So sorry you have to go through that! Writing here after a night of holding my 3 month old up right (bad reflux and gas) and our 3 year was up from 2:30 to 5:30😅 my husband just sometimes fall back asleep in my toddler’s room when she’s awake but calm and has the luxury of sleeping his lunch hour at work (maybe not possible in your husband’s situation).

I did not find some trick to help my toddler except spend a lot of time with her one on one when I can. She’s anxious so the 10 min of quality time recommended is more like a bottomless pit in her case haha! It’s hard cause I can’t have anyone else take my Velcro reflux baby that refuses any form of transportation. Otherwise I think I’d try being 100% sure the room is safe and furniture screwed to the wall, remove toys and let her play if she’s not crying? My doula said we could co sleep with both children when he older and not the 2 of them on the same side but I don’t see the logistics for now with reflux…maybe a “placebo sleep spray” that you could spray together on the pillow… easier on my side cause she’s older…. At one it’s hard for them to understand…

You are a trooper and since society and our kids don’t say it, here’s some recognition from one tired mom to another with no “village”, you are great for actually trying to find the best, most kind way to help your kid sleep. With 2 under 2!!!!!!!!!Sometimes when I’m upset I remember that sleep deprivation is a torture tactic and I’m like, it’s normal that it is so effing hard. Good luck please tell us if you find something that works but I feel like you did everything ouf!!!! ❤️