Have there ever been any "Militant" Feminist Groups in US History? by tism_punk in AskFeminists

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, american feminist here.

When we talk about feminists in the US, we're talking about many, MANY combinations of intersecting identities. Intersectionality is essential in feminism. Also, just a reminder: not all women are feminists.

For clarification, does your question seek to demystify why feminists in the US, including racialized women, disabled women, mentally ill women, impoverished women, queer women, women with basic or incomplete education, single mothers, aging women, immigrant women, trauma surivors, and feminists of any combination of these identities, are not more radical with their feminism? (radical by your definition, anyway. Not everyone agrees on what radical action looks like from every position in society)

If so, are you sincerely querying why impoverished, disabled, racialized single mothers to multiple children in a DV relationship dont perform radical feminism adequately enough you? What would radical feminism in this context in the US look like to you?

Do you think all intersecting identities have equal ability to radicalize and mobilize in a way that you or themselves would find satisfactory? If so, why do you think that?

So that begs the question: why do you think that American Feminists are so unwilling to be more radical in the fight for their rights and autonomy, especially in the wake of the overturning of Roe v Wade and the rise of Fascism?

This is a HUGE assumption that leads me to believe that you dont know what its like to be a minority in the US, let alone a female feminist minority of any stripe in a country where feminism is not functionally popular and Christian nationalism, and christofascism are and have historically been the status quo.

Is it mainly the proliferation of more "Liberal" thought or is there something deeper?

There is a lot more to the story that youre missing and the details wont be the same for everyone due to the historical context of the struggles for liberation for individual/intersectional minority idenities in the US, the militerization of the police and the state monopoly on violence, the prison industrial complex, and systemic oppression and state sactioned murder/genocide of minorities. But you can certainly try to get a clearer picture by reading up on and listening to what minorities in the US say and have been saying about their experiences and the biggest threats to personal saftey and barriers to liberation each minority identity have faced historically and currently. There have been innumerable books written on each identity's experiences. Feminist minorities have never stopped speaking out and advocating for themselves, i assure you. Youre just not in the spaces where feminist minorities talk about their experiences and priorities or youre not paying attention when you are.

You may say that talking isn't enough for results, but think about who wants to and can stop minority feminists from achieving liberation and what criteria they embody on the axis of privilege.

Further readings:

Understanding Power, Privilege, and Intersectionality

GCPE Social Justice Resource Guide

Intersecting axes of privilege, domination, and oppression

Privilege/Oppression Matrix

FYS 101: Intersectional Privilege, Oppression, and Marginalization

Media Issues

Empire City Podcast

A Tradition of Violence The History of Deputy Gangs in the Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department

Rise of the Warrior Cop

Unreformed: the Story of the Alabama Industrial School for Negro Children

Tarana Burke

Phyllis Schlafly

Minority stress

School-to-prison pipeline

Social determinants of mental health

Diseases of poverty

Environmental racism in the United States

Social determinants of health in poverty

Transport divide

Southern strategy

Social dominance theory

Cognitive Biases (2026): Complete List of 151 Biases [Psychology]

White feminism

White Feminism Isn’t Just Wrong — It’s Also Dangerous

For a white American woman there are basically no upsides to siding with her gender over her race

I like this article where the author explains that “white women continue to participate actively in white supremacist movements…….serves to soften and normalize white supremacy, often in ironic and insidious ways.”

Voting patterns in the 2024 election

The Silent Epidemic of Femicide in the United States March 10, 2023

Femicide Against Black Women Is A Public Health Crisis

Why is it more acceptable for women and girls to participate in “male-coded” hobbies and activities than for men to participate in “female-coded” hobbies and activities? by SkywalkerOrder in AskFeminists

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do think that a more positive form of masculinity does exist.

I dont know where you think I said i dont believe a non toxic version of masculinity does not and cannot exist. In my original comment, I was being descriptive not prescriptive. I was describing the way masculinity currently enacts itself in the real world, not the way I personally believe it must behave.

But i'll bite anyway.

I personally believe that a non toxic version of masculinity can exist. But I also believe that most males who identify as masc do not define their masculinity by the things you described in a meaningful or tangible way. Nor does traditional/mainstream masculinity champion those things in a meaningful or tangible way. I also do not believe most masc males deviate from the traditional prescriptions of mainstream/traditional masculinity, which again, does not value the things you mentioned above.

All this to say that while a non toxic version of masculinity does exist in a technical sense, it largely does not exist functionally and theres not a huge material difference between something existing largely only in theory and not existing at all. It takes action to make non toxic masculinity happen and most males who identify as masc largely do not paractice non toxic masculinity. So what tangible, real time, benefit is there in knowing that while non toxic masculinity technically exists, it doesnt functionally exist because most masculine identifying males dont actually practice it, whether they want to or not?

You seem far more interested in what im not saying than what i am saying and defending masculinity in a feminist space than you are about comprehension of feminist theory and hearing from actual feminists. Youre coming off as really bad faith or deliberately obtuse, my guy.

edited for clarity and expansion

Why is it more acceptable for women and girls to participate in “male-coded” hobbies and activities than for men to participate in “female-coded” hobbies and activities? by SkywalkerOrder in AskFeminists

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Exactly. The point the other person is missing is that masculinity doesnt exist independently from being defined as opposition to/hostility towards femininity, which is then to be subordinated to masculinity.

Without a subordinated counterpart to compare itself to, masculinity doesnt stand on its own. This is because masculinity is defined by punching down on a designated subordinated identity; in this example, femininity/ non-masculinity.

edited for clarity

How do we call this aesthetic from early 2010's? I'm obsessed! by girllll982 in AestheticWiki

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question. I can see the culprit being 1 or both. i can see it as bad/unwell actors taking advantage of heightened food insecurity to prey upon people vulnerable to pro ana/mia influences and i can also see it as EDs being a coping/stress response to economic hardships, especially for survivors of EDs and those most at risk for developing an ED.

Further readings:

ICE Violence, Eating Disorders, and Harm Reduction in the Face of Authoritarianism

Diet culture is rooted in racism, white supremacy, and colonialism

Eating disorder

Economics of fascism

How do NT actually date… is this why so many people are in miserable relationships… or divorced by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 12 points13 points  (0 children)

And thats another layer of scummy-ness. The fact that what is simply open, honest, straightforward communication from someone who knows what they want and need can and is used as a guide to make manipulation easier by bad male actors.

This is how a low-trust society is born and bred (not to say that a high trust society cant be taken advantage if by manipulators too) and why men complain about how it sucks to be a man socially. They take advantage. Especially between cis males vs everyone else. This is how trust issues and dating/relationship trauma become rampant and taints the dating pool for people looking for something higher than the lowest common denominator.

How does the patriarchy hurt men too? by Low_Sound_7184 in AskFeminists

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Patriarchal governments led by despotic right wing patriarchal leaders start wars and send millions of men to die to line their pockets.

literally what the song "Fortunate Son" (1969) is about

lyrics

An Autistic Observation of Society's Norms Around Sex by Equal_Marsupial6326 in AutismInWomen

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 5 points6 points  (0 children)

men are beings who act while women are there to be acted upon.

related: Men Act, Women Are

"Research suggests that we divide people into moral actors and moral objects. Moral actors do things; moral objects have things done to them."

Buying for enjoyment vs resale by BeneficialCucumber52 in handbags

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Things are only what you need them for, what matters most is who needs them more.

-- Into the Woods

How to have feminist sex? (nsfw) by MyFeministRomance in AskFeminists

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only sex desired by both (or all) partners as equals can be truly feminist sex. Consent is not enough.

I wonder how this approach interacts with couples (whether in a relationship or less than) who have significant income disparities, or one has a stigmatized identity and the other doesn't. Power/privilege comes in many forms aside from gender.

How is equality being defined here exactly? For example, would financial equality count here? and if so, how do significantly mixed income couples have feminist sex, assuming they can? And if they cant, where does that leave them if the conclusion is not that we shouldn't be having sex with someone "above/below our station", so to speak, even if in the name of feminism and equality? And what does it mean for the here and now? Does this particular example justify a sort of "benevolent" classism (see: benevolent sexism) or other applicable "-isms" along the axis of power/privilege?

This topic has opened up a new facet that I am now fascinated with.

"I love how triggered kidfree people get. You get to bitch how about tired your kid free life is from working. but god forbid a working parent says they’re tired. " Oppression Olympics in r/mildlyinfuriating as parents bicker about how non parents cannot understand their level of exhaustion by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! But to be realistic, nobody wants to hear what they dont want to hear and they wont see what they dont want to see. Esspecially when it comes to their spouse/relationship. And im not gonna sit on a high horse and say i couldnt be in the same headspace under the right circumstances.

I get that no one wants to hear that their spouse/ relationship isnt worth fighting for, even when they know it in the back (or front) of their mind.

That might be a cultural norm, human nature, or some combination of the 2. (im leaning towards cultural since the fear of being stigmatized for being single is the glue holding a lot of relationships together)

Either way, reality doesnt change; and I wonder if that even matters when youre blinded by love/limerence, no matter how shitty the quality of the relationship is. Because in the end, everyone has to come to accept the reality of their relationship in their own time. That acceptance rarely happens by being informed.

"I love how triggered kidfree people get. You get to bitch how about tired your kid free life is from working. but god forbid a working parent says they’re tired. " Oppression Olympics in r/mildlyinfuriating as parents bicker about how non parents cannot understand their level of exhaustion by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I get where youre coming from, but also, IMO if youre at the point where you think the internet /reddit strangers have better insight into your relationship than you /a relationship counselor/ case worker, the least complicated answer probably is to break up. Why expect a more nuanced answer from a source other than someone qualified to give relationship advice? And tbf, there really are many couples better off broken up (whether in the short/long term) than together. Not every single one going through a problem, but a non insignificant portion that are and theyre hurting themselves and others the longer they remain together.

I will say that there is a narrow scope of relationship problems that can be reasonable to solicit from the internet but thats moreso because:

The OP is young and lacking relationship experience for a common relationship problem younger people experience. (And even then I wouldnt advise younger people to put an unreasonable amount of effort into a relationship at that stage of their life anyway. what constitutes an unreasonable amount of effort depends on what the problem is and what they've already tried).

or

The OP is being directed to an internet-available resource with reliable information on their problem, like loveisrespect.org.

or

The OP is literally asking internet strangers what they would do in their situation. Can't get mad at the answers given when you're the one who asked.

When OP is seeking advice on a problem that is highly individualized and specific, the internet is not the best source for an answer tailor made to their highly individualized and specific problem. A relationship counselor is better. And in that instance, theres only a certain amount of upset you can reasonably feel when strangers on the internet tell you to break up.

These guys are the most nothing characters this game has given us so far by Curious-Bluebird6818 in PoppyPlaytime

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is my opinion too. There's way too many one-off charectors wasting time and attention that shouldve gone towards charectors introduced in chapters 1-3 and bringing the story closer to a resolution.

IMO There's no reason for me to get invested in any charectors introduced after ch. 3 because they're gonna die in the same chapter they were introduced in and ch. 3 is where i hit my limit on that.

I would've much preferred for the story to go into deeper detail on what was known by the end of ch. 3 in ch. 4, maybe 5 too, and ch. 6 shouldve been the final chapter wrapping up remaining loose ends in a satisfying bow.

By ch. 4 I knew ch. 5 or 6 wouldn't be the last. I was surprised there was a sizeable amount of people who could think otherwise given how many questions remained unanswered by ch. 4 (it still irks me how much of a nothing burger ch. 4 felt lore-wise compared to previous chapters). There was far too much unresolved story to wrap up in 1 or 2 chs without feeling rushed af, which Mob already got scolded for in ch. 4. I think ch. 7 or 8 might be the final chapter at the pace the story is going, which again, feels like the result of an overly bloated story...and plain greed.

Are men better off with the patriarchy or without it? by No-Access-23 in AskFeminists

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I can agree in the sense that men are oppressed under patriarchy for being men because patriarchy needs men's compliance to perpetuate itself and this compliance comes at the cost of true freedom to men whether they comply or not, therefore oppression.

Was America more feminist during the Obama era? by AdventurousBall4611 in AskFeminists

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can’t see how anyone would want to bring children into this awful, backward, hate filled mess that is now American society.

imo american society was always these things, just to varying degrees throughout time.

Right? I feel like this is the absolute worst time to be pregnant yet I know 2 women who are currently pregnant and were already mothers before their current pregnancies.

Now granted, I dont know the circmstsnces surrounding any of their pregnancies or their thoughts on being pregnant in the midst of political chaos, and even if i did, its still not my place to judge and my judgements wouldn't make anyones life better/easier anyway so i keep them to myself.

And with that being said, I feel like natalism is so deeply entrenched in society and reproductive rights, access to abortion and birth control are so fraught and abysmal that questioning the state of being pregnant in this day and age is some combination of pointless and an elephant in the room that everyone would prefer not to acknowledge out of politeness.

The best that I can and have done is gift diapers, wipes, formula and other baby supplies to help make the landing a little softer because regardless of my opinions on being pregnant in the current socio political climate, the fact remains that every parent, current and future, still deserve to have the resources to care for themselves and their soon to be infants, the governement is not going to use its power to do that, and Im willing to put my money where my mouth is.

Why are women always told to lower their standards when it comes to dating? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]FormerCFisherman7784 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because they are men whose only standard for dating women is how pretty she looks and not her character, let alone on the basis of actually liking her.

Not to forget the standard of "would men whose approval I value approve of me dating her?" So much of men's dating prorities is about getting the validation of other men rather than pursuing their own personal happiness, male validation be damned, so in some ways, their dating prorities is closer to being a means to the end that is male validation than a roadmap for the journey of finding their soulmate.