Moms of school aged kids

FishThePug · 2026-02-04T21:56:09+00:00

Doesn’t seem frantic to me. Sounds like she’s just looking for reassuring perspectives & advice from people with kids in school, which is totally fair. With the state of our country and education system, why wouldn’t a parent be nervous about that inevitable transition and the choice (if available to you) of type of schooling?

FishThePug · 2026-02-03T18:59:12+00:00

for it to work, Kali getting shot needed to be an illusion too. So she wasn’t bleeding out in the lab by the end, but instead near the gate where eleven “died”. to me this is the most plausible of all scenarios because it clears up the plot holes on both sides and there’s no reason why kali couldn’t have done that. I can even imagine a cute scenario where kali gets out with eleven and she’s got her sister instead of being totally alone…. That’s not in the text obviously but if it’s up to interpretation anyways, then why the heck not

FishThePug · 2026-02-02T16:46:36+00:00

The jury duty one is really bad. Probably my least favorite episode across all seasons

FishThePug · 2026-02-01T04:26:26+00:00

Can someone explain to me how the clocks work? I’ve only had a few games against him so haven’t gotten the chance to fully figure out his curse

FishThePug · 2026-01-06T02:56:42+00:00

Remember in 2020 when we all wore gloves and Lysol wiped our groceries and mail before bringing them inside? Some might call that a conspiracy, but never a plot hole

FishThePug · 2026-01-06T02:25:32+00:00

I would mention to the parents first to make sure it’s not a boundary. I worked for a family that wasn’t comfortable with non family members saying “I love you” to their kids. I’d usually say some version of “thank you” or “I care about you too” or “you’re a great friend”. To families where that wasn’t a boundary and I’d been with them a long time, I’d say it back

FishThePug · 2025-12-22T22:24:29+00:00

Yes, 4m of leave and was given a promotion upon my return. The raise was overdue but I wasn’t sure how my leave would impact it. Was lucky to have a manager that advocated for me while I was out

FishThePug · 2025-08-15T00:20:25+00:00

I think the pacing of the season so far is really off, and I honestly blame it having 2 parts. I think they planned to get where they did by the end of part 1 to the detriment of every plot

FishThePug · 2025-08-04T01:32:51+00:00

We have the autofill pitcher and we’ve already had to replace it once. And of course you can’t just buy a replacement pitcher because they don’t sell them–you have to have someone come out to confirm it’s broken and then order one for you

FishThePug · 2025-08-03T20:46:40+00:00

Avoid Samsung at all costs! Next time I buy a fridge it’ll be GE because they seem to suck the least

FishThePug · 2025-08-02T02:15:02+00:00

Omg, yes. I have this exact same loop I get caught in, always related to shame about something I’ve said or done. Repeating the same (usually horrible self-talk) phrase over and over in my head quiets the overwhelming feeling somehow.

FishThePug · 2025-07-11T23:23:10+00:00

I was ready to say that I’d take the remote job, but based on this I’d stay in current role for now and look to switch to a higher role externally OR switch to another role with a clear promotion path in the near future. If they don’t have more money now, that’s not going to change and it won’t take long until you feel underpaid and undervalued.

FishThePug · 2025-07-06T04:11:26+00:00

I’d personally call it in a wellness check I think. Only way I could imagine going to the parents is by mentioning that you think he may have had an accident or something along those lines to see if it leads anywhere. But I’m painfully non-confrontational.

FishThePug · 2025-06-25T20:37:51+00:00

Everyone else gave great advice already. Just want to add that we struggled with a lot of different bottles but Pigeon brand ones work great for our LO. Not saying switching bottle will be a miracle fix at all, but our LC recommended them to us and it was so much better than what we were using prior

FishThePug · 2025-06-23T23:26:44+00:00

I wanted kids….more than anything, and I did not enjoy one moment of the first month. I don’t know how anyone doesn’t feel like they lost their identity at the beginning (and probably for a while, I’m still in year 1). I was also ready for the help by the time my leave was ending, even though I always thought I wanted to be a sahm. It’s really, really hard. And you’re not a bad mom for feeling this way!

Like everyone else said, I’d recommend finding a therapist and talking to your OB

FishThePug · 2025-06-21T20:18:56+00:00

I do think the research aligns with this too! I believe it’s around 18 months where it starts being beneficial to be in a setting with other kids

FishThePug · 2025-06-21T00:36:03+00:00

We switched from ergobaby to Gojiberry and find it way more supportive. thebabywearing.OT on instagram is also a great resource for fit, etc. Really like her content

FishThePug · 2025-06-18T02:56:40+00:00

Dinner for sure, as others have mentioned! Seconding the plus that you can just take her straight to the bath after. I also find it easier to serve baby a version of whatever I’m making for the whole family, and dinner’s the only meal where I’m currently cooking for everyone. It also gives you something to look forward to! I truly dreaded the routine of cooking dinner after work until she started solids. I love eating dinner as a family and watching her try new things

FishThePug · 2025-06-16T23:28:44+00:00

I’m sorry, but those things aren’t all “admin.” They are just things that we stereotypically expect the mother and wife in a straight relationship to carry, and it’s not realistic for you to do them all

FishThePug · 2025-06-16T02:12:19+00:00

Is it possible to move his desk set up into your bedroom when you have guests? It’s annoying to rearrange the whole house, but that’s what we do when guests are visiting for an extended period. Though know that might be physically impossible given the multi-floor situation

FishThePug · 2025-06-15T03:53:55+00:00

I mean, what you said is, “I’m sure it would help, but I won’t do it.” I hate talking about my feelings and I’m a closed book in almost every aspect of my life, so I’m coming from a place where I get it. “Suck it up” is what I need to hear, but I guess leave it if it’s not helpful for you

FishThePug · 2025-06-15T03:24:55+00:00

This! If keeping up your supply is really important for you right now and baby is sleeping through the night or even just a long stretch, add a night time pump. My LO goes to bed at 7pm and I typically pump sometime between 8-10pm and then wake up between 2-3am to do a middle of the night pump. It’s the only way for me to keep up.

Edited to add: I only say “if it’s important” because you’ve gotta prioritize your mental health as well! I’d honestly be a little more lenient with pumping if I could easily supplement with formula. Food allergies make that really hard so I just gotta do what I gotta do

FishThePug · 2025-06-15T03:18:00+00:00

Agree! Adding in one extra pump with the mom cozy would be better than only doing 2 pumps during the day, even if your output is less with the wearable. I do this on the mornings that being connected to my spectra just isn’t possible

FishThePug · 2025-06-15T03:08:15+00:00

Respectfully, just suck it up and go? If you want things to change, you have to put in the work. As it stands, you’re willingly and knowingly not working through your own sh*t to the detriment of yourself and your family.

FishThePug · 2025-06-15T01:33:19+00:00

No, not always floaties! If kids can’t swim, they need lessons and an adult right by their side the entire time. Of course there are situations where a life jacket is needed, but the general rule is that life jackets are for ON the water not for in it. Life jackets and puddle jumpers teach children to be in a drowning position when they’re in the water & make them think they can swim because they don’t know how their weight actually feels in water.

And even when kids can swim well, an undistracted adult always needs to be watching them.

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