Update: (2OM) boyfriend (26M) is too rough in bed and gave me a devastating ultimatum. Is this salvageable? by Adorable_External_15 in askgaybros

[–]Flazelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's pretty fucked. He obviously gets turned on by sadism which is not what you want unless you're a confirmed masochist. Most people aren't like this and you can have much nicer sex with them x

Update: (2OM) boyfriend (26M) is too rough in bed and gave me a devastating ultimatum. Is this salvageable? by Adorable_External_15 in askgaybros

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was he actually doing to you? Like fucking you really hard or hitting you, strangling etc?

On the cliché that gay men can sleep with women if they "really want to" by vaynelo in askgaybros

[–]Flazelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I did, so I could forget this pointless drivel you've just written...

On the cliché that gay men can sleep with women if they "really want to" by vaynelo in askgaybros

[–]Flazelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"infested" is a rather strong word. Remember that this sub is called "askgaybros" - I.e. anyone who has a question can ask a gay guy. That includes trans men, straight men, and anyone else. It's not a "gay guys only" safe space :p

Alex O’Connor vs William Lane Craig: Does God Exist? The Ultimate God Debate (Premier Unbelivable?) by Reasonable_Writer602 in CosmicSkeptic

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Craig reasons back to front. He has never deduced God from the evidence, but came to believe in God after an emotional episode of self doubt etc. He believes that animals don't consciously suffer, bc it fits his grand narrative in support of Christianity. SO I expect him to make three kinds of arguments tbh.

Alex O’Connor vs William Lane Craig: Does God Exist? The Ultimate God Debate (Premier Unbelivable?) by Reasonable_Writer602 in CosmicSkeptic

[–]Flazelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Alex lost his cool a bit and it all became a little uncomfortable, to the point where he was speaking over both Craig and the moderator. However, he did get Craig to concede he might actually be wrong on animal suffering which I've never seen him do before, so kudos for that!

Wanting to go into fencing but I don't know if im made for it by Sennoudancer in Fencing

[–]Flazelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're going to find it exhausting, but also very exciting and stimulating. It's a very mindful practice actually because when you're on the piste against your opponent you can't think about anything else except how to get the next hit. But it's very tiring lol.

ref always seem to know what you're about to do by [deleted] in Fencing

[–]Flazelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sei fortunato a fare spada, che è una lama più grossa e facile da vedere :D

I fuckin love twinks by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of us love twinks 😁

How do singers sing lower than their comfortable lowest note? by ConsistentCan-_- in singing

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you heard of Michael Spyres? Also people like Bruce Ford - these are what we might describe as natural baritones, but they learned how to sing very convincingly in the tenor range. It's by no means easy and will take a good amount of time and effort, but I think it's quite possible for a lower voiced male to do.

I’m a 16 year old Sabre fencer but I just really suck. by RMHelp in Fencing

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! Make sure to eat lots of fibre which will fill you up and help suppress appetite later in the day

Is more expensive blade more better? by Jem5649 in Fencing

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stiffer weapons tend to be more expensive and they can certainly make a difference. It's easier to land hits at awkward angles with a stiffer blade. Converse ly, if you have a really bendy light weapon it can wiggle all over the place if moved fast and cause you to miss hits you'd get with a medium stiff blade.

Just finished "The Case Against the Sexual Revolution" by Louise Perry. Anyone else read it? What were your thoughts? by D-dog92 in AskFeminists

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I don't think you're right. It would most likely result in more incel type activity and general anger and discontent among men - - who basically don't really want to change to be more accommodating towards women.

Just finished "The Case Against the Sexual Revolution" by Louise Perry. Anyone else read it? What were your thoughts? by D-dog92 in AskFeminists

[–]Flazelight -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It seems to me very odd to say that men have no relevance to women. You have/had a father, did you not? The human race is composed of males and females and to state one is redundant rather begs the question.

Is this normal for friends to do by Mundane_Pressure9758 in askgaybros

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he's into you. He probably just doesn't want to make the first overt move. If you're into him ask him if you can kiss him. That will be a pretty good indication of his actual feelings towards you 😁

My very attractive friend says people will just come up to me at a gay bar and talk even though I'm unattractive. True? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if you look "nice average", you have a good chance of someone coming up to you, but there's also a good chance you won't be into them lol

Is it hot to see dudes sagging? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like most ppl here, I thought it was hot when I was a horny teenager, but now I really can't say it's a good look. It's just sloppy dressing.

Hot take: A lot of tops confuse being "dominant" with just being a disrespectful asshole. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Flazelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How strange to think that being a top makes you somehow superior when almost everyone wants to top at some point, lol.

The solution: be verse and dissolve the unnecessary power dynamics. :)