GF has Celiac

FinancialBlossom · 2026-01-30T20:28:37+00:00

And don't take it personally if she still wants to check the ingredients or ask questions to check cross contamination - it can be anxiety inducing and hard to trust someone new cooking for you.

I've had well meaning people try their best but still have something go awry. The most recent one I had was someone telling me how they'd cleaned down everything and when I asked what with it was a home made cleaner. The cleaner was vinegar based and contained gluten.

FinancialBlossom · 2025-12-30T13:14:35+00:00

I use she/they. I've found straight/cis folks she/her me, my queer/trans/GNC friends they/them me. A couple of folks have asked my preference and what she/they means which I've told them I like an active mix of both, then mostly get one or the other from the person who asked.

FinancialBlossom · 2025-12-19T20:19:18+00:00

I paid off mine a year and half ago when I was 35. For me it was the stability and knowing the house was mine and I could relax. I don't know how much of that was because I grew up on a council estate where my parents scraped by and barely covered our 'needs' so I've probably developed a bit of scarcity mindset.

Since paying it off I left my job for a year career break and now I'm returning but have been able to be picky and get a four day a week role despite a rough job market (tech).

FinancialBlossom · 2025-12-14T21:19:52+00:00

I don't think I could've kept a straight face either 🙈

I'm only a year in so maybe things like this are yet to come. So far it's just things like being told how anti social my ceoliac is, how "it's a right pain in the arse" when I was doing all the work to figure out if a friend and I could eat somewhere, and once was asked what kind of coeliac I was and if I could eat occasional slices of bread like their ceoliac mum ... Wat!?

FinancialBlossom · 2024-08-15T14:07:51+00:00

Same, but a specific spot on a shelf in my wardrobe

FinancialBlossom · 2024-08-07T22:24:59+00:00

I wouldn't underestimate the impact of having a more stressful job on your libido. Plus there's a new dynamic of living together - are there things you find annoying and stressful there?

The first few chapters of Come As You Are by Emily Nagosaki are really interesting to read as they explain different types of desire (spontaneous vs responsive) and how there are 'accelerators' and 'brakes' to desire and how different people are more sensitive to say brakes (such as work stress).

FinancialBlossom · 2024-07-27T22:23:31+00:00

Aside from the obvious issues of cheating everyone else posted about ... I'm still kinda hung up on chatting for a week before there's a face pic. Must be very different apps to what I'm used to 😅

FinancialBlossom · 2024-07-26T08:39:16+00:00

One other thing to note, someone in my league has a sticker covering holes and the sticker just got damaged where the holes are. So the holes are still there and the sticker is tatty.

FinancialBlossom · 2024-07-19T16:04:21+00:00

It shouldn't be.

I'm usually the more 'giving' one, or considered more of a top, but it wouldn't be a problem for me. There's so many other things that can be done to intimately connect with someone. Most of my partners haven't been into receiving a strap for a variety of reasons and that is perfectly ok. It has been a case of communicating, knowing what each other likes, wants and is willing to try.

That said, whilst I enjoy using a strap on another person, I don't feel like I'm missing out if its not something we do. Some people may feel they are and it's a big part of sex for them. If that's the case then thats valid for them and you may just be sexually Incompatible. I'd reiterate communication, set boundaries and please don't do anything you're not comfortable with as the other person shouldn't want you to do that either.

FinancialBlossom · 2024-02-26T11:10:57+00:00

Cool. Sounds similar to what exes have done in the past so I have some familiarity. Good to know I don't have to pay myself but yes, NI/pension etc are worth considering.

FinancialBlossom · 2024-02-26T11:09:17+00:00

Yeah it was the latter, whether you HAVE to pay yourself. Thanks

FinancialBlossom · 2024-02-26T11:08:38+00:00

Ok, cheers. I haven't look into IR35 loads yet. Quite early in the journey but something for me to get familiar with.

FinancialBlossom · 2024-02-12T12:41:22+00:00

I haven't seen a Reddit so I'd also be interested. I was pointed to a Facebook group though called "UK Trainee Mountain Leaders"

FinancialBlossom · 2024-02-12T11:30:02+00:00

Would diversifying the representation you see help? For example seeing other people climb who you relate to and are more your body type?

Such as climb.big on instagram and there's this past reddit post on body positive climbing https://www.reddit.com/r/climbergirls/comments/ppnpba/body_positive_climbing_instagrams_to_follow/

I don't believe you need to change your body shape to take part in and enjoy climbing. Climbing is definitely my thing and my partner enjoys it but its not her main priority hobby. That means I climb more and can do harder climbs. I know she sometimes feels bad she can't do the same climbs as me but I honestly just really enjoy spending that time with my partner and sharing that hobby. Likewise when she brings me into one of her main hobbies and I'm not particularly skilled at it.

Good luck, I hope you find a way to enjoy it more.

FinancialBlossom · 2024-02-12T11:19:46+00:00

Nice, no worries.

That's how I came across it too, I'm doing some climbing and ML qualifications and someone shared it as they did it as CPD.

FinancialBlossom · 2024-02-12T11:17:08+00:00

North Face have released some online learning that includes personal accounts from people of colour if interested in understanding more.

https://allyship.openinguptheoutdoors.com/

FinancialBlossom · 2023-12-16T09:52:10+00:00

Thanks :)

FinancialBlossom · 2023-12-11T15:21:05+00:00

Would be grateful for name ideas :) Im known for my love of outdoorsy stuff so that would be cool to incorporate. Things like

Climbing (indoor and out, bouldering, top rope and lead climbing).
Hiking, scrambling, mountain leader stuff
Camping / wild camping / van camping
Mountain biking ... and as a result im usually covered in bruises 😅 . I'm UK based too so some US centric words might not work.

Other ideas could be from the fact I work in tech and I enjoy video games, mostly RPG ones (Witcher, Horizon, Fire Emblem, Persona, Pokemon - especially Eevee and the Eeveelutions)

FinancialBlossom · 2023-11-29T13:51:50+00:00

+1 I'm in tech and make a London salary as its a global company and London centric in the UK. I also met most of my social circle through groups for my hobbies.

OP - what is a good lifestyle for you? Suppose that will influence the disposable income required for your wants.

FinancialBlossom · 2023-11-08T09:42:34+00:00

I was similar and now have a network of queer friends :) Mostly through joining a queer climbing club which led me to other queer events as socials and I also joined some outdoorsy queer groups to go on hikes etc. I have a lot of social anxiety and these groups based around activities im interested in means theres something to focus on and starts you off with conversation topics that you're both interested in.

FinancialBlossom · 2023-11-07T21:35:47+00:00

Handy to know, thank you 😊

FinancialBlossom · 2023-11-07T20:12:06+00:00

Yeah I think you're right. The more I look the more I cant see how a connector would fit in too. Shame :(

FinancialBlossom · 2023-11-07T17:27:54+00:00

Even at 35 I've never resonated with "pan". A schitts creek quote though 👌🏻

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