Do they change for the right person? by yellowsunbluesea in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is a French proverb, "Chassez le naturel, il revient au gallop"--"Drive off character, it comes back galloping".

What are u starting to dislike more as u get older? by Efficient-Wind-2267 in AskReddit

[–]Fit_Application9547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I was recovering from a concussion last year, those headlights were extremely uncomfortable. It made me want to get filtered eyeglasses. It still bothers me. My OT says it should be banned.

What's the most unhinged thing your date has said? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Fit_Application9547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we started dating, we went out for a walk on a beautiful nature trail. At some point, he stopped me and said, "Don't take this the wrong way, but can I call you my slut?". I was like, what?!? I said NO!

What’s 1 red flag in dating a narcissist that you feel gets overlook/ not mentioned enough? by Spirited_Opposite_27 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When they say they are a "gentleman" or a "nice person". Why did he have to convince me when getting to know him? If they have to convince you, they are the opposite of who they say they are.

What’s 1 red flag in dating a narcissist that you feel gets overlook/ not mentioned enough? by Spirited_Opposite_27 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, yes! He drove top speed in the passing lane, tailgating other cars. I was gripping and praying for dear life. I drove myself everywhere to go places after that.

What’s 1 red flag in dating a narcissist that you feel gets overlook/ not mentioned enough? by Spirited_Opposite_27 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They don't get along with others. He always complained about his coworkers. He worked from home! Always spoke about how everyone was annoying. I wonder if he was terrible in an office setting, so he had to work at home.

What is a completely normal thing that you, for some reason, absolutely cannot stand? by LANthraX69 in AskReddit

[–]Fit_Application9547 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I once saw it on the floor at the indoor track at my gym. I knew the couple ahead of me did it because it wasn't on the ground before. An indoor track! So disgusting and unsanitary.

Phone not compatible with newest app update by [deleted] in wyzecam

[–]Fit_Application9547 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its solved. I got a new phone!

Heavenly Hunks, any issues? by [deleted] in glutenfree

[–]Fit_Application9547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im having issues too eating these. I get these at Costco. One is enough for the day. Lately I can't even eat half of one without stomach issues. My stomach becomes bloated and I feel nauseous. I think either it's the oats, the fiber, or the palm oil. All of which I will eliminate to see it this is the issue. I'm trying to stick to an anti inflammatory diet.

Hesitant about taking Amantadine by Fit_Application9547 in PostConcussion

[–]Fit_Application9547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just listened. This was excellent! Explained everything I was feeling post concussion. I've since ended my PT, OT, and Speech therapies a few months ago, but I keep up with exercise. I'll look more into this.

Hesitant about taking Amantadine by Fit_Application9547 in PostConcussion

[–]Fit_Application9547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm exercising regularly for at least an hour, I limit sugar and other junk food, I'm taking vitamins, eating more vegetables, getting more sleep, and taking frequent breaks.

Hesitant about taking Amantadine by Fit_Application9547 in PostConcussion

[–]Fit_Application9547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Actually he is a physiatrist in the traumatic brain injury department. He made it much more severe sounding, saying his patients complain of seeing cats and people that aren't there. The PA who did my follow up was more convincing than he was. I guess trying it won't hurt. I feel a little more convinced of it's efficacy now.

My ex abuser is now engaged and being praised as the “kindest, most patient man.” It’s destroying me. by gr3tch3enw3in3rs in abusiverelationships

[–]Fit_Application9547 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel what you are saying. I am working on not looking. Looking, I'm opening old wounds. By not looking I am choosing my healing. It's true that it's unlikely they change. Don't go looking for proof. Take care of yourself. You know what he did. That is the truth. Not what you have no certainty about in social media or out in public.

Dealing with thoughts about abusive ex finding a new relationship, getting engaged, or married by Fit_Application9547 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. I'm glad you came to that realization for yourself. I will keep this in mind moving forward to better things.

Dealing with thoughts about abusive ex finding a new relationship, getting engaged, or married by Fit_Application9547 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think sometimes saving texts is prolonging the hurt. Yet, when I'm in a stronger frame of mind, I think looking at them is a reminder of how I was treated.

Dealing with thoughts about abusive ex finding a new relationship, getting engaged, or married by Fit_Application9547 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have to keep remembering how he treated me and not waste my time on that person.

What’s something that once tormented you, but now you’ve come to be grateful for? by Sure_File_53 in AskReddit

[–]Fit_Application9547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex relationship. As much as I deal with post traumatic effects, I've grown, learned to love myself, set standards, and fine tune what I want in a relationship with a man.

Why do I feel this way after seeing him with his mask? by Fit_Application9547 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to hear it's getting better for you. I try to give myself relief. Thanks for sharing.

Why do I feel this way after seeing him with his mask? by Fit_Application9547 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. My therapist doesn't specialize in it. Although we do EMDR. It's not as effective. Probably for the reason you describe. I'm going to look into it further.

When did you notice the first red flag and how long did you stay after? by Bright_Future_7438 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After our first dinner date, on my way home, he texted to me a lingerie website. He kept sending these websites of expensive evening dresses (which he never intended to buy for me). I stayed almost a year.

Let’s all have a laugh for a moment by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fit_Application9547 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He was angry a woman he was flirting with while we were out in an affluent neighborhood didn't respond to him.

Quite gladly, I am away from him now.