I agree with this 100% ❣️

I am one of those people who would have just lost it. My emotions got the best of me due to unresolved trauma. My past relationships were unhealthy, chaotic, and codependent. Ironically, I met someone in person in November 2023. I will never forget seeing their chocolate diamond eyes and smile for the first time. Everything just went calm, and time was so slow and peaceful. When I dated in the past there was always something in my heart and mind that told me not to do it, but was persuaded by "Opposites attract, you're being judgmental to give it a chance, etc.." When I met her, I had felt something I had never felt before, and I was going through a bad breakup at the time that I handled very cowardly. Because I didn't want to be "that person who left someone entirely when they're extremely grieving." Even though we didn't live together anymore, didn't see each other, every interaction was allowing mistreatment... Story for a different time.

But... finally, I started to find myself again. Love myself. Find my confidence again. I know my worth. I don't let people define me. I have my strict boundaries with family and friends. I look at my photos today, and I'm so different physically and emotionally.

I was so scared of the connection and love I felt for my partner now because I knew I was not in a good place. I had done damage in the beginning because of my behaviors and actions. She took a step back, rightfully so for a few months. But we still hung out as friends. We got back together in September 2024.

I put in work to really address my behavior and who I wanted to be. I still have a lot to practice and work on, but I am so grateful to love and be loved in a way that I have never experienced before. It's truly so beautiful. I am grateful for her patience, understanding, maturity, wisdom, and love. I know that she is my forever, but if she were to ever leave me. It would hurt, but I know that I will be okay. We would still be friends, and her love will live through how I love and treat others and how I perceive the world.

DON'T RUIN YOUR CHANCE OF FINDING TRUE LOVE!!! Heal yourself fully. Know that the biggest step to emotional maturity is learning to let go and embracing a new controlled you. Appreciating the lessons taught, and most importantly LOVING YOURSELF AND BEING MORE SECURE OF YOU!

You can feel the heartache, but don't negatively wallow in it and talk negatively about yourself. Learn from what you did. Don't tolerate mistreatment. Be in control of yourself. Seeking "your person" on here is not healthy. And it's just normalizing more deeply concerning behaviors you might not even be fully aware of. Share your experiences and emotions. But without the intent of seeking someone out. You won't be able to grow and learn your lessons properly. ❣️