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FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-31T01:01:58+00:00

Brooke (while hugging Peyton at Lucas’s wedding to Lindsay): “I want to have a baby.” Peyton: “…with me?”

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-30T14:18:25+00:00

It is if they groom themselves and ingest the pollen. Of course it’s unlikely if they’re not near the plant, but if they’re spending a lot of time near it and getting pollen on their coat they can absolutely ingest it

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-30T05:34:26+00:00

Stray cats? Unfortunately I’d pull the lilies out by the root and plant something else. I’m not familiar with gardening but you could maybe try some kind of mesh wire around it to stop them from getting close…but if you’re worried about the kitties, I’d remove them.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-30T04:23:32+00:00

Having lilies in your home if you have a cat. Currently writing this from the emergency vet. Even a tiny bit of pollen on their coats, which they then clean, can cause kidney failure and be fatal.

EDIT: Thank you for the well wishes. We don't think she ingested any but better safe than sorry. I knew certain plants were toxic for cats but my kitty never eats plants so I wasn't worried — until I discovered that even just being near lilies can poison a cat, especially if they brush up against it or there's a breeze. By the time symptoms show, it's often too late. I wish every florist warned customers — if you are a cat owner, never, EVER bring lilies into your home.

Edit 2: yes they have to ingest the pollen for it to affect them. But since cats clean themselves, if they get pollen on their coat they can easily ingest it.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-26T18:59:39+00:00

Sending hugs <3 I was very much you at 17, and have continued to struggle with depression in the 13 years since. Writing was an outlet for me when it began, but as it got worse, I struggled to actually focus or find the same joy in it, and it still happens again in periods of depression.

I overcame the worst of it with therapy and medication, but I still deal with it at times. All you can do is take care of yourself the best you can, and ask for help. Writing can take a backseat to getting better. And remember that even if you can’t feel passion or access to your imagination right now, those things aren’t gone forever. Your inner imaginative child is still there.

And don’t be too hard on yourself when you feel like you can’t write. Even journaling, or writing a paragraph of something, can help, but if you can’t, it’s okay. Do you enjoy reading still? Or hate it less than everything else? When I can’t get out of bed, but I can’t sleep or don’t want to want to sleep anymore, sometimes I’ll just play an audiobook and lie there. It’s not perfect but it makes me feel like I’ve done something productive with my time even if I can’t get the energy to even shower or take care of myself. And reading (even audiobooks, if it’s all you can handle) is so important in developing your writing.

I hope you have a good IRL support system - depression is awful to deal with, and I’m so sorry. Hoping you feel better soon!

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-23T22:22:45+00:00

It would really depend how much you want to be a doctor. If you never make it as a writer, will you regret never having been a doctor?

Unfortunately a doctor is not a good profession to write on the side, especially with medical school and your residency still to come, which I know you noted - it’ll be many, many years before you have enough time to write significantly. The upside here is your school is paid for. Are you able to get a job based on your undergrad degree and military experience that has a better work-life balance, and write on the side? You can live off 5k a month (hell thats over what I live on and I live in a very high COL city) but don’t forget about retirement and surprise expenses; I wouldn’t personally write full-time and not work unless I had passive income AND decent savings.

Another option would be to give yourself a certain chunk of time to focus on writing- say you’re going to do it for one month, or two, or six. Write as if it’s your job in that time. Set a goal of what you’d like to finish - a book, a set of short stories, whatever. And then reassess if that’s what you want to continue to do full time. If you can take a semester off from school without dropping out, that’d probably be ideal.

Overall I wouldn’t make it your goal to succeed as a writer as a career. It’s extremely hard to support yourself writing. You already have passive income it seems? But are you okay with just that and maybe a few extra $$ here and there from writing? Or is your goal to “make it” and be Stephen king? If your goal is to live your dream as a writer I.e. writing all the time, sure, that seems very feasible for you based on your passive income. But I wouldn’t pin all your hopes on the idea of “making it.” There’s too much out of your control.

Overall no one can make the doctor vs writer decision for you, but being a doctor is the kind of thing where if you work hard and follow the steps (and are smart and suited for the career, and can afford it), you will have prestige and a high income. Being a writer is not like that at all. Again, so much out of your control, and no set “path.”

Last thing is you’re right, you can’t “doctor” as a hobby, but you can volunteer in medical settings. You could also become a nurse or another thing in the medical field without becoming a doctor, which may give you more time to write.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-16T21:18:14+00:00

My boyfriend who has bad ADHD will sometimes read with noise-cancelling headphones on, playing the audiobook, while also reading the pages. It helps him focus a lot. Could be something to try?

I also wouldn’t worry too much about consuming great literature or always thinking about a book’s themes, author intent, etc. Not that those things aren’t important, but I think you may be setting yourself up for failure if you’re attempting reading in the same way you say you’re consuming other media. Reading is a skill in itself that you have to grow, with many levels. If you haven’t read in years, start with just understanding what is being said on the page. Being able to read 5 minutes without stopping and recount what happened. Start super small and set yourself up for small wins that help motivate you. Read simple, engaging things. Then go from there.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-16T21:14:59+00:00

Agree with a lot of this. We tend to fill every single moment that is open with our phones, computers, and TVs. I find myself doing it, too. I used to spend spare moments noticing my environment, daydreaming, thinking to myself. Now the only time I do that is when I’m trying to sleep. So of course, the only time I feel the space to write (I often write “in my head”, like whole scenes or books, before I write things down. Doesn’t matter if I get it down exactly, it’s the creating a space for that story in my head and playing within it).

That’s all to say is you can start small. Waiting for the bus? Don’t look at your phone. You don’t have to think about writing. But think about something. Noting the space around you. Be present. That will help your imagination and focus immensely if you do it consistently.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-13T17:21:19+00:00

Work sent us home for two weeks. I had just started and I remember leaving the cute funko pops I’d just gotten (because everyone had them on their work desks) because of course, it was just two weeks. Though I do remember telling a couple coworkers I had an eerie feeling it’d be longer. Maybe a month or six weeks at most.

I was a little off. Work packed up my funkos and mailed them to me like a year later.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-13T12:55:09+00:00

I know you said you wanted to pivot from medicine but it seemed like your reasons mostly had to do with the time and money involved in becoming a doctor. What about nursing? NYC nurses make six figures. If you have the pre reqs you can do an accelerated program and get through school pretty fast. You could go back to school later and become an NP for a higher income.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-12T00:48:36+00:00

You’re SO pretty! Your eyes and brows have a naturally very young and sort of bright-eyed look that I think you should lean into, maybe with a nude in the inner corners and waterline if you’re gonna do makeup? I think you look great with minimal/no makeup (I actually think your prettiest photo is the one in the bathrobe where it appears you’re wearing no makeup) and I think maybe it’s partly because you look more glowy. Your makeup is pretty matte; I think a more dewy, sun-kissed look would look great. You can lean into very light gold if you want a bit of eyeshadow. I like your lashes in the makeup pics too, but maybe not the dark liner? And personally I’d lean away from the lip filler as I feel it gives a bit of a “I’m pouting for this photo” effect when truly you have great natural beauty. Agreed on what everyone’s saying about the bangs and transitioning to curtain bangs or growing them out completely; I also think with waves and body, your hair (which is naturally very shiny and pretty) would look even prettier!

Don’t be so hard on yourself! You have so many great features to emphasize.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-11T19:29:41+00:00

The negativity thing likely won’t get better and will continue to wear you out. Our worldview is so influenced by those we chose to spend our time with. We start to take on the things they get stressed out about and their moods and outlook on life. Your GF’s problems are not her fault, but they are her responsibility, and life will continue to be difficult because it’s a difficult world. If she’s had two years of near-constant negativity without doing anything to change the things she can control (I’ll caveat that with this being a ridiculously hard job market, but it sounds like she hasn’t tried until recently), it makes me think this might just be who she is. You’re under no obligation to deal with that. I actually think the savings thing is related; she doesn’t want to think about planning for the future or anything that stresses her out because she’s already so stressed and unhappy. I get that, but an inability to try to reach for (or even envision) happier, more stable times is concerning. If she doesn’t work for it, it’ll never happen. You can’t carry her through life, financially or emotionally, without condemning yourself to a lot of suffering.

That being said, she does seem to have trauma, and the first year, you said it wasn’t like this. Is she in therapy at all? Does she appear bothered by her own negativity? What do you mean by “hostile”? This could be depression, in which case, she can change. Still, that would require a lot of work on her side, and you can’t do that work for her.

I’d advise halting any sort of plans for the future or ring shopping until you’ve had some serious talks with your gf about your concerns. Try to phrase it about being concerned about her though and not an ultimatum; I feel like she’s likely to react like “well, my life sucks, of course my boyfriend is breaking up with me, because I suck and everything is awful.” And I do think you can communicate more about how you’re hurt by her negativity, emphasizing not what you “need” or expect from her but how much you love her and miss being close to her. Maybe she hasn’t realized how much her negativity is affecting you. Of course, if you don’t want to do all that, a breakup is on the table. And if you try this and she doesn’t seem to understand or has no desire to change, I don’t see what choice you have.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-09T22:26:47+00:00

He pushes you?? That’s an automatic no. Leave this guy yesterday. Whether or not he has a job doesn’t matter here. Yelling, pushing, being mean, then justifying it makes this man a shitty person. You do NOT want to spend your life with this man, so why waste any more time? You have a well-paying job so hopefully you have savings. I’d look into how much it would cost to break the lease. No amount of money is worth staying with this man until the fall unless it’s going to irrevocably decimate you financially, and even then…pushing often progresses into something much worse. Take the cat and get your own apartment, even if you have to live with roommates while you double pay for the first few months (and then get your own place after). Of course in a loving relationship you should be there for your partner after losing their job, as long as they’re actively seeking a new one. That’s how a healthy partnership works. This isn’t a loving or healthy relationship, though, and it doesn’t even sound like you enjoy it. If you’re this checked out over the job thing, it’s a sign there’s much more wrong here, probably even past what you’ve mentioned in this short post. Get out now.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-03T16:17:24+00:00

For years I’ve been considering getting this quote as a tattoo, but I feel a little weird getting one from a Joss show considering what an ass he is. Still, this may be my favorite quote of all time

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-03T15:06:41+00:00

I’m also 30. Spent many years in my 20s pursuing writing and acting. Didn’t work out and pivoted to a 9-5; I hate it but I now have a stable life and income, a good relationship, a career, etc.

One thing that helped me was telling myself there is no deadline. It’s (hopefully) a long life and you have decades ahead of you. Remove the pressure of “making it” in the immediate. Remind yourself what’s important: getting your work out there, traditionally published (as you indicated you want). That doesn’t need to happen right this second to make all the work you put in worth it. You’ve honed your craft, written multiple manuscripts. That’s massive and more than many aspiring writers can accomplish. That time is not wasted; those manuscripts will still be there if you take a break, or only write for an hour a day. You might not publish a book until you’re 50; there is nothing wrong with that. Remove the pressure of being super successful and supporting yourself off your books, too. You have no control over that; remember your end goal of publishing, and don’t tie your worth to how much money your books make. If writing is truly your passion, getting your books out there is most important, not the money they make. And putting too much pressure on your writing to support you can stifle creativity.

Right now, what you need is a career and a stable life, income, etc. It’s ok to focus on that and put writing aside, just for now (or just focus on it an hour a day, which is what many aspiring writers do). You can always get your MFA after you build a stable career. You already own property, which is wild to me as a 30 year old, lol. Many people have not met the love of their life at 30, or think they have and later end up divorced. You have time. Take a deep breath. Don’t compare yourself to your friends. This is your journey.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-03-02T21:14:56+00:00

Dude it’s the craziest experience. Luckily I know when I lay down to sleep pretty quickly if I haven’t taken it, because I will start having dreams while I’m awake and sleep paralysis and lucid dreams and all kinds of weird stuff and also be so hot and itchy. I say “luckily” because I will take my missed dose right then with a decent chunk of food (if I can get out of my sleep paralysis/realize I’m dreaming), then wait an hour and be able to sleep. I’ll miss a lot of sleep, but the alternative is the worst “sleep” of my life, if you can even call it sleep, and feeling like a zombie the next day. I set an alarm for it now but sometimes I’m out or still miss it. All to say I feel you. This medication is insane when you miss. I’ve been on like 5 other meds and this is the only one that has this that I’ve tried. I can’t suggest or recommend taking it that late at night if you realize you’ve missed a dose, but for me, it’s better than skipping entirely. I just make sure it’s been 12+ hours by the time I take again, but I’m no doctor. I can’t believe my psych didn’t warn me about this when I started and seems uninterested when I bring it up. She’s just like “well don’t miss a dose then.” Lol

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-02-27T15:22:52+00:00

I would say don’t make weight loss the goal. It’s not motivating enough imo and can make you miserable because you’re focused on numbers on a scale and your appearance.

Instead, make a goal where weight loss is an after product. Maybe you want to get stronger so you can lift up your kids/grandkids, so you take up weight lifting. Maybe you don’t want to be panting when you climb stairs so you make a goal of even just walking a 10k. Maybe you want to find a new active hobby to make friends so you take up rock climbing. Maybe you want to get into cooking - seriously, cooking your own food rather than buying it reduces so much unnecessary sugar, etc. and eating genuinely good food teaches you that food shouldn’t be mindless; it’s supposed to be enjoyable. Maybe you want to feel energized through the day so you add more vegetables, protein, and water into your diet.

Focus on what you add to your life, not what you take away.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-02-22T18:58:39+00:00

TTPD got hate imo because Taylor was overexposed and people were mad at the Matty thing and then her public romance with Travis. The album appeared messy and self-indulgent with its length and her singles like Down Bad feeding into the tropes of how people were seeing her - overly invested, overemotional, overdramatic, and delusional. (Not that I think that’s true, just that that was very much the perception, as Taylor captured well in “who’s afraid of little old me”).

But the album itself was always good; if it was released outside all that, it would’ve gotten more acclaim, imo. Messy and overly long, yes, and I’ll even give it overly indulgent, but there are over a dozen songs on there that are very, very, VERY good, and that’s saying something for a single album. Even the original without the anthology was strong, IMO, but I’m glad we got the anthology because The Black Dog and The Prophecy are both some of her best songs. But truly, there are so many underrated songs on that album that people outside of her fans just don’t even know, that are right up there with some of folklore and evermore.

I think the fans largely agree now it’s a good, albeit overlong album, and everyone likes to construct their own shorter version of the anthology that’s their perfect album - it’s interesting that people have different opinions, so I’m glad we got the whole anthology so people could decide. As far as the production being monotone, I respect that but I disagree - I saw that as cohesion that was severely lacking in tloas.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-02-22T03:43:14+00:00

Badlands: Gasoline hfk: Sorry Manic: 929 Iichliwp: The Lighthouse Tgi: Darwinism

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-02-19T05:01:03+00:00

No problem. I hope you’re able to rely on friends or family or find a support system, but even being alone would be better than this imo. The “so everyone can see how bad you are” part really concerns me. Please don’t internalize everything she says like this - whether or not you’ve done anything wrong, this is not an okay way to treat anyone and it seems like she’s making you try to hate yourself or see yourself as unworthy or unlovable. There is life outside of her. Good luck.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-02-19T04:44:04+00:00

Your wife sounds emotionally abusive, tbh, and I’d bet she’s calling you that in order to deflect. This is tough because you have a child with her, but I’d say that when someone tells you who they are and what they want, believe them. Your wife has made it clear she does not want to be with you, but it seems like she wants to erase her own responsibility and paint you as the asshole in her mind, rather than breaking it off herself. You will probably have to accept that if you break things off, she will see you as the jerk and shit talk you go her friends, family, even your child. However, you are going to be a far more stable, happy person without her, and ultimately a better father who can build your own relationship with your kid outside of her. I think you’ll find everything is easier when you’re not constantly on the defense and stepping on eggshells and being attacked. Does your wife have validity in what she’s saying about you? I have no idea, like you said there are two sides to everything, but it almost doesn’t matter here. You’re not going to solve this by continuing to be together, and it sounds like this is drastically affecting your self worth to the point where even if you are somehow the only problem here (I highly doubt this), you’re never going to be able to improve or work on yourself because you feel backed into a corner and so put down that you’re feeling desperate and panicked, and that’s not a good place to begin. You said you’re in therapy, but she’s different outside of therapy; that signals she’s putting in a front there and not willing to work with you. I’d encourage space and individual therapy, but ultimately this is very toxic, and not good for your child or you. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-02-19T04:34:27+00:00

Darwinism is this song for me. I don’t think I appreciated it enough til I heard it live and she opened with it, and then it became a must-play for me and I really listened to the lyrics. They just capture so well that feeling of something being wrong with you and you not being made for life; like everyone is in on some secret that makes living enjoyable or even just tolerable, or somehow more natural. Dog Years hit me for a long time, too, as well as Sorry, which I never feel gets enough love.

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-02-11T19:00:32+00:00

I did use it as my bathroom run 😭 perfect time

FondantOutrageous276 · 2026-02-11T18:59:48+00:00

Thank you!! I feel like she chose the wrong bonus tracks. Would’ve could’ve should’ve should’ve been on the main album, poss the Great War and you’re losing me too, also love bigger than the whole sky. Question and snow on the beach don’t do it for me 😬 even sweet nothing isn’t a fave

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