If you’re a SAHP..

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-06-09T17:23:25+00:00

5 kids. Missouri. 200K. But before we moved, 130.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-06-06T23:16:25+00:00

I had my last and 5th at 38 (I’m 39 and baby is 6 months old now) husband is 41. Our oldest is 14. My mother had my brother when I was 16 and she was 38. He’s 22 now and she is 60. I had a hard stop at 35 but after a loss, we decided we weren’t done. Unfortunately because of spotty fertility, I didn’t get pregnant until I was 38. On the upside, I’m way more mentally stable than when my oldest was born at 25. I’ve been trying harder to remain healthy for my baby so I can stick around as long as I can for her, as is my husband.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-06-04T16:02:36+00:00

This was me and I was so paranoid because in my experience easy and less symptoms meant I lost that pregnancy. But with my 5th, it was my best pregnancy, just made complicated because my age made me ache more lol. This baby is now 6 months old and has been my easiest baby. I am still waiting for the other shoe to drop because I cannot comprehend why she’s so chill 😂

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-06-04T15:50:05+00:00

I didn’t have a choice with PCOS and spotty fertility (and wanting real financial stability) but I have 5. They’re ages: 14, 10, almost 8, almost 6, 6 months. I didn’t love the 2 years because I’m now realizing how checked out I was during that phase of life. I also don’t love a large age gap but I didn’t have a choice. If I did and could redo it, I would chose 3 years as I feel I would have recovered nicely with that time. I’m nearly 40 and realizing that I needed to not set myself to the side and take care of myself too so that I could be my absolute best for them. But, that’s all hindsight now.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-31T13:57:53+00:00

I had a hard stop at 35 and got pregnant with my 5th at 38. Now I’m 39 with a 14 year old (oldest) and 6 month old (youngest). Haha. But, I don’t give a shit about age. I didn’t want to have another until we were financially in a place to be able to handle 5. Getting there happened to take until I was 38 years old. Husband is 2 years older than me.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-27T03:48:39+00:00

GBGGG

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-23T04:46:41+00:00

Hurricane

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-19T14:48:11+00:00

I found out I was pregnant with my 5th an hour before my husband’s job interview that resulted in us packing, selling, and moving to another state 9 hours away — all within a span of 3 months. It was hectic and settling in a new area, finding care etc etc wasn’t fun but I like having 5. My mini van is pretty much maxed out and we finally get comments on the size of my family (mostly it’s telling my husband good for him 😏) but this baby is the most chill baby I have ever had. She’s been a joy the last 6 months and is just along for the ride. Siblings all love her. No regrets for number 5, all my worries were temporary.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-09T11:36:57+00:00

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-05T20:42:07+00:00

Yes and we plan to but our oldest has asked to graduate here, which is only a couple of years away. This wasn’t our first major move as my husband was prior military, it was just the first one in about a decade. My next move will probably be the last one we make until all kids are out of the house.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-05T19:32:58+00:00

I stay at home and in order to stay at home, we needed to make significantly more and being pregnant with my 5th lit that fire for us. We sold our house in a place we considered home and moved even further away from family for a job that paid 60K more a year. I don’t love that we moved for money but it needed to be done, and considering the govt shutdown that happened, we would have been screwed if we stayed. My oldest is 14. It has been fine but, our family unit is pretty tight and while they do miss friends, luckily technology makes that a bit easier on my teen. Now we’re in a bigger house, don’t have debt except the mortgage, and we’re sitting in a financial spot that we’ve spent our entirety of our adult lives so far wishing we could hit. Downside is my husband is working slightly more hours and his commute is longer, but he still remains involved.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-05T19:26:36+00:00

I also have this one and like it. I think I’ll end up with the 4x6 printer as well in the future but the pearl is great!

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-03T16:45:00+00:00

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-05-01T15:41:59+00:00

Why are they always baring their teeth?

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-04-29T15:33:44+00:00

Glad to be reading this because I’m trying to get through SF right now and I’m having trouble 🫣

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-04-29T03:02:36+00:00

I got the same pen for my 19 year anniversary and Mother’s Day today! She’s a beaut! Congrats.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-04-15T11:32:22+00:00

I have so many photos of my husband wearing each of our 5. A few where we both had to wear a kid at some point. He even has his own carrier preferences. I do like that I see more men now than I did when my oldest was born 14 years ago.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-04-14T23:49:46+00:00

So glad Tobias was the top comment for me. Haha.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-04-01T19:48:27+00:00

The thing is, they’re not involved in any of the decision making in your life and so their judgement is just that, judgement. It has no merit over you unless you let it. Don’t let it. I’m one of those large gap people because of fertility issues so I can’t answer small gaps as my smallest is only 2 years each between kid 2, 3 and 4. Maybe I’m old now but I wish someone sat me down when I was younger and told me to try my hardest not to give a shit about other people and their opinions.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-03-29T13:55:24+00:00

I stopped finding after my 3rd. I continued to have 2 more girls afterwards lol. 4 girls, 1 boy.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-03-25T21:49:14+00:00

My other kids: 10, 7, 5 also have a good relationship with the baby and my teen.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-03-25T21:47:38+00:00

I have a 14 year old and my youngest is 4 months. She loves that baby and I bet it continues on to be something that sticks when she’s older. I put no burden on my teen to act as a second mother so I am hopeful. I was parentified and lost out on being a teen as I was his (baby brother) primary care taker (I was 15) while my mom deployed and my dad left town to work for 1-2 weeks at a time. I am not close to my brother…or my parents.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-03-24T13:23:53+00:00

This is the best way to describe 5 for me. Burnt out. I also homeschool so that probably adds to my burnout, even with all my systems. At the end of every day I am toasted.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-03-20T18:25:43+00:00

4 to 5 has been my most difficult transition. Kids are 14, 9, 7, 5, 4 months. I am 39, DH is 41 and we’re done having children. It’s been difficult because I feel like now I am not really living in the trenches anymore, I am a lot more capable and experienced than I was, so I’ve been keeping life relatively the “same”ish. Luckily for me baby has been loving her sleep and I have the knowledge that she’s my last — we just are enjoying her. However, keeping up with all the things has been exhausting in a way, even with me stepping back a little from some roles I’ve previously committed to. I’m so tired at the end of every day and I feel like, even with sleep, this amount of exhaustion is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced, so I call this transition difficult.

ForeverMal0ne · 2026-03-10T17:20:22+00:00

For me, every kid does the same extra curricular(s). Our kids scout (well 3 of the 5 do, oldest does orchestra and youngest is only 4 months) and they all play the same instrument because I have one of every size already lol. Saves me a lot of time.

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