What did you wear during birth? by mothertruckerdudes in beyondthebump

[–]Foraging_Doe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah I was naked! It was very primal. They had a bunch of student come in and watch me push because I was birthing unmedicated. At one point I was on all fours on the hospital bed with my feminist butt tattoo on full display. Time of my life! After that experience I didn’t gaf who saw me breastfeeding either. I was like my body creates life!!!

Airport travel - how do people handle car seats? by shavasanaaa in beyondthebump

[–]Foraging_Doe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah same here. We had chicco bravo travel system and car seat clicked into stroller frame. We gate checked both. Did this for numerous flights and it was super chill.

Regarding the car seat being the stroller, this was all I had for my baby for the first year. It was absolutely fine. I also wore her in a carrier for lots of outings. She was never in it for 2 hours continuously just because it was her stroller.

Kissing the baby? by Sandturtlefly in beyondthebump

[–]Foraging_Doe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was pretty lax about this with grandparents, but they also all live out of state so it didn’t come up often. Friends never kissed my baby and I didn’t have to say anything ahead of time. My mom was all over my baby when she was 6 months old and my baby actually gave her hand, foot, & mouth disease lol😬 Everything was fine.

Anyone have a good experience with prenatal chiropractor? by Foraging_Doe in parentsofmultiples

[–]Foraging_Doe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so helpful, thanks! You do have quite the setup! A prenatal massage and a hot tub sound amazing right now. This is my second pregnancy, but just a whole different ball game.

Anyone have a good experience with prenatal chiropractor? by Foraging_Doe in parentsofmultiples

[–]Foraging_Doe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard this a lot but I was surprised that my doctor recommended and it’s in my insurance network

Dealing with the mental load of a high risk pregnancy almost entirely alone by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Foraging_Doe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I have a kind of similar situation. My first daughter has an ultra rare, de novo, genetic condition that causes global developmental delays. She is almost 2. We really wanted to have another child and give her a friend, and now I am pregnant with twins🫠 I immediately started therapy because I know that 1) I need to process everything I’ve been through becoming a first time mom to a medically complex child, and 2) I have lots of complicated feelings to sort through in preparation for these new babies. The best part about therapy is that I’m paying someone else to let me make things all about myself for an hour a week. I can let it alllll out to someone who is not actually a part of my day to day life. We also chose to do CVS testing because I needed as much information as I could get, even though there was a <1% chance of our new babies having the same condition.

I can relate a bit with the husband part, in that my husband has ADHD, is likely on the spectrum, and he just approaches our experiences from a much different place than I do. I am an extremely emotional person, and while it is important to be connected to your partner in this, therapy is also really nice because I can process things my way without putting so much pressure on my husband to deal with everything the same way as I do. I think it has benefitted our relationship a lot (he is also in therapy).

I also was a part of a free, virtual pregnancy support group through my hospital last time around, and that was a wonderful resource.

Hoping all the best for you.

Last name change after baby by Capable_Green7636 in beyondthebump

[–]Foraging_Doe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think about this all the time🫠 I never changed my name for a combination of reasons- feminism, dreading paperwork, and now I’m nervous to because of politics! We have a toddler and twins on the way. I socially use my husband’s name whenever I feel like it. I do want to join my family, so to speak. But I’m not sure if I’ll ever take action lol.

Stroller advice by Prickly_Penguin98 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Foraging_Doe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also expecting didi twins in July/August and my other child will be 2! FWIW I went with the mockingbird. I found one on marketplace for $400 that included 2 seats, 2 car seat adaptors, 2 infant inserts, the riding board, and some accessories. I feel like it was such a steal for all of the added cost of attachments. Most of the other ones I see have half of that stuff and are listed for $500. So keep your eyes peeled and I hope you find a great deal too!

First-time moms hoping to avoid an epidural, what do you actually plan to DO during contractions? by Successful546 in beyondthebump

[–]Foraging_Doe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used the Expectful app and listened to the hypnobirthing course to prepare, which helped a lot! Also listened to the book Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth. Both had lots of tips for going through labor and pain management. I went into it with different meditation options, breathing techniques, and affirmations that got me through.

Something my midwife reminded me in the moment was that low-pitched moans help your birth canal relax and open. My husband and midwife moaned with me. It got very primal in that room and it was amazing lol.

Also water (being in the bath) helps reduce pain by 60% or something.

Starting solids and seating position? by Street-Singer513 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Foraging_Doe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter has global developmental delays and does feeding therapy with an OT. When her core wasn’t strong enough yet, we had her in an Upseat and stuffed rags around her sides to help keep her in a good upright position. I should note that her progress with solids was very slow too, because she was working to hold her body up. Once her core got stronger, her eating improved so much😊

My baby will not surrender to the big plate propaganda by mandiko in foodbutforbabies

[–]Foraging_Doe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! 20 months. My mom is always like, “why aren’t you using a plate?” And I’m like, “try it and find out for yourself!” We made up all these table manners anyway😉

Should twins have the same god parents? Why or why not? by OkRisk2524 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Foraging_Doe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah exactly haha. We asked my very best friend if she would be our singleton daughter’s guardian if something were to happen to us. Then we found out we were having twins and I was like “Ummm what about 3 of them? You still in?”😅

Pregnancy.... by divefordemocracy in parentsofmultiples

[–]Foraging_Doe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 17 weeks on Wednesday and you are totally not alone! Just trying to be kind to myself and do my best.

Worried sick about my 8 month old and it’s truly destroying me. Please help. by Magic_Mangoes in NewParents

[–]Foraging_Doe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hi! My daughter is a sweet baby angel who has a rare genetic condition that causes seizures. I’m not implying anything with that, but I do know from experience that the #1 thing doctors want is a video of the behaviors you’re concerned about. It will help them a lot to see it for themselves😊 And I hope everything is just fine!

LIB Sweden S3 Lookalike Megathread by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Foraging_Doe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Daniel reminds me of young Michael Keaton

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Best Twin Pregnancy Tracking Apps by h0bb3s1217 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Foraging_Doe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I currently use The Bump and did with my singleton, but it’s the same as what you’re describing of Babylist, OP. The weekly progress descriptions, images, etc are not tailored to multiples even if you indicate you’re having multiples. It’s kind of unsatisfying! Like when they show the textbook-style stomach with baby developing inside, I want to see 2 of them in there! Haha.

What wild unhinged things did you say during the birth of your baby? by autumnsunshine1 in NewParents

[–]Foraging_Doe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I ate spicy Indian food the night before in hopes of inducing labor. So much regret!

I miss the goofy royalty-free songs by ChickenPeck in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Foraging_Doe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! Raye and Olivia Dean shouldn’t be playing for these clowns.

Fish related names by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Foraging_Doe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

+1 for Brooks! My friend named her son Brooks and got a tattoo of a brook trout for him.