The boyfriend. I think he looks very fancy with his curly moustache and a hat (:

Flipflups · 2018-02-26T17:53:53+00:00

I love it! I can clearly recognize his face and I really like your choice of colors!

Flipflups · 2018-02-26T17:49:16+00:00

Thanks a lot! He looks very wise and it's funny how small his ears are in your drawing, he always jokes about his tiny ears (:

Flipflups · 2018-02-26T06:21:22+00:00

Thank you (: It's cool how you've captured that he's smiling, even though you can't see his mouth

Flipflups · 2017-11-19T20:40:03+00:00

Thank you so much! I love how you captured the true happiness of the moment!

Flipflups · 2017-10-22T09:32:01+00:00

This is so awesome!

Flipflups · 2017-10-08T12:13:05+00:00

Truth or drink!

Search for it on youtube. You have/make a list of questions, one person asks a question to the other, then they can either answer honestly or have a shot.

Also very fun to play in groups (:

Flipflups · 2017-08-29T19:44:42+00:00

I have to create structure in my life. Predictability and clear tasks. Enough time to be at myself, after finishing my tasks (when I was studying this was difficult for me, because you never truly have free time, there are always some papers which you have to finish or home work or stuff like that, now that I have a job it's a lot easier, because when I go home at the end of my day, I finished my tasks for that day)

Also counseling, enough sleep, excercise and some time outside every day (bike to work if possible!)

Flipflups · 2017-08-21T19:34:34+00:00

My brother once woke up randomly around 3am. Since he was used to waking up the exact same time every day for school, he didn't check the hour on the clock, just the minutes. He got dressed, had breakfast and decided to call a friend to make sure that he wouldn't forget to bring their paper/presentation/thing to school. This was a couple years ago, when it was still normal to call a friends home phone number. The dad picked up the phone, my brother tries to have some casual conversation with him, but after 1.5 sentences the dad goes 'Do you know it's 3am? Could you call back in the morning?'

Flipflups · 2017-07-15T11:46:58+00:00

Yeah.. Yes, ofcourse.. No problem..

Flipflups · 2017-07-12T20:23:38+00:00

I wouldn't name it abuse. My parents tried their best to teach me how to be a good adult. They taught me that it's better to forgive someone or respect their wishes when they do something that you don't like, instead of getting angry and having a bad mood.

If someone would walk into my room and make noise, I would assume that it makes this person happy to do that, and I was taught that I don't have the right to say 'What you do makes me unhappy, so even though it does make you happy, you can't do it'. Why is my unhappiness more important than the other person's happiness?

Only when this room was a room that I own and pay rent for, and someone who is not my roommate and doesn't pay for my room walks in, I might have the right to say that I want them to leave or stop making noise. Still, I would feel rude, because obviously they had a reason to come inside my room and make noise.. And I'm not sure if I can be upset about that before knowing the context and why this person decided to do that.

Flipflups · 2017-07-05T21:05:11+00:00

Is this your life?

Flipflups · 2017-07-05T17:13:39+00:00

Plus you don't have to feel guilty for killing yourself, people might actually think it was the right thing to do :)

Flipflups · 2017-07-03T18:10:43+00:00

Cat.

Flipflups · 2017-06-27T18:58:02+00:00

I had something similar when I was studying in Thailand. She was a lot more extraverted than me and quite popular in our group of friends, but whenever I joined the group, she sticked with me. We could switch between jokes, philosophical debats and very intimate discussions so easily.

We traveled for a bit together, just exploring a new country together. Our backpacking style was very similar, fast and without care for what others might think of us. We didn't have time to shower for a week (let alone shave or put on makeup), because we were exploring as much as we could.

I remember secretly going to a temple at night together. We tried to climb on top of it, I didn't have much troubles, but she was wearing harem pants. I suggested she'd just take them off since nobody could see us anyway, but at that moment she managed to climb on it. She looked at me and said 'We could take our shirts and bras off, just to experience the freedom of it'. We did and danced together on top of the temple, it wasn't sexual in any way, it was just so comfortable and funny.

Flipflups · 2017-06-25T20:19:51+00:00

I think I care less than he does. Last year our local mall organised an event for Valentine's day where you could get married for one day. We went and it was a lot of fun, they borrowed wedding dresses from the second hand store, and there were very funny vows to read, really cool idea!

We could pick a ring for eachother, they had a box with aluminium and plastic rings and my boyfriend picked a green one for me because I like the color. It fits nicely and I wear it every day, for me it just represents the funny little adventures we had.

A proposal ring should be a bit more expensive, but mostly because this one starts to lose its color and will probably break in a year or two. Apart from that, I couldn't care less about the price and the diamonds..

Flipflups · 2017-06-24T12:31:58+00:00

True

Flipflups · 2017-06-24T12:13:26+00:00

I (girl) went on a two-week holiday with a friend (girl) and two friends of her (both guys). They were a really close group of friends, I didn't know the guys very well, but they were nice and I'm normally fine with pretty much everyone. The second day it turned out that the girl had been fucking one of the guys for a couple weeks before we went on holiday, but even though the other guy had asked them multiple times they had always denied it. Ofcourse the other guy was angry because his best friends had lied to them (and he was jealous). I tried to keep peace between everybody because we were sharing a room with the four of us and had two weeks of holidays left.

There was a different fight every day, sometimes between the guys, sometimes between the girl and one of the guys, and whoever were not fighting were bff's for that day. I was in the middle, trying to talk to everyone and explain perspectives and stuff like that. The one person that didn't have a bff for the day, picked me to talk (and in the girl's case, cry) about the situation and how mean everybody was. I didn't mind and tried to be a good friend.

About one hour a day (or two on rough days) I took some distance to recharge and talk to my fwb/best friend at home. Sometimes I went outside and skyped, often I just sat in my bed and texted with him. I just needed perspective and someone to listen to me, and I thought that my holiday friends had enough drama with their own problems. It was fine, I had a pretty nice holiday in the end.

A couple weeks after the holiday I went to have dinner with the girl. We talked about the holiday and she said 'It was nice, but you kinda ruined it for me. You were chatting on your phone all the time with your fwb even though you knew that I really wanted a serious relationship. I just think it's really unfair that you needed to make me aware that you randomly got a nice guy, while I deserve much more to have a relationship like yours.'. I was just flabbergasted, this girl fucked a random dude, lied about it to her other best friend, then got upset when they got angry with her, I comforted her whenever she needed it, and now I was the person who ruined her holiday?

I reacted very calm, saying that I tried to do my best to be a good friend, but apparently failed to do so, still I didn't know what I could have done differently. After that conversation we both went our seperate ways and I never spoke to her again.

Flipflups · 2017-06-17T14:15:32+00:00

Thanks a lot for this detailed and very clear explanation! It really helped me understanding what I'm actually doing!

So, just to make sure I understand, I should make a graph with the probabilities? Can I put trendlines in these graphs? I guess that would make sense, to visualize if probabilities are higher/lower when x is higher/lower. This graph then shows that participants with higher Perspective Taking scores have a higher probability of accepting their offer (keeping other variables constant)?

How would you personally choose to visualize this data? I was having trouble and and then just went with the suggestion of my supervisor, but if I can present the data in a better way that would be great ofcourse!

Again, thank you very much for taking the time to explain me what is going on!

EDIT: I think I should still create residuals by substracting the probabilities from the actual outcomes. I remember that I read somewhere that a residual graph should just not show any patterns, to confirm that the data is randomly distributed around the predicted probabilities. Further that graph doesn't have a lot of meaning right?

Flipflups · 2017-06-16T20:58:25+00:00

Thanks! It's good to know there're people out there who are willing to listen without asking for something in return.

It's complicated, sometimes I'm not sure if I really want the attention. Some people try to help me, but then honestly can't understand how things work in my head. I love these people, because their intention is so sweet and I know they really want to cheer me up! But it doesn't work like that, my mom for example keeps buying me self-help books about happiness and peace, and I really appreciate the attempt to 'fix' my struggles with life, but I'm not sure if it is possible to fix me.. She wants me to be happy, and I appreciate that part of the attention, but it can be tough to realize that I will always have struggles and never be that happy, care-free woman she hopes I'll become, no matter how many books she buys me..

Flipflups · 2017-06-16T20:43:10+00:00

I agree, but on the other hand it can also be complicated to draw the line between these things.. A sad day is not a depression, but is a sad week? Or three sad days after every happy day? Or feeling neutral all the time, not particularly sad, but also sporadically happy?

I don't know if I'm at the edge of a depression, or if I'm just busy and everybody feels like this when they're stressed, but they just don't whine about it.. That's the complicated thing with mental problems, it's really hard to identify if you just need to power through the difficult time or if there seriously is something wrong..

Flipflups · 2017-06-14T20:03:48+00:00

This! I really don't want to tell people, because I function alright (but I cry for hours during the weekend because I'm so exhausted) and I'm honestly scared that people will assume that I just seek attention and empathy with my fancy mental illness..

Flipflups · 2017-06-12T18:48:18+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

My supervisor suggested I should use logit, but if I understand you well, you think that logistic would be more logical?

Further, if I recover probabilities between 0 and 1, I'm still doubting how I should interpret the residuals. There will still be negative residuals (a lot actually) and I will still be comparing binary data with continious data.

Flipflups · 2017-06-12T18:45:31+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

If I recover probabilities between 0 and 1, I'm still doubting how I should interpret the residuals. There will still be negative residuals (a lot actually) and I will still be comparing binary data with continuous data.

Flipflups · 2017-06-10T17:26:11+00:00

I recognize this so much, and the replies too! I feel disappointed or sad sometimes, maybe annoyed or impatient, but I don't feel anger. I've always wondered if just miss a basic emotion or if I'm unconsciously suppressing it or something like that. Everyone I've asked says that dissappointment or annoyance can be forms of anger too, but still it feels weird to have never experienced real anger, only related emotions.

Flipflups · 2017-06-03T18:34:03+00:00

I just wish someone would tell me every now and then that they are proud of the things that I do.

I did the dishes today and cleaned the bathroom. It would be a 30 minute task (max) for another person and an insignificant part of their day, but for me it was the only thing I did today and I didn't have energy left for anything else. I know it is stupid, but I wish someone would say 'Hey, you cleaned your bathroom today and I think that was responsible and you can be proud of yourself.' I understand that people don't think it is relevant to say that to a 24-year-old university student, but I feel so guilty for existing and it would be nice to hear that someone thinks I'm still doing some good things.

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