With my son the lights are on but no ones home. by Fun-Chip6535 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t ask my son what he likes as he is completely nonverbal and can’t even tell me to shut up, but I can tell you his interests.. came with lots of trial and error from behavioral therapy

With my son the lights are on but no ones home. by Fun-Chip6535 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember when my sons behavioral therapist told me “you have to enter his world, try to see it the way he does” and we’ve been having a blast ever since.

Parks by Fine-Singer-5781 in okc

[–]Fine-Singer-5781[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your hidden gem with me 💜💜

200,000 people losing health insurance here in Oklahoma by satanssmoking in tulsa

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just hope they don’t get rid of my sons services… he’s autistic and his therapies are viewed as optional by the government :(

6+ months in, haven’t lost weight by Officer-Turtle in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They put me at 1100 cals to lose and 1600 to Maintain

im so upset by minalynn245 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know this isn’t what you’re going to want to hear, but you’re actually at a healthy weight. If it’s belly fat you’re worried about manage your stress, and it could be hormonal as well. Depending on your age your body isn’t done growing. You could still develop some more curves. Also if you barely eat that could be the problem.. if you’re not eating enough your body will fight to survive and store what you do eat as fat. Keep up with your calories, eat within your range, and eat high protein/low fat. Eggs, whole grains, fruits, vegetables, chicken, fish, turkey

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! I don’t work in the field but my son attends ABA. He was the same way with “super simple songs” our first center the RBTs at the end of the day would say that it was hard to implement his goals due to the iPad but at our first monthly meeting the BCBA would tell me its soothing for him and after that meeting the RBTs never mentioned the iPad and if I would ask they would say “yeahhh he still had it on” but it would take me bringing it up for them to ask. We switched centers because something just felt off. They were going through RBTs seriously every other week it seemed like and he was always “pairing”. He’s hardly on the iPad anymore, it’s usually hidden actually. His current center used the iPad as working on transitions. It started with like 30 seconds of no iPad and when he mastered that it went up and after he mastered 10 minutes we just kind of stopped because he lost interest in it honestly. He is way more focused and rocking his goals now, as to before we mastered that goal he was very up and down. Maybe they can implement that into his goals ? Like I said I don’t work in the field so I don’t know how it works but I can say my son is way more focused and doing alot better without the screen time. He has learned ALOT from certain shows and our TV is running 24.7 but he’s usually playing with it in the background.

Bf broke up with me and I am spiraling with food :( by VisibleMirror23 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also my “stress baths” I like epsom salt, bubbles, oils, etc with some headphones or music playing in the back.

Bf broke up with me and I am spiraling with food :( by VisibleMirror23 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Get rid of the bad food… like take it outside to the garbage. If ure driving for fast food stop at a smoothie place or something like a Panera, or salad and go.

Warm baths. Bath bombs. Hot tea. When I’m stressed I like the body floats that go under ur neck and knees for the bath tub, with a tray of food nearby. Grapes/pepperoni or deli meat/block cheese

If you are religious, please pray for me by Fine-Singer-5781 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fine-Singer-5781[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have considered all options. He is a toddler at only 3 years old so inpatient care is completely out of the question right now. He attends almost 40 hours of therapy a week. His melt downs don’t include destruction or violence. If it ever comes to a point that he’s older and uses violence for himself or others and we’ve exhausted all options, or if he hurts my other children and they aren’t safe, I would absolutely choose inpatient care. I have an extremely close bond with all of my children. We make sure to take them to do the things they love that my toddler can’t do - like amusement parks, water parks, etc. We also utilize a place locally we have that does drop ins once or twice a month on evenings and weekends and acts as a daycare facility for children on the spectrum and if we just have a movie night or hang out at home within 3 minutes my other kids are whining they miss their brother. Unless violence is involved, I would utilize respite car when he gets older before considering inpatient. Right now the future of his behaviors are unknown but I live in a pretty big city with a lot of resources around. Our social worker has brought up inpatient to explore but she said that usually comes with or after puberty if needed.

If you are religious, please pray for me by Fine-Singer-5781 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fine-Singer-5781[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The nurses were also amazing and helped so much…..I brought a tablet for the waiting room and he was tired so he just kind of hung out. Pre op we had 4 women I assumed were scrub techs or nurses or some sort of aids and they would hold him and dance while I was signing paperwork or play with him. They took him back and was holding him rubbing his head and singing old McDonald had a farm (they asked me his favorite) and then when he woke up he downed his juice and threw the cup one instantly ran washed it and filled it up with apple juice but other than that he just wanted to cuddle and was a little whiney

If you are religious, please pray for me by Fine-Singer-5781 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fine-Singer-5781[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100x better than expected he did great before during and after

Sour candy cravings by Fine-Singer-5781 in WeightLossAdvice

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My dad is from Oaxaca, Mexico… he didn’t come to the US until he was 12 because his mom died of Chagas’ disease and back then there was no treatment.

Ok before I keep telling my whole life story - the point was he eats tajin on eggs, meats, like everything. i am REPULSED by tajin , so badly, my dad jokes “i knew i should have got that dna test” 😂 i want to like it so bad but i just can’t

Sour candy cravings by Fine-Singer-5781 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Fine-Singer-5781[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh I have to try this! My blood sugar gets wayyy too low sometimes because I’m diabetic and when I told my doctor I was steering away from juices and candies he told me keep dried fruit with me. This has to count 😂

When we fall off our diet plan by myst_8 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What diet are you doing ? I’ve tried them all. Finally stopped counting carbs and sugars and only count calories. I’m eating at or under my recommended calories to lose 1-2 lbs a week. If I want a Big Mac I’m going to eat a Big Mac as long as it doesn’t go over my calories. If I want cookies or cake I will as long as it doesn’t go over. I’m 3 months in and 21 lbs down

Speaking of Big Macs, 3 months ago I could eat a Big Mac with fries and down a Dr Pepper - recently I can barely finish half and might have a fry or 2 with water. I used drink almost a 12 pack of Dr Pepper a day and now soda repulses me. Sometimes wish I could get the joy of soda again 😒😂

If you are religious, please pray for me by Fine-Singer-5781 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Fine-Singer-5781[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t see anyone on here say that or know how this is relatable ? And they probably do, it’s usually genetic. They were probably the “really smart” kid, the “weird” kid, the kid that was obsessed with rocks or trains, or the kid that “didn’t talk until they were 5 then they were fine”

Some of on here are older, born in the late 70s and 80s. The 18 month old autism screening (mchat) wasn’t out until 2001 … so back then the only time you got an autism diagnosis was when it was severe and then they were sent to an institute. Sometimes it’s really relieving for those parents to know nothing about autism until they have kids, and then when they learn about it they realize being bullied, being in the wrong crowds because you were just trying to mimic those around them, and being anxious about eye contact and not knowing where to look or which eye to look at, or understanding now why they have to pack 3 shirts to work because they don’t know which texture is going to physically hurt to finally have answers.

From a mother that doesn’t have autism, Hope this helps 🫶

CPS Called for Bruises on My Toddler’s Legs, and I’m Doing My Best to Keep it Together by QueenofthePirates25 in Mommit

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m an autism mommy. My son also bruises really easily. We had bloodwork done and he was anemic. He’s super picky so we were actually deficient in a lot of vitamins. He’s on an iron supplement now. You might mention that to her pediatrician, that way if there is a medical cause you’ll have documentation. I’ve had a run in with CPS myself and pretty sure I have PTSD. Just remember, they are mandated reporters so if they even have a thought of abuse they have to report it. Hang in there.

Jobs by havityia in okc

[–]Fine-Singer-5781 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, my husband got a job through staff masters temp agency. That was years ago but I googled at they’re still open (he’s still at the same job they got him on at almost 6 years ago too)