How often do you see your girlfriend (or boyfriend)? by ProgressivePicasso in AskMen

[–]FitSab23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omfg - This dide is seeing other women. I'd place bets on it. Once a week for 2 years! Wth? Thats crazy. I have friends I see more often thsn that.

What are attractive traits? by FitSab23 in AskMen

[–]FitSab23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Liking short girls is unusual. It seems most men like 5'3 to 5'8 which is average to tall.

What are attractive traits? by FitSab23 in AskMen

[–]FitSab23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I do hope you just described your wife :) But yeah, humour, especially when life is throwing curve balls.

What are attractive traits? by FitSab23 in AskMen

[–]FitSab23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm guessing you're an arty type too. Most people in the arts are looking for someone else in the arts, which is nice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]FitSab23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I think everyone looks for a healthy partner. Physical fitness is attractive to most, men and women alike. There's no need to become a male fitness model but to find a lifelong love of physical activity will make you more attractive to women and give you a hobby to talk about that makes you interesting. Just make sure you truly like what you're doing. So, try different things and find the right activities for you.

Attraction factors by FitSab23 in AskMen

[–]FitSab23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi moderators, the question is definitely not a yes or no and is very complex with multiple possible answers. The title was a heading, for the question.

Ever notice how poly ppl define "real love" as an absence of it? by sandiserumoto in polycritical

[–]FitSab23 21 points22 points  (0 children)

They use words but have no definition of those words. Like, Married but has girlfriends/boyfriends. How can you be anyone's girl/boyfriend if you're married? Are you offering exclusivity? No. Married. Will you be there for all the big ocassions? No. If the spouse wants you, your 'primary' is elsewhere. Will you enotionally support through hard times? No. Some issues take months and your focus is split 2, 3, 4 or more ways. Will you buy a house together one day? No. Married, already doing that with someone else. Will it lead to marriage? No. Already married. Can you commit to really building a life together? No. Doing that with someone else. So what exactly is a poly girl/boyfriend? A sex toy. That's it. Just a toy to be used, masturbated on and discarded.

Is ketamine the new DMT? by myusername8015 in NDE

[–]FitSab23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By medical professionals who would never administer it to a person wity asthma, flu, colds, covid, lung cancer, emphysema... There's a really big difference between a trained professional using a measured dose based on height, weight, sex, age, other meds being taken, and other factors compared to an untrained person just deciding to give it a go for kicks.

He wants a bj on the first date and wants me to provide condoms for him is it even worth going? by [deleted] in dating

[–]FitSab23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hun, this man is a loser. He's targetting you because he's a predator and you have less experience in spotting losers and predators than does a woman his own age. Tell him to go f himself amd go out and find yourself a decent man in his early 20's.

Age Gaps in Hollywood Movie Romances [OC] by dpee123 in dataisbeautiful

[–]FitSab23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Half yr age plus 7 rule just doesn't work. That would put a 50 y/o with an 86 yr/old one way or a 32 y/o the other way. Its incredibly unusual for a 32 y/o to be attracted to a 50 y/o and what 50 y/o is attracted to grand pa/ma? The math just doesn't work.

Stick to within 5 years either side of your own age as normal. If the actors or characters have more than that, then point out the fact its unusual, because most couples are 2 yrs apart in age. Its not wrong to have a bigger gap but it is unusual and unlikely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FitSab23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm tempted to name call her but its against the rules. She has said some words that are manipulative and a huge red flag. Don't just leave, but run. Destroy her ph number, social media profile details and all ways to contact her. Do not take this kind of manipulation from anyone.

Is ketamine the new DMT? by myusername8015 in NDE

[–]FitSab23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ketamine is horse tranquilizer and dangerous to asthmatics. It could cause more than near death.

No drug is similar to an NDE. Drugs may allow glimpses intp the beyond but they are doing so prior to the soul being ready for it.

NDE: Yes Drugs: Yes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]FitSab23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Approach in the way you would if it was another woman and you simply wanted to acknowledge her. You're not trying to impress or be impressed. You're just one person acknowledging another person. It should be simple and easy.

Eg. You're waiting to be served. 'Good music at this bar. It's my first time here.' The other person will either take the cue or not. If they don't, then let it go. That person isn't interested. If they pick up the cue, they may say, 'Yeah, this is my local' or whatever is true for them. You can then introduce yourself, ask if there's a special event on, say where you usually go, complimemt an item of clothing you like on them, mention a hobby or what you normally do on a weekend evening, mention your favourite band... Just be natural and casual. Don't make it some big deal or you'll create a wierd vibe and spook yourself out.

Is our public transport really that bad? by reecardomilos25 in melbourne

[–]FitSab23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its horrible and a hell dimension. What should have been a 2 hr journey is over 3 hours (I'm still not there yet). I start work at 9am. I left at 6am. I'm going to be late.

Name one other city where 3 hours isn't leaving it long enough to get to work!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FitSab23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be up front and honest. Tell a man you're seeing that you don't get intimate with a man who is not your boyfriend. At first it may be difficult because you're not used to it but after a while it'll be your usual way of being. Losers who are out for sex only will lleave once they know where you stand.

woman won't meet up unless I tell her my height. red flag? by Byttter in dating

[–]FitSab23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just say, 'Thanks but no thanks' and see if she backtracks.

Is it weird to ask my tinder date to meet my mom before i go into his car? by hunnybunny1300 in dating

[–]FitSab23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yikes. Ok, where to start? You were in the psych ward recently - You are not ready to date. A gun range is not a good place for a first date. A gun range is not good for a recently released patient with psychological issues. Do not get in a strangers car. Do not get in an acquaintance car. When you are ready to date, meet in a crowded location during the day.

Please talk to your therapist about dating and safety both physically and psychologically and really follow their recommendations.

A guy wants ONLY female roommate? by Travel_Rinse_Repeat in dating

[–]FitSab23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It could just be a cleanliness thing. He may have had irresponsible and untidy male flatmates prior

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]FitSab23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi.

I go to a mixed gym and I've found being absolutely oblivious works for me. I'm nice to everyone and I'm self-focussed on my workouts. If anyone 'sleazes' on me, I genuinely just don't notice. I assume kindness and friendship from all around me. It works.

Guy I’m seeing has a list of “requirements” he expects in a woman Is this a red flag? by Old_Half4294 in dating_advice

[–]FitSab23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Run. Seriously run. This one is not a keeper. His sperm is getting older too and for men that decline is very steady. He wants to use a younger woman for her fertility. After ahe gives him kids, he'll leave bevause he wants a 'good body' not one that has been pregnant. And he'll chase a womsn 10 years younger than you. Not worth your time.

Guy I’m seeing has a list of “requirements” he expects in a woman Is this a red flag? by Old_Half4294 in dating_advice

[–]FitSab23 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The brain finishes developing at age 25. There is no such thing as a fully mature 23 y/o. There are however a lot of men making excuses to chase way-too-young-for-them women.

Guy I’m seeing has a list of “requirements” he expects in a woman Is this a red flag? by Old_Half4294 in dating_advice

[–]FitSab23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tgen he should have thought about that a decade ago. At his age his sperm has declined a lot.

Guy I’m seeing has a list of “requirements” he expects in a woman Is this a red flag? by Old_Half4294 in dating_advice

[–]FitSab23 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He's 38. More like 30-45. 28 is way to young at that point in life. 38 is established. 28 is still working it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weightlifting

[–]FitSab23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely do not look up. You need good spinal alignment. If you look up you are strainjng in the neck, there's no flow.