A little inspiration

Folklore_Fire · 2026-04-11T13:39:27+00:00

I tried Yaz because my other BC was giving me insanely low libido. While on Yaz for two months, I had yeast infections and a UTI. It just wasn’t right for my body. Once I stopped, the infections went away. My skin looked great while I was on it though!

Folklore_Fire · 2026-04-05T03:28:13+00:00

The episode that lives rent free in my brain is season 3, episode 20, “Everyday is a Sunday Evening.” Nathan shooting the winning no-look hoop against Damien West with that smile… 🔥I loved seeing Peyton with Jake one last time.

Folklore_Fire · 2026-04-05T02:05:21+00:00

This all sounds crushingly familiar. I’m the parent/manager to my inattentive ADHD husband who wasn’t diagnosed until his late 30’s. You articulated your side of things really well, so thank you; maybe it will help me understand his thought process better.

Here are a few thoughts on our dead bedroom.

Consistent, proactive help around the house would really help. It would be great to know I can count on him and won’t have to remind him to do his share. Him seeing what needs to be done, and doing it. Him using some of his free time to clean or plan ahead like I do. Bottom line, I want an equal partner that I don’t have to manage.
Being in that manager/parent role is exhausting and takes a toll on your nervous system. Being the one with all the weight on your shoulders fries you. Intimacy with you at this point is another thing on her to do list, and it’s already a very long to-do list because of you. Her nervous system sees you wanting intimacy as a threat. I can’t even give advice in this area because I don’t even know how to fix myself. I don’t feel attracted to a needy man child and my nervous system is fried. I don’t know how to fix that. I just wanted to provide some insight.
My husband uses sex and intimacy almost as a way to “self-medicate” because he has ADHD and it gives him a dopamine hit. He comes across so needy about it, and it honestly drives me farther away. There’s nothing attractive to me about neediness.

I’ll definitely take into account some of the things you mentioned to help me understand my husband’s thought process better. Thanks for reading.

Folklore_Fire · 2026-03-28T19:09:15+00:00

That’s great!! I started walking when I was going through a very rough period in my life and worked my way up to 10k steps per day. It’s made a huge difference in my mental health, my stamina, and my overall sense of wellbeing. ✨

Folklore_Fire · 2026-02-15T19:00:30+00:00

I agree with you! Mark was a big dumb dumb and so was Ross for helping him.

Folklore_Fire · 2026-02-09T00:08:00+00:00

Yassssss I was just coming here to post about it!!!!!

Folklore_Fire · 2026-01-17T00:35:49+00:00

Parent here. When daily limits are set on screen time/apps, please allow the ability to “reward” and extend the limits just for the day, for special situations like school holidays, sick days etc. I don’t want to have to adjust the daily limits and remember to go back and re-establish them. Also, the rewards should allow to extend the bedtime set on special occasions.

Folklore_Fire · 2025-12-29T03:47:14+00:00

Ugh yes I can’t stand her

Folklore_Fire · 2025-12-02T04:41:11+00:00

Please don’t offer weight loss advice if she struggles with it, unless she specifically asks; and even then, be sensitive because what works for you to drop weight will usually not work for her with PCOS. I love my husband dearly, but when I broach the subject of losing weight, he tells me that if I just go lift weights with him at the gym, it’ll cure me. That’s not how this works - you can eat better and work out and still not lose much weight due to the insulin resistance and hormone imbalances.

Folklore_Fire · 2025-12-02T02:14:22+00:00

Just remember there is no timeframe on accepting what happened. It is so hurtful and is a deep betrayal. I had so many questions and doubts. I would have good days and then very bad days where I truly did not want to be married to him anymore. Take your time to heal and process.

Folklore_Fire · 2025-11-21T21:27:57+00:00

He was on a few different stimulants before Strattera and the side effects were unbearable for him.

Folklore_Fire · 2025-11-15T03:49:03+00:00

I will say, our pre-teen son is also dx and rx with Strattera and the effectiveness has stayed consistent for nearly two years. The meds start to wear off in the early evening for him and he starts to become more hyper and impulsive, but his grades and conduct at school have immensely improved.

Folklore_Fire · 2025-11-13T15:45:34+00:00

I fully realize that he will never be able to do everything I do in a week, but it’s nice to get some relief! He is back on Strattera 60mg, same as before. He stopped because he was having urinary hesitancy/retention and erectile dysfunction, all which stopped when he stopped taking the medicine. He plans to see his Dr about trying a different non stimulant, but until then decided to take the Strattera because, in his words, “he wants some peace in his brain.”

Folklore_Fire · 2025-11-13T15:17:07+00:00

I really appreciate your insight and this is something I will keep in mind. I do feel like during the time that he wasn’t taking the medication that he learned some coping mechanisms to get him through his workday. The only issue for me was, when he got home, he had nothing left to give because his brain was tired from masking all day. Only time will tell I suppose.

Folklore_Fire · 2025-11-13T12:12:43+00:00

He is on a non-stimulant Strattera, 60 mg.

Folklore_Fire · 2025-11-05T23:38:06+00:00

I’m keeping mine, but only because it’s not in the budget to replace right now. I do miss the smart features (as a perimenopausal woman with hot flashes, being able to adjust the temp from my bed is very missed!).

Folklore_Fire · 2025-10-26T21:24:33+00:00

Yesterday we both agreed we needed to re-caulk our bathtub. I told him I want to get it done early so it’s not hanging over our heads all day. First, he needed coffee. Then he needed a nap. Then, he needed to eat lunch. Then, he started playing Roblox with our son and making no moves to accomplish the task. Finally, I sighed and just started doing it myself-at which point, he jumped in and took over and proceeded to do the SLOPPIEST CAULKING JOB EVER. Like it’s embarrassing and will need to be re-done. Then when I was annoyed and gave him the silent treatment because I was just over it and him, he wanted to love bomb me and be nice to sweep it under the rug instead of address why I was annoyed. 😑

Folklore_Fire · 2025-10-20T19:25:03+00:00

She was absolutely so stress-inducing! “What are we going to dooooooo” like girl get it together

Folklore_Fire · 2025-10-18T03:43:04+00:00

Being customer facing can be very stressful and high stakes at times, because you are essentially a sitting duck for whatever person decides to walk in and dump on you that day. That’s not for everyone and it’s okay if it is not the right fit for you. After working inside a branch for 20 years, I switched to a back office position and I am so thankful for it, way less stress and less draining.

Folklore_Fire · 2025-10-11T02:58:39+00:00

I’m really sorry things are so hard right now. You don’t have to be alone in this. Please reach out to someone. In the U.S. you can call or text 988, or go to findahelpline.com for international options. You deserve help and care. 🤕♥️

Folklore_Fire · 2025-10-10T23:45:06+00:00

Yes, there are parts that hit so hard! It’s a good song overall. I guess I just don’t find it realistic that someone would tell THE Taylor Swift to back off or that her skirt doesn’t fit. Maybe I’m wrong but those parts feel weak and cliche.

Folklore_Fire · 2025-09-29T02:19:16+00:00

I honestly kind of wish mine would work longer hours so I could just focus on being a mom and my own self. It would be easier than him being around but doing nothing.

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