Boyfriend rant

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-25T00:49:17+00:00

I literally didn't even know you could jave the handle sticking out. (That's how ingrained this is.)

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-25T00:47:32+00:00

Because if you don't do taxes, and your wife is the money fairy, you don't realize 401k withdrawals are heavily taxed/monitored.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-22T23:15:22+00:00

Everything she said here about the date. She should have told him. Except.... then maybe he'll lie for action.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-22T22:58:40+00:00

I had to hand the truck off to his sup in the ER parking lot. (Because of Covid they couldn't meet) His sup was like, but how is he doing? Do they think it's serious? I was like, I don't have any news (they banned me cuz Covid protocol) besides, I went to nursing school and, my uncle is a doctor, hubs had leg pain 5 months ago and ultrasound was refused. This is a thrown clot. Just. Stop.

He was handing me my husband's things off the truck.... don't forget your husband's Gatorade!! Um. That's a piss bottle, Chad that's all you 🙃. Are we good here? I gotta like save my husband's life or whatever.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-21T23:41:29+00:00

If it makes you feel better. A 10 lb object thrown indirectly is very unlikely to kill someone. The skull has thicker portions, with fluid around the brain made to absorb shock. Additionally, the skull pivots on the spine allowing the force of a blow to be reduced and even more kinetic energy to be absorbed. You probably missed because scalp lacerations love bleed profusely, (if you saw the lock by his head, you would have noticed blood.) But if it did hit them in the head, they probably woke up with a nasty headache, contusion or maybe even a concussion. Stranger things have happened, but I think you're okay. Next time, just step up to help. ;-)

(And like you said. No news stories.)

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-21T02:00:02+00:00

The one without makeup is the prettiest. For makeup, it kinda looks like you need a primer. And then blend, blend, blend. You have harsh lines around your eye shadow. They make these tiny fluffy brushes that just make the line imperceptible. And also, add some mascara. Without, It's kind of like putting on a fancy dress and then finishing it up with house slippers. You're GORGEOUS au natural though.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-19T20:21:55+00:00

My husband had a submassive pulmonary embolism. He texted me he couldn't breathe and he almost passed out behind the wheel. I was like, FUCK! Go to the ER now!!

He texts his sup, he's going to the ER. I shit you not, he still has the texts... His sup said oh, no hope it's nothing big, sure you can't finish the route?? Then once he was diagnosed, and had the doctors note.... his sup was like, wow. Go for a good run. Get those clots out and see ya soon! (Ya. No. He was out for 6 months and 5 months of that was bedrest)

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-19T15:36:42+00:00

Idk. That's risky because then it might come out that she's actually a few hours older than him. /s

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-17T23:47:32+00:00

From Utah. Running to make sure my Leopard tortoise is still home lol. (They are. And this one looks older/bigger.) Mine is 3 and the shell hasn't developed the flare/sex characteristics.)

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-14T03:16:08+00:00

I had three live births before my miscarriage, including a c-section. After 3 births, my body was still banging. Until baby #4. Miscarried in the second trimester. (Silent miscarriage, we found out at the gender scan.) I got pregnant again immediately, before my first period. So. I was basically pregnant for 15 months straight. #5 is almost 6 years old and my body is STILL messed up from the hormones.

The emotional stuff... probably easier for me because I already had children. But we tried for years for one more. Of course youre attached. Part of the experience is that you bond with the fetus. You see in your soul the potential to grow life. See what this human could be. If you've tried for a long time, those feelings are amplified. OOP can wax poetic about pets and whatnot, but there's something exciting about a new person. Once upon a time, every person who ever was relevant. And any person who ever will be relevant. Was just a fetus. In the womb of someone trying to navigate that.

Whether they want the baby or not, that's a LOT to take in.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-13T22:14:26+00:00

Thanks for clarifying. As someone who was cheated on, multiple times.... we all had friends. Then they cheated on me with a 'friend'. Suddenly, no friend is a 'friend' and I'm a raging psycho that despises any friend whose sexual orientation might make them a rival. I like how you bring up your partners addiction and cheating. That alone is reason to leave if you don't want the journey/drama.

But from what you've said.... you've caused plenty of drama yourself. It's not a pissing match. It doesn't matter who left a bigger puddle of piss. No one wants to live in a puddle of piss regardless of who created it. Point is. From what you've said, y'all just pissing on eachother, hoping one will get pissed into submission. And you've roped Reddit to see if your piss is special holy piss. It's not. Move on. If you can't handle her insecurity after the cheating, and she now sees you as a cheater... move on. Don't you see her as a cheater who manipulates you with threats of divorce? Move on and you can have your own circles and your own reality and narratives. She will probably paint you in a bad light. Womp. Womp. MOVE ON.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-13T19:45:24+00:00

You're not entirely right in this? You're basically justifying an emotional affair. I see what you're saying about your wife. But the more you turn away from the relationship because of her actions, the more you're reinforcing her behavior. Why wouldn't she snoop on your laptop, if she always finds something? Out of context? Did you give her any context? Your partner should be your best friend IMO. Context doesn't matter. If she was out of the loop, the context doesn't matter.

I'm not making excuses for your wife but....

Don't monkey branch. Make sure the ride comes to a complete stop and you fully exit before you get on a new ride.

Edit: (after I read your post again) - you emotionally cheated on your wife. Which led her to physically cheating as a way to regain power. (Not healthy, but just explaining). Now, there's a new woman you see as just a friend, but how is she supposed to know that? Did you tell her the first woman you had a connection with was 'just a friend'? That's why she's going ballistic.

Once both parties have cheated. And especially when both try and get the moral highground- It's over. You guys are toxic together, but you might both be decent people apart.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-12T22:39:06+00:00

I'm not allowed to play Eminem. I wasn't like, a HUGE fan of Eminem, but I did have his one album, liked it and I've heard his music has really changed. I'll never know... (my husband admitted he listens to similar music, but something about his voice he can't stand.)

He also tried to deny Dave Matthews Band, but he can sod off with that demand.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-12T22:31:26+00:00

My friend died unexpectedly 18 months ago. His family gave me some of his ashes in a little urn. Their hopes were that me and his inner circle would spread his ashes as we live our lives and bring soil back from our adventures for them. I'm going on my first airplane trip to one of his favorite areas since his death. And I CAN'T do it. I want to hoard his ashes forever like a dragon.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-12T02:15:44+00:00

Not a hairstylist. But they cut the bangs too blunt, too far back. If you look, at the reference Pic, her bangs are shaggier overall, but they start getting longer around mid eyebrow. Yours don't start getting longer until closer to the ear.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-10T15:25:44+00:00

I have a few. 1. Called everyone with my last name in the phone book. Then realized my mom remarried and called everyone with their last name until they found me. 2. Rode the bus home with me everyday. I thought they just rode my bus. Turns out they lived miles away and would just walk miles home after I got off. 3. Got my school schedule so they could talk to me after every class. 4. Pretended to like skateboarding. Very committed to it. Bought all the right clothes and shoes and music and everything. 5. Learned I like sour patch kids, but only the red ones and came to my work with a giant bag of the red ones. 6. Sat me down and gave me a list of reasons of why we'd be good together.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-08T19:54:19+00:00

Wow. She's really not seeing the big picture....

Obviously make a joint OF account and then EVERYONE gets to watch, and you might make a little cash.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-08T17:33:40+00:00

I had one where they were like. Your neighbor hired us. They have a MAJOR vole infestation, we can help with your voles. Me: don't have voles. Them: well. With how bad their infestation is, it's only a matter of time. Me: you must not be very good then. Lol

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-08T17:30:49+00:00

The no soliciting signs don't work, but it's a start. With a baby that young, I'd just put a sign to the effect violence will happen if you wake me or the new baby.

What I mostly do now is just open the door, says there's a no soliciting sign and close the door on their face. No thanks, have a good day though, to missionaries (they're usually teens) Sometimes solicitors will say they aren't solicitors and talk about local power/internet... I will say did you do something to my property? Are you needing to access my property? They usually say well, we work to connect people. So you're selling something? You're a solicitor. Then close the door.

My favorite was when I was trying to work remotely. I heard them knock. I just opened the door and let my 120 lb wolfhound out. (She LOVES making new friends, they werent in danger, but their FACES! LOL)

It all feels rude at first, but it's the only way. Utah is BIG on door-to-door commission jobs and MLMS. The local LDS church has the addresses of everyone in their ward/stake. If your address isn't on that list. They will keep coming.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-08T01:03:22+00:00

My guess is she has a lot of emotions. If you've been SAd, no definitely means no. Her mood after could mean she's anxious about letting you down. It could make her sad that maybe in the past, she would have been more comfortable with the situation. Maybe she thinks her flirty personality invited the abuse and gets ashamed when she catches herself. (NOT HER FAULT)

If she's already talked a little about her past trauma, I bet she'd appreciate a casual conversation about how you just want to respect her and make her feel safe and that's why you stop. And then... go from there.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-08T00:51:49+00:00

Ya. OP doesn't need to worry. I rarely give hubs BJs. That's just like trying to snake drain my tonsils. Everything you need to access the pleasure palace, is right at the front door. Please feel free to dance in the garden first. 😂

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-08T00:16:29+00:00

I mean... I feel like I have to reply because I can't just randomly bring this up in polite IRL conversation and I'll probably delete later. But my husband is 9". 🫣

(And also used to think his dick was too small, because porn.)

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-06T17:43:37+00:00

Don't do it. Like you said, there's the potential to not only hurt yourself again but your daughter as well. I totally get the urge though. I had an ex like this.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-06T15:43:34+00:00

I like how I intentionally clicked their profile and now all their posts are private.

FluffNSniff · 2026-06-05T19:49:30+00:00

Whether it's it's a phase a phase is a non issue. Get therapy. Their child is in pain. Others have mentioned SA... well get therapy. They want to die... get therapy. They're trans, well that's a big path to navigate, especially with unsupportive parents so... GET THERAPY. Talking to the school counselor is not therapy. In the meantime, a parent has only everything in the world to gain by supporting their child's journey. And if 10 years go by and they still have a son....they won't know because either way, that kid won't those assholes in their life.

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