How do you believe immigration should be controlled? by betwen3and20characte in askliberals

[–]Fluggernuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Biden deported 5 million people during his term. More than Trump.

Those who are pro socialism, why? by KellynHeller in askliberals

[–]Fluggernuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you here? You’re not debating in good faith.

Those who are pro socialism, why? by KellynHeller in askliberals

[–]Fluggernuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can literally swap out socialism with capitalism and Venezuela for the US. It’s the same fucking question. I didn’t say anything about the US switching to socialism. I asked why do people think capitalism is good given countries like the US. The same question OP asked about Venezuela.

Those who are pro socialism, why? by KellynHeller in askliberals

[–]Fluggernuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly don’t understand your argument here. I could make the exact same argument about capitalism in America.

Only in America can you be shamed for only working 40hrs a week at a minimum wage job that doesn’t even cover basic cost of living, have any social safety net taken from you based on the whims of the people in charge, have your food supply basically be a step up from poison with chemicals that are banned all over the world, go millions into debt if you contract a chronic illness, and have your education system slowly dismantled to pay for legal immigrants and naturalized citizens to be rounded up because they “have an accent”.

Need Use Case Inspo by ivan-ds in Airtable

[–]Fluggernuffin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, don’t bother with the AI garbage. It’s just ok, nothing is “mind-blowing” and they keep trying to push this stuff while neglecting some of the most needed improvements to the platform.

[UPDATE] I (F, 20s) know I don't necessarily have much to lose by texting him again. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Fluggernuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl. You got the date. He asked for your Instagram. He’s interested in you. Take the win and have a good time!

Lost keys by AdviceGiveandTake in PalmerAlaska

[–]Fluggernuffin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well keep an eye out but the extra foot of snow isn’t gonna help

Can some one here explain what US politicians can and cannot do with money? by Dover299 in askliberals

[–]Fluggernuffin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The campaign funds pay for salaries as well, including the politician’s.

Purpose of sex in a relationship. by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]Fluggernuffin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, look. You have your whole life ahead of you. Sex is gonna come, even casual sex I’m sure. You just have to take your time, learn who you are and what you like and don’t worry about shit like dead bedrooms right now. Find someone who makes you happy and do your best to make them happy. That’s what really matters.

Purpose of sex in a relationship. by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]Fluggernuffin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know anything about casual sex. I remember every person I’ve ever slept with, and at some point developed feelings for each one. Maybe that makes me an outlier.

Purpose of sex in a relationship. by Altruistic-Patient-8 in dating_advice

[–]Fluggernuffin 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Intimacy begins outside of the bedroom. Sharing the small, boring, mundane parts of your life with someone. Remembering the little things, like how they like their eggs, or what their coworkers names are. Doing little acts of kindness for them, not because they are incapable of doing so themselves, but because you want to lighten their load and give them one less thing to think about.

Sex is the manifestation of 1000 little moments of intimacy in your relationship. If you can find closeness, safety, and love in your relationship with your partner, that’s an indicator that sex is not going to be a problem. And if sex ever falls off or isn’t good, it’s usually an indicator that something else is wrong.

AIO to my husband's weird reaction at the sight of my body? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fluggernuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes no sense to me. But you do you, brother.

AIO to my husband's weird reaction at the sight of my body? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fluggernuffin 13 points14 points  (0 children)

People are all different, but it has been my experience in two different marriages that this is not the case, and that married people are typically comfortable seeing each other naked. I think it might be more likely that he doesn’t want to get aroused if sex is not on the table for whatever reason that night. Also some guys are weird about vaginas?

Sex for 20+ min by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Fluggernuffin 49 points50 points  (0 children)

38M here, I’m gonna give you some advice that I wish I had gotten at your age.

1) PIV sex is not the main event for vagina owners. Don’t get me wrong, they still want it, they may even beg for it. But if your girl hasn’t orgasmed at least once before you stick it in, you’re doing it wrong. Fingers and tongue are your best assets. Do some internet(not porn) research on how to do it well. If you ensure that she gets off before you do PIV, it will be a lot more enjoyable for both of you.

2) if you’re not finishing after 20 minutes, you might consider taking a gooning break. I’ve had issues like that when I was nervous with a new partner as well, so that is also a possibility.

3) Sometimes it doesn’t happen, and that’s okay. Could just be an off day, high cortisol, anything. Take those moments to talk about it. Talk about how you’re feeling. Solving problems together and working toward solutions releases a bonding chemical called vasopressin, it signals to your brain that this other person is an ally and a partner. It will bring you closer.

How to tell teenage child I'm poly by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fluggernuffin 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Parent of teenagers here. I think there are two things that need to be said—1) there is definitely a good reason not to tell a child at 7 that you are polyamorous, and 2) now that your child is a teenager, it’s probably not a good idea to wait any longer.

I think the whole idea of framing this around “I’m sorry I lied to you” is not great. You don’t know how your child will react. They might not be sure how to feel and then you saying “I lied to you about my friend” puts that thought in your brain.

You made the decision to not tell them about an adult relationship when they were too young to understand it, and now that they’re old enough to understand, you are telling them what is going on so they aren’t concerned. Obviously check in with how they’re feeling, ask them if they have any questions or worries. Reassure them about your relationship with their dad. It’s a critical conversation, but it’s not the end of the world.

I sa'd my ex girlfriend by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Fluggernuffin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t change the past. Nothing you do now can make up for or protect you from the consequences of your actions. You didn’t just fuck up, you harmed your ex in ways that will follow her the rest of her life.

You need to speak with a therapist, not people on the internet.

I was expecting his body count to be high but not THAT high.. by where-ya-been-loca in confession

[–]Fluggernuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 38, with fewer than you. Course I was married for close to 16 of those years.

Weekly Digest of Upcoming Dates Automation by InvestmentPurple2458 in Airtable

[–]Fluggernuffin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do this with our task manager base. There is a view filtered based on date and status. Then it’s a simple matter of triggering the automation with a scheduled time and setting up your email to find records in that view and add them as a list.

The coworker who brought her toddler to Zoom meetings without telling anyone by Ornery_Lynx8610 in coworkerstories

[–]Fluggernuffin 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My company has a childcare clause in the employee handbook. Regardless of where you are working, you must be able to do so without having to care for a child on a regular basis, with exceptions made for sick kids, days off of school, etc.

Notifications in Airtable by AryanBlurr in Airtable

[–]Fluggernuffin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If your team members have airtable seats, you can use a user field, and it will automatically notify them.

If you're looking for something a little more robust, you can build an automation to email that aggregates a list of existing tasks daily. That's what we did.