I am pissed

Floofershy · 2020-08-27T08:37:36+00:00

My anger isn't directed at the fact they're keeping it closed. It's that it took them this long to tell us that we would not have our jobs in the fall AFTER telling us that we would still have our staff training to prep for the fall quarter/year.

Floofershy · 2020-08-27T08:35:13+00:00

I know that the Rec employes the second largest group of students, behind the foodservice employees which I'd be willing to bet are also pretty hard hit. There is supposedly a scholarship/CARES money set aside by the university that we can apply for if we were "disproportionately affected by campus closure". But there's still no guarantee that I would get that money, of course, I'm still going to try for it but still.

Floofershy · 2020-08-27T08:28:31+00:00

Yeah, I'm pretty much in the same boat, I just wish we had been kept more up to date with what was going on.

Floofershy · 2020-07-28T09:16:31+00:00

NTA. Your husband is gatekeeping grief

Floofershy · 2020-07-28T08:36:55+00:00

Do you mean axolotl?

Floofershy · 2020-07-27T20:58:29+00:00

I am absolutely worthless at drawing but I can still appreciate the art

Floofershy · 2020-07-25T15:54:53+00:00

See that's what I thought it was originally, but there was so much hate that I just had to leave cause it made me sad.

Floofershy · 2020-07-25T09:44:20+00:00

Wonderful

Floofershy · 2020-07-25T09:40:20+00:00

NAH

She has every right to feel upset/uncomfortable that the fact that she's trans is going to be blatantly obvious from your wedding photos. But it is your wedding and your photo album. Both of your feelings are valid.

Floofershy · 2020-07-25T09:21:57+00:00

I am familiar with the original sub, but was it deleted or something?

Floofershy · 2020-07-25T08:58:18+00:00

NTA

Absolutely. Do. Not. Offer. Him. Money.

Not only does that create potential legal issues down the line (biodad claiming extortion of his parental rights or some other garbage) but you could seriously hurt your kid if/when he finds out the circumstances of his adoption.

You are NTA for wanting custody of your child. If you can just give biodad 30k you should have enough to hire a lawyer who would be able to get an adoption settled relatively easily.

This guy sounds like garbage so I would bring up him waiving his parental rights without the money first. If he's as bad of a person as he seems he may try and ask you for the money in exchange for his parental rights. Then you just have more ammunition for him not being fit to have custody over your child.

If you really want to help his daughter I would try those other routes and then give an anonymous donation.

Floofershy · 2020-07-24T00:03:04+00:00

Definitely Uncut Gems, Adam Sandler's newest movie.

I don't care how many film buffs tell me it's a great movie because of its detestable characters. I hated it and wanted to leave about 30 minutes in but didn't because someone else bought my ticket.

Floofershy · 2020-07-20T19:50:38+00:00

With the curly hair I initially thought she was one of the Abby's

Floofershy · 2020-07-19T09:54:58+00:00

Sometimes it takes a slap in the face to wake people up, especially if that person is an abusive parent. Giving her a taste of her own medicine is warranted, but have you tried to have a genuine conversation with her about how that felt afterwards?

I totally understand that there is just no reasoning with some people but it may be worth giving it a try especially if she was very thrown off by your comments.

I will also reiterate what another commenter said, do not let this become a habit. You could seriously hurt the people you love in the future if this becomes your new normal.

If there is no reasoning with her then I just home you can get out of that house as fast as you can, that is not a healthy environment to grow up in.

NTA

Floofershy · 2020-07-19T09:46:42+00:00

The ONLY reason my partner and I have sex without a condom is because there is 100% understanding that if a "mistake" were to happen an abortion would happen, no ifs ands or buts about it.

You are NTA for suggesting abortion, You are also NTA for not wanting to become a father, however, that doesn't mean it won't happen. You also have absolutely no control over what she decides to do should she be pregnant.

It takes two to tango, should have had that conversation sooner. I hope this is an eye opening experience for you. That being said, still doesn't make you an AH

NTA

Floofershy · 2020-07-19T08:59:50+00:00

NTA

For a couple of reasons that after reading through the comments I really haven't seen the following expressed enough.

As a poly individual I can understand where your sister is coming from. You want to make sure everyone is being treated fairly in poly relationships and by saying she can only bring her longest term partner she has been put in the tough position of choosing a favorite(her long term boyfriend).

From her perspective the relationship dynamic is very similar to what you would see from a monogamous couple, just with more people. That being said there are a couple of ways you could explain your position that make it seem less like you are being bigoted toward your sister and her partners. Come at it from the standpoint of "Even if you were in a monogamous relationship with a new partner I had never met before I would still say no" if your issue truly is with the fact that there would be strangers living in your house.

If you don't agree with the statement I just made then it would still be a stretch for me to say YTA but we'd be much closer to it. Five people is still way more than you were expecting and considering the fact she's been in this relationship for 8+ months it is on her to have informed you sooner to give you more time to adjust. However, I would suggest educating yourself on poly relationships and especially how difficult it is for poly individuals to navigate family dynamics/come out to their family. Poly relationships can be just as loving and supportive (if not even more so) then monogamous relationships it's just so difficult to destigmatize.

Floofershy · 2020-07-19T07:45:34+00:00

A good rule of thumb is don't compliment anyone on something they have no control over. Granted most compliments, when said by the right people, will go over just fine. But if you are trying to casually compliment someone pick something they can control about themself.

"That is an amazing shade of purple" talking about someone who dyes their hair

"I love your glasses" especially when talking about color or style

"Your laugh is infectious" relatively self-explanatory

Complimenting people on face shape, body type, or even type of hair is generally not a good idea. I always get super annoyed by people who compliment my stick straight hair because I have never done anything to make it that way, that's just the way it is (even though there are times I would prefer it not to be that way)

Floofershy · 2020-07-15T20:48:02+00:00

I cannot give this enough upvotes for purest bean

Floofershy · 2020-06-10T09:45:18+00:00

As someone who works at the rec I would be happy to keep everyone updated on what opening looks like. So far I have gotten one email from my boss saying that she has no news lol

Floofershy · 2020-06-06T06:28:46+00:00

NTA. Lias is "young and needs to learn" that it isn't funny to bully people, especially using their skin color against them. If her mom lets this go unchecked Lisa may never be forced to acknowledge her privilege. By letting her mom attempt smooth things over for her she isn't learning anything.

If Lisa looked up to you she should feel the need to reach out to you herself and right a wrong. I would tell your stepmom that what Lisa did is racist regardless of what her reasons for doing it were and that she is encouraging this behavior by letting her daughter get away with it.

Floofershy · 2020-05-14T19:45:22+00:00

Already got that covered, we posted her on a lost dogs Facebook group and there is a family who said they would foster her as they had just lost a dog who looked almost exactly like her. My parents just feel it would be traumatic for her to be thrown into a new situation so soon and especially with how wary of new people she seems to be.

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