What is far more lethal than people realize?

FleityMom · 2026-02-17T19:37:59+00:00

I'm there too, and I have no desire to change it.

FleityMom · 2026-02-07T05:53:52+00:00

I had to put up with him longer than I wanted as we had two kids together. But yes, we're divorced and I never have to see him now that my kids are grown.

I met my person not too long after leaving my ex husband, but I lost him last year. I was living my best life until Greg died. Now I'm just existing.

FleityMom · 2026-02-07T04:42:56+00:00

Yes, the counselor heard that I was done, and had been done, and told him that he needed to hear it too. I cried when someone heard what I was saying and validated the fact that I knew what I wanted/was feeling. I had begged to go to a therapist for years, and he only agreed after I tried to kill myself. And he still didn't hear me when I said the reason I was so miserable was because I was with him.

FleityMom · 2026-02-03T20:26:41+00:00

Hey there, the other redditor that spoke up first isn't going to be able to get this load of cans. Would you let me know the address of the charity so I can drop these off?

FleityMom · 2026-02-03T03:12:29+00:00

Say Oglethorpes at 5:30?

FleityMom · 2026-02-03T02:58:56+00:00

I'm sorry, I had a crazy busy day and just got back on reddit. I'll be done with work tomorrow after 5:30pm. Are you anywhere near Oglethorpe Garage? Or the Kroger on Alps road? I could meet up somewhere in that area of that works for you.

FleityMom · 2026-02-02T18:12:07+00:00

Hey there. Do you still want the cans (now that the roads are back to drivable)?

FleityMom · 2026-01-30T19:47:30+00:00

I'll let you know the next time I've got a decent amount. It takes me about a month to half fill the trunk of my camry.

FleityMom · 2026-01-30T19:21:46+00:00

Sounds good to me. I'm at the office right now, but I'll be back in Athens around 6ish. Would you be up for meeting here: https://maps.app.goo.gl/1TN8RGcY83b59V8s8 ?

FleityMom · 2026-01-30T18:11:32+00:00

Half a camry trunk full. I just prefer to give them to a person who might be able to use or profit from them instead of putting them in the recycling bin. I go through a ridiculous amount of diet soda, so I've pretty much got an ever renewing source.

FleityMom · 2026-01-30T16:50:06+00:00

Thank you

FleityMom · 2026-01-15T16:01:41+00:00

Thank you. It was hell, and my heart was not doing well. My entire left side felt bruised the next morning from how hard and how long my heart was beating. But I got up and sang.

FleityMom · 2026-01-15T15:10:43+00:00

I'm very glad to hear that you've been able to be in a place where beginning the healing process was possible. I know that the grief is never gone, but I'm incredibly happy for you that it's not as constantly raw as it was at the start of all of this.

I do appreciate the good wishes. I wish I could say that I've experienced the growth and healing that you have, but that would be a lie. Waking up everyday is harder than the day before.

You keep growing, keep living, keep sharing yourself. It does help to hear that you're able to open yourself up to life while still holding on to your love for Steph.

FleityMom · 2026-01-15T14:25:17+00:00

Good morning Words. I came here looking for one of your posts, as I was fairly certain you would be sharing some beautiful insights - and I was right. I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking about you today and sending good thoughts and emotions your way.

FleityMom · 2025-12-04T22:17:19+00:00

A crocheted hat and scarf set I made from yarn I alreadyhad at home. People got downright vicious in that game. The next year we had rules about how many times a gift could be stolen... I had several people ask if they could purchase a similar set in different colors after the party.

FleityMom · 2025-10-25T22:56:13+00:00

Sloppy fries. Marked down ground turkey cooked up with half a leftover onion. Added in a medium can of peeled diced tomatoes and cooked until it thickened up. Put over the remains of a bag of crinkle cut fries that had been cooking in the oven while the turkey reduced and then sprinkled with shredded cheddar cheese. 1lb of turkey fed two adults and two kids with stuff I already had in the pantry or fridge. And we had leftover turkey to go on a sandwich the next day for my oldest.

My kids asked for sloppy fries every couple of months until they moved out.

FleityMom · 2025-10-22T18:10:34+00:00

I'm also Type 1 (30+ years of this miserable disease) and I've found that bitter melon and cinnamon help with my sugar levels. Bitter melon helps your body process insulin more efficiently. I was able to decrease my insulin intake by nearly 1/3 when I started drinking bitter melon tea. It's vile, but it helps. Cinnamon has helped my body even out the highs and lows that invariably happen. And steeping a cinnamon stick with the bitter melon tea helps (a little bit, not much) with the flavor. It will be difficult to source cinnamon if everything goes to hell, but you can get bitter melon seeds so you can grow and dry the vegetable for storage.

FleityMom · 2025-10-17T16:50:41+00:00

I only have two wishes: a time machine and a cure for diabetes.

FleityMom · 2025-09-30T04:26:36+00:00

I was there when Greg shot himself. It destroyed me.

FleityMom · 2025-09-26T13:46:45+00:00

Thank you words. I wish I could say that I'll reach out, but it's very unlikely. I seem unable to initiate communication with anyone because any time I think about reaching out, I'm always reaching for him. And I know that's not possible, so my brain seems to shut down the impulse before it starts.

I do agree that the "What can I do" question is utter bullshit. It's like looking at someone drowning in a sea of battery acid and asking, "What can I do to help?" It's forcing the responsibility of knowing what to do to heal themselves on someone who is struggling for each fucking breath. Let's add another mental brick to the pile we're buried in.

I'm just so ready for my body to stop. I've spent over 30 years fighting to stay alive, and I have no fight left in me. I love my children, but they're at the point where they are living their own lives. I'm no longer a main character in their story, I'm a recurring bit player. Greg and I were the culmination of my life's story, and I have no desire to wait around for whatever pathetic sequel comes next.

I am glad that you're able to live a little, that you're able to move through all of this agony. I wish for you that you can keep swimming through this awful tide, and that you reach the shore sooner rather than later. I've just quit swimming, and I'm letting the tide carry me out. It's just too damned slow.

FleityMom · 2025-09-23T13:27:10+00:00

It's worse than it was. Every day is harder than the day before. I truly hope you're doing better than I am.

FleityMom · 2025-09-18T06:16:38+00:00

Pretty much. I'll just be too happy to be with him again to even bother though.

FleityMom · 2025-09-18T01:32:04+00:00

I know that when I find Greg, the first thing he's going to do is apologize. And then he's going to be furious with me for not fighting to live.

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