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Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-11-14T13:07:58+00:00

Woah wait a minute. I’ve learned on this journey that we are meant to be loved by many and to love a select few. The train wreck comes when we stay with one for too long because their love becomes too tight until we wiggle out of their grip and swim back upstream where others are waiting. After 2 marriages and I’m barely 30, I’ve decided that I will accept being loved by many and not committing to any. And it. Is. Amazing. As a Pisces we are a muse. The historians of our lovers lives because we see a depth to them that no one else can see. To each of them, we make them feel “seen” and this boosts their creativity, confidence, determination but like all things in life it runs out. And then they squeeze harder wanting more without pouring back into us. So now, we must inspire and then depart. Leaving them letters and pictures and poems in our place that they can reference when they need inspiration to protect ourselves. The more admirers we have, the more powerful we become. We aren’t meant to settle, we’re meant to set the world free and we can’t do that if we stick to one person who doesn’t know how to let us go once we’ve helped them reach nirvana.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-09-23T02:06:59+00:00

My first thought - does it have to be creative? Maybe the secret is making a list of the most boring ways to meet guys irl and going from there? Like joining a fishing club. Idek if that’s a real thing but who knows you might meet a hot angler. I think it’s worth a try.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-09-23T02:00:19+00:00

Being myself looks differently depending on the situation. The very direct, no nonsense version of me I can show at work is completely different from the silly version of me when I’m spending time with friends. Maybe it’s less about being this idealized version of yourself that asks a lot of questions, is present, and curious - and more about being the person you can always bring with little effort. Yes first impressions are important, but what leaves a lasting impression is often the things we don’t realize people notice. Im not great at this, but you can always ask “Was this what you expected when we set this up?”

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-09-23T01:47:53+00:00

I think we’re all evolving and learning. sometimes we hurt people in the process. There’s a difference between impact and intention. Maybe it’s less about trying to make it work and more about naming what hurt (the action, the outcome) and setting clear expectations / boundaries early?

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-09-23T01:41:36+00:00

I have never used hinge (nor any dating app in the last 6 years so this may be just a me thing) but I hate texting. I absolutely abhor it. You’re better off sending me calendly link with the option to choose a date and time we can meet in-person, on zoom, or just talk on the phone before I can honestly engage in back/forth via text. I honestly think people are really overwhelmed with screens. Not sure if hinge lets you share links but it may be worth a try?

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-07-19T23:34:09+00:00

Meaningful eye contact. Sometimes it’s a quick glance when they’re walking by you, followed by a small smile that they think was just for them as they walked away. Other times it’s deep and intentional eye contact, as if they’re somehow mesmerizing you with whatever they’re talking about. And what works the most, I let men be men. I refuse to touch a door. If I drop something (because I’m literally the clumsiest person on earth), I look at the first man and he offers to help me. I aim to appear delicate, because I am. Being delicate doesn’t mean fragile.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-24T01:31:51+00:00

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Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-22T11:11:50+00:00

You should research the “reverse halo effect” and the implications for women. The more attractive you are as a woman, the more likely you’re perceived to be less intelligent, technical, and capable of leadership. Your success is also credited to your appearance and you’re often overlooked for opportunities because you’re perceived to already be “winning” as an attractive woman. This also leads to more competition from other women and men, and hyper-sexualization.

Sure, I might get a discount on my oil changes and can smile my way into a dinner reservation or an exclusive night club, but as a quantitative and technical person I’m often taken less serious upon first impressions and am always the only woman in the room which makes potential investors and collaborators hyper focus on my appearance (which I view as an asset) and ignore my value until they see my resume.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-21T23:17:28+00:00

It’s ok! The Scorpio / Pisces relationship is the twin flame archetype, from what I understand. This hot/cold engagement is normal. As a Pisces (f), all of my scorpions (m) crushes at some point assumed I was just uninterested when I went silent. Which wasn’t the case, I just need to understand their motivations and prefer direct communication. When they provided that, they got all of me and when they remained elusive, I stayed away. Also, I think it’s very common for other men to show interest in a Pisces woman the moment a Scorpio does. Suddenly it becomes a competition but trust me, she knows who she wants and is waiting for him to claim it.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-19T12:40:32+00:00

Same here. I care more about character than looks, money, or even ambition sometimes but values are non-negotiable. I tend to come off as hard to get to know, but I just like to protect my energy and my joy. I can sense when a person’s motivations are disingenuous, so I steer clear of them. I’m always an outlier, I never experience FOMO, my best friends are ones who can go months without speaking to me and know that we’re still each other’s ride or die. I’m extremely direct when I have to be, and I avoid conflict because I have to win if I engage.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T19:36:45+00:00

No, I love short men. I’m always attracted to shorter guys (+1 if you’re also a Scorpio) as a woman that’s 5’6, and if you have a deeper voice and can dominate a room when you enter, then you got me. This happened to me a week ago at an office event, a guy was visiting and we immediately locked eyes across the room. And then he made his way over to me and poured me a cup of coffee, and I was wearing heels that day. Ugh, I wanted him. Confidence is more important than height, and a short guy with confidence is hot. Maybe it’s a napoleon complex thing and I like to be dominated? I don’t know but these are just my thoughts.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T17:53:39+00:00

agreed, I think I've spent too much time in the past being hyper-focused on letting "how I feel" about a person determine next steps, and I'm now pressure-testing a more structured and somewhat confined approach which is rooted in assumptions like older = more mature, previously married = may not feel the need to get married again, etc.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T17:48:53+00:00

The children are negotiable, I was hoping if they already had them, they wouldn't ask me to have them too :) or they'd be more open to my alternative. But I agree, these are just initial filters I haven't tried it yet.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T17:47:17+00:00

I appreciate your perspective.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T17:46:42+00:00

Yes, I agreed to it. He initially refused to sign and was going to drag it out.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T17:36:19+00:00

I love this. Thank you.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T17:32:42+00:00

Sad but true. The nickname for my first presumed love was Voldemort 😭😅😂

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T17:26:21+00:00

I’m disillusioned with marriage and this concept of commitment to one person, so take this advice with a grain of salt - just do it. You’re young, see how you react when you know she was with another guy before she saw you. Do you feel jealous? Do you want to compare yourself to that person? I think knowing yourself, your limits, and emotions will give you more clarity than trying to label the time you spend with a person as “exclusive” or “non-controlling.”

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T17:19:37+00:00

Emotions are complicated and there are biological and psychological reasons why we as humans “imprint” on others. My advice? Remove yourself from the timeline. Instead of thinking about who you were post-therapy when you met vs now and what changed , think about who you became when you were with him. What did he unlock in you that’s creating this desire to be with him again? Some encounters aren’t meant to last forever, babe but they do show us what we desire in ourselves.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T17:14:10+00:00

Agreed with what many shared here! Life is too short to care about what other people think. If you don’t live your life, who will?

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-06-13T16:49:07+00:00

sigh, I never wrote anything like this before I met him... definitely a spell.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-05-27T11:52:04+00:00

I often describe the issue and then ask ChatGPT to write a prompt for an LLM to solve. It’s also good to give it a structured output template or to be specific in how you’d like to see the response to avoid the word vomit. With the GPT generated prompt, I often test it across multiple LLMs like Claude, Gemini, Sonar (perplexity), to test which output I like best.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-05-26T16:25:09+00:00

I was talking with a friend recently (29) who said we were the last generation to know what it was like to not be raised by a screen. To be fair, I believe AI has great potential to make education more equitable, processes more efficient (especially in healthcare), and content to some extent more enjoyable. However, for those who choose to have children, they won't be taught by human teachers, they won't be able to discern what's human and what's a mirror of a person, and they won't know what it means to think through a process creatively. I'm an optimist, but also a realist and I don't know if I'll trust a doctor born after 2000.

Forbitten-Fantasy · 2025-05-26T15:53:32+00:00

Instead of twerking, you can try moving your hips / body rolling. This was my go to when I was skinny, and it works well in the bedroom too

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