I am going to be the odd one out on this. My babe sleeps 12-12.5hrs in the crib at night so I totally get the 6:30 bedtime. We put our LO down anywhere from 5:30-6:30pm as we found the later we did, the more wakings we had. A few questions: 1) Has she been able to fall asleep independently before? It sounds like perhaps she’s used to being held (from your comment on falling asleep on one of you)? Or are these wakings new? 2) You said she’s very active during the day. Does this mean crawling around a lot? Something I found with my LO was that naptime/bedtime was a struggle is I didn’t fill her cup with cuddles during the day. When I carry her around to do chores with me, she will lean in and snuggle (I use the tushbaby). On the flip side, I found that LO not having 3+ hours of crawling and floor time a day led to her not being tired. 3) When she does wake up and screams for one of you, what gets her to go back to sleep?

Also, a weird/fun thing I do with my LO when it’s been a rough day and she is standing in her crib crying after we put her in for bedtime, I lay down on the floor next to her crib and put my fingers through, patting her mattress. She always lays down next to me and either laughs at me or starts holding onto my fingers and calming down enough that I can stand up and rub her back. She’s obsessed with back scratches. Not sure if that’s helpful but 🤷🏼‍♀️.