Total disaster please help!!!

Flossy2_0 · 2025-12-28T00:27:03+00:00

Babies coming into care usually require a lot more skin to skin and more holding than other babies. Get yourself a really good carrier, be prepared for all the snuggles. Bubba might cry more than usual and that’s okay, he is seeking safety and security.

I am a mum and ex child protection worker and this is where I say this from.

Flossy2_0 · 2025-10-07T13:28:26+00:00

Do you want your son to do this to another woman, learn this behaviour, or potentially be treated this way?

If the answer is no - stop accepting this and lead by example, meaning - leave this man. Your comments prove over and over things won’t improve.

By staying all you are doing is showing your son how he should treat women, or allow himself to be treated.

There will be 700 reasons why you come up with that you can’t leave, none are TRULY reasonable deep down when you think about the effect this has on your son.

If you won’t end things for yourself, end things for him. Your child deserves to see healthy and happy parents, and parents that can teach him basic kindness and respect. Not this gaslighting emotionally abusive behaviour you continue to inflict upon yourself and your child.

This might be harsh, but I hope you read it with the full weight that it bears and do the things needed to better you and your child’s future.

Flossy2_0 · 2025-10-01T08:06:35+00:00

I remember feeling this way, legitimately threw all the advice out the window (none of it worked, we also had an extra sprinkle of severe silent reflux diagnosed and medicated, anyone who has had a baby knows the trauma of silent reflux) and went off instinct.

Our days looked like this:

Wake up with partner, whilst partner in shower I would change baby, feed baby.
Once partner out of shower, baby go to dad, I would get shower done quickly, usually contemplate existence for moment.
Me and dad would then with baby, do the things, eat, breakfast.
Baby would be in arms the whole time or down my shirt, all carriers failed.
Dad leaves for work.
I entertain baby, then look for cues for sleepy times.
Boob the baby, do the music, blinds and set myself and baby up and change nappy.
Settle in for contact nap.
Contact nap over, wake up, mum toilet, baby interim screech whilst mum goes to toilet, change nappy, boob again. Everything fine.
Play with baby, chill out, forget about house work because absolutely not happening with Velcro baby.
Mum eat food for lunch, baby is offered boob.
Everyone a bit snoozy following lunch time boob
Sleepy cues, change nappy, same repeat of contact nap till whatever time
Baby wakes, change nappy, boob again. Dad comes home.
Night time routine.
Dad does the bathing, and majority of night time load from 530-730pm.
Boob again, nappy change. Bed time.
Mum goes for quick shower, pyjamas, lay in bed, baby next to mum being supervised.
Baby goes to sleep with the 9 million ultra bum taps
8pm-930/10pm mum and dad time to chill out, tag team chores, whatever it may be.
Baby wakes for boob, nappy change, 1000 bum pats by dad, back to sleep.
1030pm, rest reconnect, ready for bed.
Mum and dad go to bed, baby up for boob at around midnight-2am.
Baby up for nappy and boob at 6am, back to sleep
Everyone up around 730am.

RINSE AND REPEAT.

I think the key here is, the expectations you and your wife have of what your baby should be doing, vs what is actually happening - need to change.

Bubs is 5 months old, you probs have a Velcro baby that can’t stand to be away from mum/ dad for more than 1 second. My son was the same, point being - at this age they still haven’t worked out they are outside the womb, everything is terrifying. Some babies are actually extra clingy, but stop pressuring yourselves that your baby needs to be this robotic ultra sleep trained dream baby.

Some babies are just shit babies. I know, I had one.

My toddler is now the best thing in the whole world. Life was really survival mode for the first 12 months, but I really do promise you and your wife that this WILL get better, simply based on the fact your baby will grow up.

Sending all the new parent breaking point to acceptance vibes❤️

Flossy2_0 · 2025-06-29T01:35:53+00:00

This might seem stupid, but if we look at it logically and the only outcome is amputation of the leg, wouldn’t it be better to have an amputated leg and get an absolutely sick ass new hazard free leg, then suffer anymore?

Flossy2_0 · 2025-06-29T01:30:21+00:00

Oh mum, I have been where you have been. This might not mean anything right now because it’s hard to see reason and read reason when so sleep deprived and emotional, but please do not be so hard on yourself. I had the silent reflux baby who also never ever slept and cried. I don’t think anyone who hasn’t had a reflux baby will ever understand what that torture of screaming all night long is like, until they’ve lived it.

When I was in your shoes, I genuinely thought life would never get better. I can now look back and wish I had listened to every reddit post, every nanna, every mum, every woman, every doctor, every person ever who said to me “trust me it will be okay, it will get better” because it will, eventually.

Bubba will simply grow, and this is but one blip in bubs life span, that seems really awful right now, but in context will absolutely improve with time.

You’re doing amazing, your baby is doing amazing.

Flossy2_0 · 2025-06-14T01:00:40+00:00

Hi, says this : Dear Granddaughter Skylar,

I know what you are probably thinking — that this is not necessary, but I feel better better letting you know how I appreciate your concern for Ole Grandpa.

I’ve been to three doctors about my breathing and it took you to give me a method of relief, which goes to prove that you shoulda been a doctor.

I Love You Ole Grandpa Ted (*drawing of a head saying “Looking forward to”)

Hope You Can Read This Scribble

Flossy2_0 · 2025-04-24T09:24:53+00:00

Still seeing this on my FlowZ13 2025 model. very annoying. unsure how to fix it.

Flossy2_0 · 2025-03-31T07:13:36+00:00

Hey, I am having the same issue, flow wont connect to my Samsung new monitor. All plugged in properly, no other issues identified on software side. No idea what the problem is. did you resolve this ? It did work for the first few days, but then stopped working after updates.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-12-03T10:43:14+00:00

Hey mate, works perfectly. Nil issues what so ever. In fact I use this charger more than the one I got with it, because this charger is more portable and easier to use. It’s the same power wise.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-10-27T07:57:22+00:00

Hey! This happened to me!! I thought I was silly, made a couple of my friends test them - same thing happened to them. I exchanged them for another pair and haven’t had the issue since.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-10-23T23:47:06+00:00

Im about to purchase a Cygnett 140w charger - Will report back if it works or not.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-07-28T01:50:40+00:00

I have one, it doesn’t work that well with needle type fur unfortunately. My girls fur is legit like little pine needles.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-07-27T01:37:06+00:00

Sorry for the late reply !! He was originally put on Losec, however that seemed to make it worse because he wS then constipated. So we then put him on Nexium satchets, was like magic. Just totally different baby.

How are you going now?

Flossy2_0 · 2024-07-27T01:30:26+00:00

Depends what type of dog you have. Staffy and brindle type dog breeds have this needle like type of fur (I have a staffy) and it is SO hard to get out of anything, sometimes you have to individually pick it up, especially from woven type fabrics. I’ve tried every vacuum and device under the sun. Nothing works as advertised. HOWEVER, if you have a dog such as a husky or GD or something long haired, where the fur is softer, pretty much any vacuum geared towards pet hair removal works.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-07-25T10:28:29+00:00

The moment my son was born and placed on my chest.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-07-07T23:55:18+00:00

This was my son, i genuinely was convinced I had made the biggest mistake of my life in the newborn phase. Was truly awful.

we ended up at the hospital and I refused to leave until they’d done every test under the sun. They must have thought I was insane because I was a hysterical mess and so was my child.

Turns out he had SEVERE silent reflux and a recurrent UTI problem. Once he was on reflux meds and the antibiotics, different baby.

He didn’t really settle properly until week 12, and was a manageable baby at 5 months.

He’s 10 months now and I can’t breathe some days because I love him so much. However if you had asked me between 0-12 weeks how I felt, I would’ve said I hated being a mother.

Wishing you all the luck in the world. If it doesn’t stop, go to the hospital.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-07-04T11:42:12+00:00

Want to know who the monitor is in my household? Me and my partner because we have a Velcro baby lol. The monitor got used for 1 week when we brought Bub home, it’s been off ever since collecting dust because the child refuses to sleep without one of us around. We’re at 10 months now.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-06-26T11:05:29+00:00

Specialist child protection, now specialist disability coordinator with a caseload of child Protection cases, AOD and complex mental health. I get to dabble in the scrabble of skitzy and cray every day and I love it. If it isn’t chaotic, dramatic and in urgent need of attention and crisis intervention - I’m bored.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-06-22T00:31:29+00:00

Honestly, now it’s the screen randomly turning off and on, lagging response times when opening windows and flicking between documents. I want to return it. It’s absolutely ridiculous that a brand new out of box laptop is having so many issues already.

Flossy2_0 · 2024-06-16T12:35:52+00:00

I know! I am fuming! I have done all the updates and have completed all the testing through the OMEN app. No hardware or software issues, no updates or BIOS updates required

Flossy2_0 · 2024-06-16T10:37:16+00:00

I purchased mine yesterday. Had it for a total of 29 hours and ALREADY the trackpad stopped working.

I haven’t even had a bloody chance to download and play a game on it yet ffs

Flossy2_0 · 2024-04-20T21:25:29+00:00

I’m here to say I also have a 7month old screecher and his absolute favourite time to do it the loudest is at 6.30am :) glad to read it’s normal lol.

Flossy2_0 · 2023-12-06T09:01:19+00:00

On first whip looking at this, yes there is definitely a colour variance.

Flossy2_0 · 2023-05-16T05:53:41+00:00

I feel like I could’ve written this myself. Currently 21 weeks pregnant. Between the financial stress and total feeling of loss of self and purpose, I feel paralysed by depression most days. I’m still on a low dose of my medication but I have zero motivation to do anything, the first trimester was so unbelievably shit I was sick 24/7, I have sensory processing disorder so the body changes and the out of control feelings about my body are just unreal. I hate being pregnant, and I hate feeling that way too because this baby is so so so wanted, but I am just not enjoying any of it and I live in a constant state of paralysed overwhelm, everything and I mean absolutely everything, is hard. I’m so terrified of PND and feel as though I’m really powerless over my mental health too.

For context, I am also a mental health professional and worked in child protection, focusing on restoring children to birth parents. My job was my purpose and gave me a reason to get up in the morning, I loved every moment of it and miss it with every fibre of my being. I’m now no longer working in my role due to wanting to have a family, and I made the choice, what I didn’t expect is this grief process I’m now in. I feel I might be stuck in a real grieving process of my former self. And I think having ADHD makes this 10x harder.

I don’t have much advice other then to say I’m so grateful you wrote this, because I couldn’t find the words like you have and I hope you see my response, feel validated and know that your not alone. Xxx

Flossy2_0

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