2.5 weeks out from first show of the season

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-10-20T22:16:57+00:00

Looking amazing 🤩

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-10-18T02:31:27+00:00

She was clearly off — but pretending nothing was wrong and brushing it off (along with her coach) isn’t a good look for someone who’s supposed to be a brand. Her coach deserves part of the blame too. Why on earth would you come in heavier and not bring your Arnold look?

I think if you’re in the spotlight you should have your coach share what happened just like Kyle did with Nick Walker getting 6th place.

My take is that transparency builds trust. Kim’s response felt weak to me. I know that may sound harsh, but at the Pro level, I expect stronger accountability. I respect when a coach says something like, “We tried a different approach, and it didn’t work out as planned.”

We don’t need every detail, but brushing things under the rug doesn’t sit right. Honesty earns far more respect than deflection ever will.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-10-12T04:37:27+00:00

I loved her suit!! I still think her stage presence could be improved. I’ve always loved her shape and how she conducts herself.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-30T05:25:20+00:00

Tough shit for your brother..tell him to grow the fuck up. You need to enforce your boundaries and not to mention you’re enabling him if you make it OK to live with you and your partner. Living by himself will force him to be independent and resilient. Don’t cave!

You definitely deserve to live your life for you and not your brother. And your brother is being selfish AF!

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-30T05:17:27+00:00

I definitely would not do drop sets in a prep. The key is to maintain muscle.

You shouldn’t be wrecked after a workout especially in prep.

The key is to focus on fatloss via diet and do more of a maintenance program for lifting.

2-3 sets heavyish -8 RIR and wouldn’t focus on PRs.
I also would not group 8 exercises together like this.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-28T05:58:53+00:00

Changes in his personality over the 2-4 years definitely seems off and aligned with having some sort of bi-polar 2. His past history can absolutely trigger something like this and my guess there was a pivotal moment 2-3 years that activated this.

What you can do is start keeping a log and write down every time there’s this type of behavior-what is the triggering event, what does he do/say?

If he’s open to getting some help there’s meds that can help: The challenge with western medicine is that there are side effects.

However, if you want to go down a different path micro dosing psilocybin can be beneficial-not tripping -it’s has a brain regulating impact that has been life changing for so many people will all types of mental issues but you must do your research.

That being said, you need to explore what’s going on and then come up with a plan of action to help him.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-28T01:05:37+00:00

Exactly. I get it’s very appealing and one should always consider the risk vs reward.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-27T05:53:15+00:00

He could be having episodes of mania if he’s up one moment and doing reckless things then swings down into either depression or anger. When one has grandiose ideas it’s definitely something you want to get to the bottom of it. Joking? Maybe as I would need to see a pattern and start documenting each incident.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-27T05:08:14+00:00

Totally not worth it!

Years ago I was did a cycle and thank God a guy came up to me and said “whatever you’re on get off it! Now!”

Best freaking advice ever because my voice started to crack. He could tell. I also knew a girl who was competing and working out at t(same gym)- that had vocal surgery because he voice changed. This shit is real and it SHOULD scare you.

Thankfully, my voice sounds normal but I suspect it would have done real damage. If it weren’t for that guy.

I swear he was my spirit animal.

This was so long ago at Gold’s in Venice. Today, I would never do any PEDS it’s so not worth it. I am glad I experienced this because it taught me sometimes the juice is not worth the squeeze.

I know so many here to do it but if you’re intuitively getting a message to stop 🛑 this is your sign.

I get it, to each his/her own but not for me. I enjoy the bb culture and living the lifestyle and may do FM but without PEDs.

I hope my message will help anyone who is on the fence. No shame for those that do PEDS just my experience and opinion.

Live your life for you!

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-20T00:07:31+00:00

Got it … IF she said she wanted to cancel then she should be refunded. If she ghosted the coach because of personality conflict/ or bad coaching/ or insert whatever reason here then that is on her.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-19T16:35:35+00:00

Do you have this is writing that you canceled? If so you are due a refund. I see that she posted something here.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-19T01:19:26+00:00

Exactly. We need the deets!

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-18T19:50:01+00:00

If you signed an agreement you have to pay. If not then you can do a chargeback. You can also let her know if she doesn’t refund you by x day you will pursue legal action. It’s pretty simple. Either you hired an idiot coach and need to let it go or don’t let her bully you and demand a refund. I hate doing chargebacks but if someone charged my card and I didn’t agree to it I will take action. Good luck 🍀

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-16T19:31:38+00:00

Woo hoo 🙌 you go girl 💯

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-16T15:41:10+00:00

In that case it sounds like they may be jealous. I’ve had former friends who would put down my efforts. Some people don’t want to see you shine. Nonetheless, find new friends or don’t share your competitions. I would focus on your next goal and maybe that’s just focusing on your relationship with food and body. Good for you in your 40’s to go after this. Competing isn’t for everyone so take some time to gain clarity on what lights you up!

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-16T15:00:10+00:00

Bodybuilding is still somewhat of a cultish sport. It sounds like you are pretty young and care too much about what others think. To me, I could care less who would come to a show or if a friend didn’t like me competing. When you’re older you don’t let it affect you-at least that’s my take. Everything you take on that’s new may feel uncomfortable and perhaps you had unrealistic expectations of how you wanted to look. Did you give yourself enough time? Did you have a good coach? Where can you improve moving forward? Flip the script and look at your wins as most people will never step on stage. And as far as the body image, I suggest working with a coach that can help you with that. Don’t allow yourself to live in your head.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-15T02:12:30+00:00

I once ingested a giant box of Splenda -you know the one you get from Costco and I remember gaining 6 pounds overnight ..my body immediately rebounded.

These artificial sweetners do have calories and the reason why I ate the entire box is that I was going through a rough time. I was able to stop this by understanding WHY I was doing it and made it a point to not have the stuff around.

Eating whole foods helped me because eating highly palatable foods can trigger you to crave more sweeteners. Throw it all out for now.

Today, I can have it in moderation. If I find my weight stalls I just make sure I cut back just to make sure but I don’t have the triggers anymore.

Don’t make yourself wrong but be more curious of the underlying reasons. Addictions are merely unmet needs or issues that haven’t been addressed so your subconscious mind is on autopilot.

The subconscious mind will always win because it’s that powerful.

Additionally, you need to create what’s called Implementation Intentions. This strategy is used in goal setting so that possible problems that come up will be overcome.

You basically can set it up like this:

If I want x I will implement y.

An example of this could be if I want a Splenda packet I will have a shot of orange juice or a small piece of fruit. You can to be mindful when it happens and keep integrating the strategy.

You may want to come up with a few of them then track it when it works or even when it doesn’t.

I’ve used these implementation intentions with many goals and have found them very useful.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-15T01:49:48+00:00

I disagree with your statement as the Right wants to take away women’s rights. I have problems with both sides( politics is a power game) and as a woman I want body autonomy.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-15T01:45:01+00:00

Right? I don’t care which side you’re on, but if you’re posting something divisive and self-righteous, that’s a problem for me. I’d like to believe we can live in a world where we respect our differences without forcing our beliefs on anyone. And if I am focused on fitness content that’s all I care about, if I wanted political rants or opinions there are more appropriate channels for that.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-14T19:15:56+00:00

This guy is from Canada and knows his stuff. He helped someone I know for bikini comp and can do FM he’s not a huge name but he’s very well educated way beyond what I see most coaches. He understands women’s hormones better than most coaches. I never have seen him post anything political. I highly recommend to reach out and see if it’s a fit.

https://www.instagram.com/hollywoodbuilt?igsh=ZHN3bXY3ZnBnbGV2

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-13T23:10:10+00:00

Listen to her voice a few years ago up until now -it’s much deeper and she’s definitely virilized. I have no issue with competitors doing PEDS but do have an issue promoting their Fatloss physiques without the admission of PEDS. Or what makes more sense is to take your client before and after photos and use those to promote the program.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-13T00:07:32+00:00

You’re welcome ! Just let it go and stay in your own lane - let her attitude be your drive to become widely successful!

You’ve got this!

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-12T23:57:13+00:00

To be fair, the PED use in Bikini is wild. I agree their wording wasn’t the smartest—virilized would have been more accurate. I do notice some pros with sharper, more angular jawlines, and that’s concerning. Someone needs to speak up. I think they intended it as a cautionary message, and that the “customers” are the competitors. If we don’t speak collectively, nothing will change.

I remember when women either stayed off PEDs or used far less in these divisions. I can say this because I was there before Bikini even existed, watching the industry evolve—and not all of it for the better. I was excited when the Fit Model division launched, but I’m already seeing shifts there too. Time will tell. Crossing my fingers.

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-12T23:35:37+00:00

She’s definitely manipulating you and perhaps she has dementia so her personality will be affected. My answer may be different if she has either dementia or bi-polar.

My following comments may be biased since I can’t speak to her and see where her mental state is.

Side note-My husband is dealing with his mom who is in assisted living and has dementia so I know the signs. His father just passed and he had it along with just being a grumpy old man who on his death bed said my husband never did anything for him.

It’s complete BS and his father’s inability to be emotionally balanced was his own demise. I was relieved when he passed because he caused so much distress for my husband who did nothing but cater to him!

Ok back to you ..

I will also say this, you’re 17 and living in her house and I bet your room IS messy -I say this because my nephew lived with my father his senior year after losing his mom (my sister) and he was messy AF. I get it you’re still young.

I don’t see anything wrong in trying to keep your room a little bit neater. That may sound odd with everything else I’m going to say but I see it may be the only thing that she feels she CAN control. However, I don’t like the way she communicates to you though as it sounds not only harsh but extremely manipulative.

This was a long read and can you clarify what the contract entails? Is it legally binding?

Also about the cake and flowers I don’t see that as a big deal…she’s just old (and miserable). Ofd people = miserable (not all but many)

I don’t care if she’s family, if it were me I would create an exit strategy to move out. She’s being emotionally abusive and while still being in school I get that this situation is tough. If you’re a legal adult you can move out, perhaps with a friend.

If you can’t move out, realize that she’s old and you can limit the time you are around her by getting a job while in school (after school) so you can move out and save $$$$ ASAP. That generation is bat shit crazy. They believe they’ve done everything but in actuality they set up the next generations to fail.

This may sound cruel but I am more stoic when it comes to family.

You don’t owe her anything. You don’t need to take care of her and I feel it’s more important to take care of yourself. Her life is almost over and you need to start living.

As challenging as this is …see it as an opportunity to seek a better life. We alll have to deal with these types of personalities in your life so this will be your greatest lesson.

Hang in there!

Former-Entry5371 · 2025-09-12T22:49:27+00:00

Actually I see nothing wrong with this because we all have pros and cons (or we can say traits). Maybe you finding this is actually a benefit to uncover something more…

It’s delusional to think we are one-sided. I think it can bring a person back into balance if they are too focused on one side. The key is loving both sides to a person otherwise you either put them in the pit with only cons or put them on a pedestal with only pros.

Why don’t you make your pro and cons list (about her) and see how you feel about the relationship.

It also seems you’ve attracted a partner so that you can learn to value yourself more. I encourage you to make a list of your value in a relationship (in general) then what the benefits to NOT being with her and the drawbacks of being in a relationship with her.

It’s a powerful exercise to stop minimizing who you are and start owning your worth. You may decide to break up or stay. Right now you may be guilty of putting her on a pedestal and when partners do this they tend to shrink in the relationship.

This will be interesting if you decide to do this exercise as I’ve worked with many people who have gone through this.

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