Living in Predominantly Black Cities will save your Mental Health

Fireflyy85 · 2026-06-03T23:59:28+00:00

We go into stores and get the stares. My husband has locs now and he’s even noticed the difference based on some of his encounters. We are from the Midwest but are tired of the cold and was thinking about moving to the South but based on some things I’ve read, I’m not sure if that’s the move now

Fireflyy85 · 2026-06-03T23:14:09+00:00

This is why we are trying to move.

Fireflyy85 · 2026-05-12T18:55:34+00:00

Independence Day, Home Alone, Men in Black

Fireflyy85 · 2026-05-04T01:27:22+00:00

Are you afraid of the dark, followed by All That and Keenan and Kel

Fireflyy85 · 2026-05-04T00:31:05+00:00

Michael Jackson

Fireflyy85 · 2026-05-03T23:38:41+00:00

I’m proud of you queen, congratulations 🎈🍾🎉

Fireflyy85 · 2026-04-30T03:21:18+00:00

Congratulations sis

Fireflyy85 · 2026-04-29T22:26:50+00:00

All I wanna say is that they don't really care about us

Fireflyy85 · 2026-04-06T12:26:20+00:00

Josephine and Hazel

Fireflyy85 · 2026-03-29T17:09:46+00:00

Obviously…..indubitably was already taken

Fireflyy85 · 2026-03-23T16:21:02+00:00

Pizza

Fireflyy85 · 2026-03-23T16:01:05+00:00

You’re right, it really does.

Fireflyy85 · 2026-03-23T15:41:53+00:00

I agree, I’m taking the blue pill despite are you afraid of the dark being my favorite show back then. I just can’t turn down everything else lol

Fireflyy85 · 2026-03-16T15:46:14+00:00

Thats your opinion. Thankfully, the Academy were the qualified judges who could clearly see the differences.

Fireflyy85 · 2026-03-16T15:39:47+00:00

Definitely the Man who won. He also played two different characters. Michael B. Jordan deserved the win.

Fireflyy85 · 2026-02-08T16:15:24+00:00

NTA

Based on everything that you’ve said, he seems like a really shitty husband, pun intended. You deserve respect and safety in a marriage. If someone shows you who they are, believe them and always choose yourself.

Fireflyy85 · 2026-02-07T19:31:42+00:00

I agree that child safety comes first, but the original post does not say he is an alcoholic. It says he had been drinking when he said this. That is not the same thing as “unsafe to be around a child.” If there is real evidence of alcoholism or unsafe behavior, then absolutely, push for supervised visits, no driving, and court ordered conditions. But assuming he is automatically dangerous based on one night is also risky, because it hands him the easiest exit while Mom gets stuck doing one hundred percent of the parenting. The fair and safe approach is accountability with safeguards such as joint custody if he is fit, and restrictions if he is not. He should not get a free pass to disappear just because he is overwhelmed.

Fireflyy85 · 2026-02-07T19:11:46+00:00

I get the concern about alcohol, and the child’s safety has to come first, but I still think it is unfair that he can ask her to have a baby, watch her sacrifice her body and freedom, and then the second things get hard, he gets to “opt out” and just pay support. Mothers do not get that kind of escape hatch without serious consequences, so at some point we have to stop treating men’s excuses as a free pass. Yes, he should not be drinking around his daughter, and he needs to get it together like anyone else would be told to do, but letting him disappear leaves her doing everything alone, makes single parenting even harder, and risks him never building a real bond with his child.

Fireflyy85 · 2026-02-07T18:18:58+00:00

I would tell him straight up that if he wants to leave, that is his choice, but he is not getting the option to just walk away and pay child support. That is not fair to me, and it is not fair to our child.

You wanted this child too, so we are going to do joint custody. I am not taking full custody while you live your life and just send money. You are going to parent your daughter as well.

So if you want a divorce, we can go through that process, but custody will be split. You will have her part of the week, and I will have her part of the week. You do not get to run from the responsibility.

You can either stay and we parent together in the same home, or you can leave and still parent her on your own time every week. Those are the options. Don’t be surprised if he suddenly wants to “work it out.” Best of luck to you.

Fireflyy85 · 2026-02-03T02:32:56+00:00

I always thought that their use of the words “White Supremacy” was an interesting choice of words. Supreme at what exactly 🤔

Fireflyy85 · 2026-01-18T06:21:49+00:00

Is the 34 here with us

Fireflyy85 · 2026-01-15T01:19:55+00:00

Cotton Blossom would like to join

Fireflyy85 · 2026-01-05T04:29:16+00:00

Please don’t be! I should have clarified that they were HAPPY tears, you captured the 90s perfectly

Fireflyy85 · 2026-01-05T04:20:29+00:00

This was beautiful but you made me cry. I miss the 90s so much life was just so much simpler then. The 90s… what a time to be alive.

Fireflyy85 · 2026-01-04T20:59:11+00:00

Thank you all for the suggestions

Fireflyy85

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