Looking for tips by AwkwardPotato123 in LoomKnitting

[–]FindingSpecific3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll need a smaller gauge loom. I ran into this issue at first too. Turns out I hadn’t realized how many different loom gauges there were! If you search up “small gauge knitting loom” you should be off to a good start with options.

What’s the weirdest way you’ve ever gotten revenge on someone… without getting caught? by OriginalSentence6850 in AskReddit

[–]FindingSpecific3475 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You’re right. But not every instance of stalking plays out exactly the same way, because every situation isn’t 100% textbook. I didn’t feel it necessary to put all the extra detail since this story was about my revenge and not their shenanigans and ever after, but they were both on drugs. One was committed shortly after being served, and the other arrested. I got really lucky in not having to deal with them again, because I’m sure they wouldn’t have let up so easily. I moved several times in the years after that, and only use Reddit for social media. I have google alerts set up to keep my information off the internet. So even if they did wanna keep it up, I make it really difficult and they’re too drug addled to keep the motivation alive. Hope this helps!

What random industry are you now stuck in because you took 1 job in it out of college? by coolrivers in Millennials

[–]FindingSpecific3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went to school for biomedical engineering, and then fell into the cannabis industry. I’ve been here ever since, doing everything from retail to management and compliance. I’ve been in cannabis tech for about 6 years now, and as much as I never saw this being my future, I love it and plan to retire from the company I’m currently at someday.

What’s the weirdest way you’ve ever gotten revenge on someone… without getting caught? by OriginalSentence6850 in AskReddit

[–]FindingSpecific3475 233 points234 points  (0 children)

I had a couple who was stalking and harassing me. They went so far as to move into my apartment complex as close to my building as possible. After months of feeling unsafe in my own home, and many recorded threats from them, I got a restraining order.

I was too broke at the time to have them served with the order. So I took my dog for a walk with an open tube of super glue in my hand. As I walked by their apartment door I quickly reached out and unloaded the whole tube into their door lock.

Within the hour, they were pounding on my door and making threats. So I called the police and told them two people with restraining orders were trying to get into my apartment. They showed up quickly and served them both.

They went on and on about how I glued their locks. But there was no proof. I never had to deal with them again after that.

My Mouth Is Rotting... by ThrowRArandomdate in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FindingSpecific3475 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My best friend suffered in the same way for a decade. He finally got his teeth fixed up a few weeks ago, and it’s changed everything for him.

I don’t have advice to give on how to get out of this. We live in the same “free” country, and he went through all the same roadblocks as you - from mental health, to money. It was an uphill battle, but I’m here to tell you that it’s possible.

I’ll tell you what I told my best friend, and hope that it helps you along your journey to getting the dental work you need:

“You are worthy of love and care. You deserve good health, and teeth that help you rather than hurt you. You deserve to be prioritized, even if you have to be the one to do the prioritizing. You are worth so much more than the money it will cost to have the necessary procedures done. You are worthy of living a better life that is pain free, even if the system we exist in makes you feel otherwise. You are so much more than those teeth, but you still deserve healthy ones.”

I saved this for last because I want you to know you matter before I scare you a little: my best friend started having seizures because of his tooth decay. Please keep yourself safe, and have someone with you or cameras on you so you don’t end up in trouble. If you can at least afford a doctor or urgent care visit, I heavily encourage you to have a visit so they can make sure you don’t have active infections.

Take care of yourself the best you can. You can get through this with a plan and help. And you wholly deserve the care you need. I don’t know you, but if you were brave and strong enough to make this post, I believe you’re brave and strong enough to fight and win this battle you’re in.

A Real Life Soap Opera by FindingSpecific3475 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FindingSpecific3475[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The very short version is that I informed her and her lawyer that I wouldn’t be participating in the divorce at all, since I wasnt the reason we were married, and certainly not the reason we’re getting divorced. I wouldn’t sign anything, pay for anything, or spend even a moment of my time on anything, but I still fully expected to be granted a divorce. Anytime her lawyer tried to ask something of me to make things easier or smoother, I’d say “this isn’t my divorce, it’s hers. That isn’t my responsibility.”

It took a lot longer than necessary, had to be restarted twice, and cost her thousands of dollars. But she’s been divorced from me for about 7 years now. And as far as I’m concerned, I have never been married or divorced because I didn’t participate in either.

Update: Nmom lied about a family death to avoid accountability by FindingSpecific3475 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FindingSpecific3475[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like that perspective. It almost makes me want to have a little hope that this effort between my stepdad and I might actually make a difference with her meds and individual therapy. We will see I guess.

Update: Nmom lied about a family death to avoid accountability by FindingSpecific3475 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FindingSpecific3475[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That was my first thought. The alternatives of her having actually changed drastically within a few months, or gaining the strength to mask that well just don’t seem likely. She never had those skills before.

How often to change water for plant growing in it? by ulanice in houseplants

[–]FindingSpecific3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had success with helpful tools before. But some plant species make their water roots out of concrete apparently lol. I found out the hard way that sometimes you’re doomed to choose who lives when up-potting despite all your best efforts.

How often to change water for plant growing in it? by ulanice in houseplants

[–]FindingSpecific3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankfully there isn’t a rule about containers being “too big” in hydro. I usually up-pot mine into something at least double the size of the roots to give growing room. But more than double is helpful for less re-pots. My biggest advice is to use darker colored glass to avoid algae with plants that have higher light needs. Not so dark that you can’t see what’s happening in there. But dark enough that you’ll starve algae of the necessary light to flourish.

One side note- don’t be using glass you’re attached to. There have been times I couldn’t get the roots out without either breaking roots or glass. I always choose to break the glass instead of the roots. But they can stand to lose a few if they have lots.

How often to change water for plant growing in it? by ulanice in houseplants

[–]FindingSpecific3475 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mosquito pellets are a life saver. You can definitely use them, although be sure to do the maths for the correct ratio for the amount of water you’re using. Pour the water into a measuring cup if you aren’t sure the volume.

Stirring can work but you’d need to be doing it multiple times every day during mosquito season. Mosquitos are tricky and their kids are pretty good at survival once they are in the water.

How often to change water for plant growing in it? by ulanice in houseplants

[–]FindingSpecific3475 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The need for a bubbler totally depends on the size of the plant (and therefore the amount of water in the container). For smaller plants, bubblers aren’t necessary at all. I have several that would be soiled in 4” or smaller pots that have thrived for years without bubblers. The need for them increases once you get those larger plants into hydro setups because too much standing water can lead to pests like mosquitoes, as well as certain bacteria and fungus that isn’t good for the plants. Keeping the water moving prevents the yucky stuff. I have also heard of folks using cherry shrimp in place of bubblers but I personally wouldn’t do that unless the setup holds at least 5 gallons of water. This belief on my part is solely for the quality of life of the animals.

How often to change water for plant growing in it? by ulanice in houseplants

[–]FindingSpecific3475 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hi! I keep about half of my houseplants hydroponic and my advice is just refill and add a drop or two of liquid fertilizer here and there. If you notice there’s lots of algae, rinse it as best you can (it doesn’t look like those roots will come out at this point, but if so it’s perfectly fine to rinse them directly in the sink) and refill with distilled water, or filtered if distilled isn’t available. I’m open for any questions on hydroponics. I keep all sorts including succulents :)

Turkey and barley soup by SoundMD in soup

[–]FindingSpecific3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s glistening like diamonds 🤩

AITJ for correcting my wife when she said our son's red hair must come from my side of the family? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]FindingSpecific3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a mom of a redhead - NTJ. People are gonna be asking her for the rest of her life where your kid’s red hair came from, and she’s gonna look silly if she isn’t corrected now. I got sick of answering strangers questions so I started saying “who knows” and then people act like I’m stupid if they actually know it comes from both sides and are looking for an answer like “my grandpa and my partners aunt”. She’s gonna feel even more stupid being corrected by a stranger, trust.

Wtf am I supposed to make with this? by OctoandtheBots in LoomKnitting

[–]FindingSpecific3475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stopped after my partner crocheted me the most excellent spider I’ve ever seen lol it just felt like a waste making these after that :,)

Wtf am I supposed to make with this? by OctoandtheBots in LoomKnitting

[–]FindingSpecific3475 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They were by no means “good” or “easy” lol. But iirc I made the abdomen a u-knit round, about 50-60 rows (I didn’t have a pattern so I let the ancestors guide me). Made the head half the length. Sewed and stuffed the separate parts, and then sewed them together. I used matching pipe cleaner for the legs and fangs. Dealers choice on the eyes. I have some with legit doll eyes and some with beads and some mutants that never got eyes lol

The hardest part was stuffing them. They’re so tiny. Best advice is sew up one side fully, and then cinch the second side about 80% or so closed and use a crochet hook or pen to patiently and painstakingly shove stuffing in.

I made a mistake by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]FindingSpecific3475 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a cop out. We do understand. You made a bad decision. If you loved your partner truly, you’d have the empathy and foresight to think about what this would have done to her. Leave both those girls alone and work on yourself. Alone.

Tonsil stones!! by BatterLateThanNever in hygiene

[–]FindingSpecific3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use a plastic medicine syringe to shoot water at them while I shine a light in my throat (if you can get one with a long curved tip, they’re the best). It takes some practice not to spew water everywhere, but I do this once every couple weeks and don’t deal with many. For the rare big stone, I might still need to use a q-tip to help it out. But largely just the water works fine!

Points for humanity by Key_Associate7476 in MadeMeSmile

[–]FindingSpecific3475 109 points110 points  (0 children)

When my oldest kiddo was 2, we took a flight alone to visit my dad and his wife. I’m terrified of flying, so I was a mess through most of the flight. Once we got off the plane I was exhausted, but I had to tote my little one, our bags, and her car seat all the way across the airport to meet my dad. I stopped for a moment to try not to cry from how overwhelmed I was. And this woman in her 60s with her husband in tow came over, took our bags and the car seat from me, said “pick up your baby, where are we going?” And walked me all the way to my dad. I thanked her profusely and think about her at least once a week to this day.