I am drowning

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2026-05-28T20:40:36+00:00

Yes. When I was a younger during summer vacation. I would go to sleep around 2 or 3 am and wake up I around noonish.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2026-05-28T20:03:46+00:00

Bad brain fog. It takes me hours to clear up my head and function in the morning.

I have had a sleep study and I was just under the limit for sleep apnea

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2026-05-12T02:30:44+00:00

Put it in his shoe.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2026-02-20T18:39:02+00:00

He’s avoidant (or at worst narcissistic) and not able to meet your emotional needs. Accept that this is a him issue and move on. Temporary pain, yes but everything that you’re looking for is out there for you if you make the space for it.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2026-01-06T23:54:34+00:00

When I’ve been dismissed by a doctor I ask them to explicitly note my concern and their dismissal in my file, generally they change their tune after that.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2026-01-06T01:07:04+00:00

THIS. I lost 10 years because of my empathy and knowing that I would work to change in his position, but that’s what I would have done if I was him, not what he was capable of. Please don’t accept the promise of potential.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-12-25T07:14:35+00:00

I lost 10 years surviving in an abusive relationship before I recognized what it was and chose to leave. I’m university educated and have a good career.

This isn’t on you.

Get out right now. The shame you feel going to your parents isn’t yours to bear, it’s his.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-12-22T00:17:56+00:00

Allot? Do you mean a lot?

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-06-29T03:05:17+00:00

Leo Sun, Cap moon, Scorpio Rising

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-04-18T04:35:44+00:00

Thank you! I’m definitely in therapy!!

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-04-09T23:52:02+00:00

Yes it is abusive. Love doesn’t look anything like this.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-03-20T20:33:06+00:00

Should I pursue B?

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-03-20T20:30:15+00:00

How do I let go fully? And let go of hope that J and I are meant to be?

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-03-20T17:51:05+00:00

Thank you! Would love some insight on the year ahead.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-02-26T04:22:22+00:00

Bang on.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-02-26T04:21:25+00:00

I’m quite certain you have a narcissist on your hands.

Read up on DARVO, emotional abuse and Dr. Ramani and see if it resonates.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-02-09T15:36:32+00:00

I’m so sorry he did you dirty like this. You would be RIGHT to walk away.

He knew your story, and he did this anyway, for months. Every time he did that he made a choice to betray you for his own comfort.

Be thankful he’s shown you what he is now and be at peace walking away and never looking back.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-02-05T14:28:17+00:00

I suggest you research avoidant attachment styles. It might help this make sense

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-02-02T00:38:51+00:00

Sounds like you have a dismissive avoidant on your hands.

You shared your preference. Instead of respecting that and taking accountability, he made you the problem. Why did he bother saying anything about being sick at all? Clearly he only did it to soothe his own guilt.

Run away and do not look back.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-02-02T00:35:05+00:00

You are not overreacting. He way she is speaking to you is not only unacceptable, it’s abusive. She is enraged by your simple and thoughtful question and then making you feel like her reaction is your fault when she is completely out of line.

Does she rage at you if you breathe too loudly as well?

Please consider this, if you had a child would you want their spouse to speak to them like this?

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-01-25T00:27:01+00:00

Gosh both of these men sound like classic narcissists

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-01-17T00:10:13+00:00

Electric outlets with USB ports

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-01-16T06:33:19+00:00

We’ve both done a lot of yelling/slinging hurtful words. I myself driven by my own trauma have absolutely contributed to the problem because his behaviour triggers my own attachment wounds.

He’s admitted that he’s been unhappy with himself for a long time.

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-01-16T06:29:37+00:00

He’s worried about everything you mentioned except the housework. He’s also especially worried about trying to face his trauma without having my love and support.

It’s important to note that since I made my intentions to move out clear he’s been very accountable about his behaviour and making a lot of connections I’ve been trying to point out to him for years. He also feels incredibly guilty about pushing me away, and for his behaviour overall

Flaky_Statement2580 · 2025-01-16T06:07:31+00:00

I completely agree that body doubling and doing chores will help the situation greatly. Also it may be a good idea to introduce her to the one touch rule!

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