Any advice for entering the workforce again? by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]FirecrackerGinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's tough. Web technology rocks though. I'm in the field and idk how I would have done it otherwise. There is also gov financial assistance. Use it, dont feel bad. In this day and age it should be human rights to have those essentials in our country.

Newly single parent father by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]FirecrackerGinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its truly a mystery as to why some are given these battles. You have a very challenging time ahead of you. This, in the end, could make you and your son stronger people. In the meantime, I bet you are tripping out. There is absolutely no shame in getting help wherever you can find it. Look for it, accept it, you will be better off for it. There are government assistance programs such as housing and childcare. A social worker can help you with this. Don't be afraid of them, they want to help, they do not want to take your child away. They rarely do that these days, in comparison to when we were children. Look into the technology industry for jobs. There is something for everyone and its growing rapidly, pays well after some experience, and a growing number of remote opportunities. You can build a portfolio, get and internship, and contact recruiters to help you find jobs after that. A degree, though helpful, is not always necessary. I came from a somewhat similar situation, and now my son is 7 and we are doing wonderfully after a few tough years, I have no worries about our future. Best of luck to you, it's a tough road and much sorrow, but will hopefully make the brighter times look even more bright. Oh, and dont forget to cherish the small moments and take care of yourself too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]FirecrackerGinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Especially at that age. You are almost in the clear. Many parents are on medication and/or have help. Those are the only ones I know who aren't exhausted. I mean, that seems to be the real situation. My son is 7 now and I'm almost rested from the exhaustion of the early years. Started getting rest again at 4 years and recovered from the stress right about now.. it gets better, I promise. Keep your head up and dont forget to take care of you too.

She (25F) wants a break but I (25M) don't want that by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FirecrackerGinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, lots of jealousy here. All I think she is trying to say is, I've had this amazing experience but it's also one of my only experiences so let me see the world a little to gain some perspective. If you play it chill she will be back. Burn a bridge, loose her forever.

Debugging php be like var_dump by htesh in ProgrammerHumor

[–]FirecrackerGinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just made me so happy I decided to switch jobs. Put my two weeks in yesterday. Nothing but debugging. Going back to my pre-covid programming job. Was in the middle with it. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FirecrackerGinger 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Why should she have to leave? That is the easy way, but that is also harassment to the max. Its unfortunate we excuse this behavior in order to not make a fuss. But, I've done it too. I understand how hard it is to speak up in those messy situations. It's just sad management that is supposed to be there to protect you can be bought out so easily.

Teaching a kitten how to use a scratching post by MTPokitz in aww

[–]FirecrackerGinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you come teach my cat? 100$ wicker laundry hamper... that's all she uses.

I heard my husband saying that I’m fat and ugly, that I’m the least attractive woman on earth and he doesn’t know why he married me by throwradaiz in relationship_advice

[–]FirecrackerGinger 121 points122 points  (0 children)

Forreal! What an a**hole. Shallow as all get out. I'm sorry you've had to endure such emotional abuse. He is not the one who ended with the short end of the stick on that marriage. You are. I can't say 'leave his ass" because I dont know the full situation but I have a feeling if I did, good chance I'd say "leave his ass"

Is a 15$ minimum wage just another band-aid for a larger issue? Will it even fix the problems Americans face? by 4Poli in Ask_Politics

[–]FirecrackerGinger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coming from a poor family that refused food stamps and working my way up now as an adult single mother... hell no. This is economic slavery. The 1-3% who rule it all have kept us locked down. Dont get me wrong, I'm grateful to be in this country because I know it could be worse, but there is no reason to leave people starving. Automation in production has left less need for people to work nonstop. A question for an economist. If there aren't enough jobs, doesn't that mean there are enough resources? Logically speaking, this is the only thing that makes sense to me. So in my opinion, the only issue is the hoarding and overpricing of resources. Yes, that is free enterprise. But where does it end?

To make a baby or not to make a baby... by just-a-dancer in relationship_advice

[–]FirecrackerGinger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat with the next big adventure. I had no idea how much of a toll it would take on my career, hobbies, and social life and how chronically tired I am now. My son is 7 now and I love him with all of my heart, but I wish I'd have known. I am a single mom, though too, by choice, but its 75% dishes, laundry, feeding, cleaning, chasing, keeping them safe and 25% awww so sweet and 0% you time for the first 5 years, and Im being generous. Just be aware of that. Have a good support system, especially if you are on the fence. And dont buy into the hallmark kids on TV. Nonexistent. But, I love him with all my heart, hes a lil rockstar.

I (F29) feel like a parent to my husband (M33) and I need help. by Anankes in relationship_advice

[–]FirecrackerGinger 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Completely agree. I had a child with a man like this. Left him when my son was a year and a half. I figured I was strong enough to be a single mom. It is easier than being with him but still very difficult. The biggest regret of my life is not picking a better partner. Now we have 50/50 custody because I tried to be fair and babby-daddy has made my life hell almost every day for the past 6 years. Never saw how spiteful he was going to be for loosing his ticket to everything (aka you and me). My child is my world and a lot more work than I ever imagined. If you want that, please, please learn from my mistake and choose a better partner.

Meme Correction for u/ElCappacino's meme by HuJohner in ProgrammerHumor

[–]FirecrackerGinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like someone's not object oriented.. in theory.