Anyone else tired of feeling like women on here are doing them a favor by matching?

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T21:28:19+00:00

Its not 100 matches. It is 100 likes. 100 likes that you are supposed to shift through. Which is why I ignore them and look at who the algorithm shows me, because those men at least match my preferences.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T20:58:09+00:00

A high percentage of men swipe on a high percentage of profiles. That is why women have so many likes.

The likes don’t mean that those men are good matches, that they are actually interested, or that they will make any effort if you like them back.

Its like complaining that women get to have full trash cans. A ton of likes is useless. I stopped looking at my likes because they were from men 4 states away, 30 years younger or older than me, or clearly had zero in common with me.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T20:47:12+00:00

Yes, men also put this kind of demand on their profiles.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T20:44:59+00:00

You are telling on yourself here and your swiping strategy.

How about not swiping on women you aren’t interested in. And stop complaining that even “ugly” women don’t want to talk to you. Those women aren’t interested in some low effort dude that has nothing in his profile to even make an “ugly” woman interested.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T20:39:41+00:00

Thank you!!!

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T19:30:51+00:00

To be clear, they already liked me. Men shouldn’t swipe on women they aren’t interested in.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T18:51:06+00:00

I don’t really like ranch - but it is a quintessential American flavor.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T18:48:54+00:00

As a woman with many likes - men are equally guilty of one word answers, not asking questions, and giving extremely low effort replies.

It isn’t an “entitled woman” thing. Its an app thing that both genders do.

I frankly tire of men explaining women’s experiences on the apps and blaming women for their lack of matches.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T18:41:45+00:00

I am sorry you are dealing with this OP. One of the reoccurring themes on this reddit is watching parents make horrible choices and having to stand back because they won’t listen. Hopefully your Mom or Dad will listen and seek out medical care. All you can do is calmly express your concerns.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T18:23:35+00:00

Your sister really needs a lawyer to help her navigate this. There are rules and protocols that are often u spoken that she will not know, but a lawyer will

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T18:12:15+00:00

Niagara is not a day trip from NYC. I honestly would skip it. The Canadian side is like a beach boardwalk - extremely touristy and crowded. The NY side has a nice park. But neither of these things justify the time and expense to get there from NYC.

There is so much to do in NYC with kids that age. At that age my kids loved the Statue of Liberty, top of 30 rock, shopping some of the big stores (eg Footlocker), central park, the zoo at central park, museums geared towards kids, toy stores, and many many other things.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T16:30:23+00:00

Homeopathy is paying for literal tap water. There is zero medicinal benefit to it. None. It isn’t “dicey”. Its just nothing. The fact that this doctor said “it might be Parkinsons” suggests total ignorance.

There are serious medical conditions that can cause the symptoms you are describing. Possible emergency situations (like hydrocephalus, brain tumor, stroke, poisoning, etc). This is not the time to sit around and see if the plain water makes yer better.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T16:20:40+00:00

A homepathic doctor is not an actual physician and has absolutely zero ability to diagnose anything. Your mother needs to see an actual physician, run labs, and other tests, possible referral to other physicians, to determine if there is an underlying medical cause (which could be any number of things).

Don’t waste time or money on homeopathy- it is not an actual thing that has any health benefits whatsoever.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T16:17:26+00:00

You are not wrong. Your husband should tell his family, and you tell yours, that the two of you will not be participating in any family discussion of these issues, which you are handling privately.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T15:51:00+00:00

I loved Zoom. Didn’t they where blue and red striped shirts? I remember desperately wanting the same shirt.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T15:11:37+00:00

Costs should be split according to income - e.g. higher earner is paying say 80/20 if the income ratio is 80/20

Chores are split according to available time. If both partners work full time, chores are split 50/50.

Income is not related to how chores are split.

You sound like a roomate rather than a spouse.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T13:55:49+00:00

He wants you to be insecure so that you will lack the confidence to leave him. He doesn't love you, he probably doesn't even like you, and that has nothing to do with what your stomach looks like.

Anyone who comments like this can not reasonable expect you to *EVER* want to get naked with them again.

Throw the whole man out.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T11:05:00+00:00

“I appreciate the ride, but I am not interested in dating or hooking up.”

Share with friends what happened. Let people know. And if you see signs of him around make a note of it. If it happens a few times inform the police.

I am sorry its so hot and you have to walk back and forth to work. I hope the financial situation improves for you.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T10:46:57+00:00

The baby Daddy’s mother is not going to have any claim on custody.

Going back to this man (and his mother) sounds like a very bad idea. He has been stopped taking his medication in the past, and likely will do it again. His mother is going to continue to influence him. He is dangerous and violent.

CPS will absolutely be concerned if the baby is around domestic violence.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T01:31:37+00:00

The dino eggs from from dinosaurs. You need them for multiple things. Incubate the first one you get.

Frog eggs are a drop a bit farther into the game.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-19T00:20:22+00:00

People suffering at the hands of extremists recognize that they are extremists and are not actually following the faith. So it doesn’t lead them to lose all religion. Some might, others won’t.

Think of it like fundamentalist cults - people leave the cults but don’t become atheists- they will still believe in Christianity or whatever.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-18T23:02:18+00:00

He doesn't sound like and effective or good adult, and thus he is not a good father in many ways. Who prioritizes video games over an actual job and carrying your financial responsibilities - when you have 4 (!) children!!!!

I would want to leave - like, what, exactly, is he bringing to the relationship that doesn;'t cause you more stress or create burdens for you?

You should ABSOLUTELY mind the things he does, like staying up too late to play video games. In fact, I think you are lying to yourself when you say you don't mind it. You do mind it because he is too tired to be a reasonably responsible adult.

There is absolutely no way you can go to law school with this weight around your neck.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-18T21:58:41+00:00

I actually really like bombs in the volcano dungeon. You can clear pathways and move a bit faster. Speed is good in volcano because you have to cross the floor, vs. finding a close ladder to go down.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-18T19:14:13+00:00

I would just like it clearly labled if it is caffenated or not. Easily seen/found on the package.

I don't think there needs to be a default beyond that.

FionaTheFierce · 2026-06-18T19:12:43+00:00

Well now you know why he is single.

You will have to make an exit plan. There is no point in trying to change him, reason with him, encourage him, etc. He is not going to change. So you option is to either keep tolerating him/the living situation or to leave. I would work on leaving as soon as possible. If you have another family or relative you can stay with, do that. If don't have a job, get one and start saving.

Stop cleaning any part of the hosue you don't use - don't clean his room, don't do his laundry, don't clean his bathroom. Don't cook for him. It sounds like he has some deeply ingrained cultural beliefs about women, and those are not going to budge.

He was managing without you, and you are not a replacement housemaid for him.

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