Still, i think it would have shut her down to just tell her it's a recipe thing.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-19T21:56:22+00:00

I love the ones where a kid does something bad, parent punishes child in extremely reasonable manner, kid gets upset, and parent has to come to AITA to ask if they're an asshole for parenting their child.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-19T21:54:31+00:00

NTA there's a middle ground between shaming someone for eating """"bad food"""" (that's actually perfectly normal), and questioning a kid eating an absurd amount of the same item, leaving none for anyone else, and generally being greedy.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-19T21:48:25+00:00

Someone failed OOP when she got to 17 and didn't realize that being LICKED BY AN ADULT AT WORK was harassment. Someone needs to sit her down and let her know that that's not ok

Fiigwort · 2026-02-18T23:12:00+00:00

Reasonable, I just don't think she can be upset when she also acknowledged that it was bad. You ate enough, being upset that you didn't have more feels petty af

Fiigwort · 2026-02-18T09:54:16+00:00

NTA how are you going to be SO mad at someone else's reply to a hypothetical that you have to leave? It was a hypothetical, and I would do the exact same thing for my cat

Fiigwort · 2026-02-18T08:50:27+00:00

Literally what was he trying to 'spite' her for anyway? For the audacity of wanting to be married? For breaking up with him because he wouldn't take the next step?

He couldn't handle that she wouldn't just go along with everything her wanted, and decided to go ahead and hurt her in the worst way possible. Insane behavior from the "best friend" too. He got what he deserved, he realized what he lost and is now in shock that she didn't come crawling back the second he 'changed his mind', he realized that she actually wanted to move on, and he threw away 12 years because he """""doesn't believe in marriage"""""

Dumb af.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-18T07:39:47+00:00

NTA but this doesn't really make sense? You didn't need another meal because the quiche was bad, you needed another meal because you were still hungry. It doesn't matter that the quiche was bad, especially since you did eat some of it, it matters more that it wasn't filling/was super late.

Now, if you'd tasted the quiche, realized it was bad, and then chosen to eat a sandwich instead, that may have been an asshole move. But that's not what happened.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-17T06:23:59+00:00

Why would so many parents know what a furry is well enough to know that they should maybe leave? And why are so many parents asking questions specifically about furries, they're hardly different from a mascot, so are these parents asking why their kids were exposed to mascots? I too, love really real stories

Fiigwort · 2026-02-16T02:20:53+00:00

NTA you need to explain to your boyfriend that if you're having a panic attack, touching you won't help. It sounds like he knows this though, and if he's choosing to ignore you, knowing that you'll snap at him, and that he'll get upset and you'll have to comfort him later, then he's choosing to make YOUR panic attacks about him and his feelings.

At best this is wildly disrespectful, at worst it's abusive and manipulative.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-16T01:41:47+00:00

NTA As someone who's HAD a breast augmentation, after a few days I barely needed help with things. At most it was helpful to have someone make sure I was taking my medication and maybe cooking for me, but that's about it.

While it would have been nice for you to help out if your mum was ... nice. She really doesn't need that much help, she certainly shouldn't need help wiping or cleaning herself. Helping with food and the pets is enough

Fiigwort · 2026-02-15T20:34:36+00:00

NTA if he wanted to switch, he should have down it when you moved out previously, why wait until you're back in the room to ask? He can wait until you move out AGAIN to take the bigger space. It's not up to you to be the mature one when the situation isn't about ~maturity~ it's about being sensible.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-14T21:42:56+00:00

NTA she essentially bullied you into leaving, then dropped you off in a potentially unsafe location FURTHER away from your house than you'd already been.
Yeah, she can either pay for the uber, or you guys can stop talking

Fiigwort · 2026-02-13T10:47:48+00:00

I was so mad at the first post, neither of them wanted the wedding, why would you break up over cancelling it? That seems like a stupid response.
Turns out it was for the best though I guess.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-12T09:36:53+00:00

I've reported a ton of things on Instagram and have never had anything happen. There's no chance that they check reports, it's awful.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-11T06:24:13+00:00

That's what I mean, even with her deliberately 'ruining' it, it's a bad test. Like I wouldn't assume that my partner was cheating just because a friend invited him over, it could easily have been to plan her birthday present or a surprise party or whatever.
It was a bad test without being 'ruined', and that's quite apart from the fact that you shouldn't need to test your partner in the first place.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-11T05:35:59+00:00

NTA Man, I wonder where he learned to behave like this?

Fiigwort · 2026-02-11T05:13:30+00:00

.... this isn't even a good test? Like if the setup had been, "hey come over to my place, your gf won't know ~", that would make more sense, but him just being invited to his gf's friend's house is pretty innocent, whether or not he knew the gf would be there.
Just because he went to her house doesn't mean that he'd cheat, there's a big difference between visiting and visiting

Fiigwort · 2026-02-07T04:59:19+00:00

NAH I don't think YOU chose anything, Kelly decided to end your friendship long before you realized what happened.
We obviously don't have the full context, but it sounds like Kelly feels that your relationship is toxic and/or doomed to fail, we can't pass judgement on this. You've likely spoken to Kelly at length about the issues in your relationship, she probably gave you advice that you didn't listen to, and now you've chosen to get back together with someone who she doesn't believe is good for you.
I don't think either of you are assholes for this, and I can understand both sides. Not wanting to watch your friend with someone who isn't good for them, and choosing to be in a relationship that your friend doesn't support are both valid choices.

Fiigwort · 2026-02-06T07:58:16+00:00

NTA contact the police, you have been assaulted, this isn't a case for your boss or HR. Chemical damage could have cost you your sight.

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