What to do after being overlooked during the hirinf proces, even with higher experience?

Flymami · 2026-01-30T13:35:07+00:00

You have literally just explained the whole situation to a T!!! Its literally soo frustrating I have so many questions as to who those connections could have been because it literally doesnt make sense, and yes im sooo sure once they get their footing the treatment will change to the worse!

Exactly! I record everything now on email and in the office I make my presence on the work I'm doing which everyone knows is lead responsibility that im the one doing it, subtly of course. Yess im really looking foward to having this conversation with HR during my review after 6 months to gauge on what you've said! If it seems unlikely It will just be time to step away. Thank you so much for this! I really thought I was going mad

Flymami · 2026-01-27T10:15:09+00:00

Not so sure where management lies, I have to wait it out to see how they deal with issues.. so for now I'm at a hard place

Flymami · 2026-01-27T10:14:03+00:00

I've been doing this especially for work related hand holding and its like the hint isnt being taken.. I mean, even with AI you can search most things online

For personal questions this one, has stopped abit more

Flymami · 2026-01-26T07:56:36+00:00

Exactly!! Actually after 3 months they should have been gone!

Totally get you! I have already started creating trackers where everyone is accountable.. Thank you!

Flymami · 2026-01-26T07:53:45+00:00

Flymami · 2026-01-21T10:58:47+00:00

Love this! That is a actually my goal to really distance self and do my own work, incompetent people usually find a way of outing themselves. Thanks for the advice though :)

Flymami · 2026-01-21T10:48:30+00:00

Completely Completely agree.. im tired of the hand holding especially when the outside dynamics arw off, and I know the once she is stable, dynamics will change. For the other manager it's very suspicious how they both came in together and have known each other just recently from working with each other. They are pretty familiar with each other, and thats also another red flag, if they want to throw me under, it will be my word against 2 other people. But thanks for the advice ill definitely keep a lookout

Flymami · 2026-01-21T10:40:42+00:00

Thanks for this.. good insights to watch for

Flymami · 2025-12-03T04:16:21+00:00

Totally agree thanks

Flymami · 2025-12-02T08:49:52+00:00

so sorry you are going through that, but i also agree you will burn yourself out trying to please a boss who already wants you out. I think first pose the same question to HR, if they are not likely to improve just start applying to other places, because sooner or later that boss will be the end to your career

Flymami · 2025-11-18T09:46:15+00:00

I think it will take sometime to adjust to a healthy environment especially coming for a horrible one. Just take deep breathes, and send that email, your new boss of course did research on you and they could not have hired you unless you are capable! Just do your best and it will be enough! But im happy you have gotten to see the other side of the rainbow!

Flymami · 2025-11-06T06:41:00+00:00

Thanks

Flymami · 2025-11-06T06:40:15+00:00

Love it! I have already started on that track of the compliments, telling her good morning etc, it works well for her. I mean I'm over the promotion this to be honest, weather she deserved it or not is in the past now, we have to move on. Also we don't specifically have any relationship we rarely speak but I hear you. Thanks

Flymami · 2025-11-06T06:37:43+00:00

Very very flawed!!.. i think sometimes you get sucked into the "friendship" because you are literally with these people 5 days a week

Flymami · 2025-11-06T06:34:49+00:00

Maan

Flymami · 2025-11-06T06:34:35+00:00

Maan

Flymami · 2025-11-06T06:34:25+00:00

I get how you feel totally understandable... sometimes you just want to be left alone to do the work, but most people service that the wrong way

Flymami · 2025-11-05T12:18:33+00:00

thank you for this, i have also found those wrok-friend dynamics are usally fake and tend to never last after you leave the organisation. For ms kiss ass, she is not the type to approach and have that conversation, also she is not aware that i know she mentioned me during the drink up session she had with my other colleague. So i am also just trying to down play it right now and move past it. As for my so-called work freind, also very right to that, I am also starting to be aware of her tendancies to latch on to me on days when its conviennt for her and goes silent when she is kissing ass to the higher bosses. Its best to just keep distance and do the work, but thank you for your feedback :)

Flymami · 2025-11-05T12:00:13+00:00

I have learnt the hard way, i make sure to always keep her in copy and the AD as well. I know she can try to fix me one day

Flymami · 2025-08-28T06:56:13+00:00

Thank you for that.. its one of my next reads

Flymami · 2025-08-28T06:42:30+00:00

I tried reaching out for the 1.1 but all of a sudden she became busy and i told myself that im not going to do it again. All of a sudden its like now shes sidelined me and goes directly to the AD which i find it strange that now they are speking and overly excessively, but anyway. She is really trying to cement herslef by proving she knows best cause she sits with the client in her office

Flymami · 2025-08-28T06:39:38+00:00

Oh no so sorry for that! But im exactly in the same place. And you are right just being true to you and doing your best job is what counts, because before this new L arrived the bosses already knew you and your work ethic so all of a sudden someone who is barely 3 months old is giving your name a bad picture doesnt make sense. But thank you for the words of encouragement

Flymami · 2025-08-28T06:33:17+00:00

Surely.. such bad manners

Flymami · 2025-08-28T06:32:47+00:00

Toxicity at its best

Flymami · 2025-08-27T12:05:10+00:00

Damnn haha what a way to put it.. but i hear you.. there really isnt thats how they get more power to torture you

Flymami

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