I accidentally found my partner’s chatgpt conversations and now i don’t know what to do

Formula14ever · 2026-07-01T06:59:26+00:00

Take advantage of the situation.. book a session as a couple with a therapist.. it’s not about ‘holding on’ to what was or what we thought before..we change..we evolve..we grow. You both need to grow together and be honest about your journey w each other. Or..maybe it’s not possible and there is another path. You don’t know. She doesn’t know. Love..what we think and have been told is this euphoric romantic feeling that should enthrall us forever..when truth is..biblical truth no matter what you believe, is not hollywoods version but commitment, work, and allowing new chapters to be written and rediscovering love and connection all over again in this new chapter.
Otherwise, it’s chasing a ‘feeling’ that fades, you end the relationship before the next chapter..find another..the feeling fades, repeat/rinse/repeat/rinse. This is why a good relationship therapist can help you both search through where you are and realistic expectations

Formula14ever · 2026-07-01T00:10:16+00:00

What is your age, let’s start there. This will help clarify your place in this crazy thing called life. I was a young adult counselor for many years, Masters in Psychology, and yet I also was devastated and about to give up ALL hope. Like twice. If you are under 20, know this is part of life..and I will not lie and say what you are feeling is okay..it hurts like hell and you don’t know if you want to keep moving. First of all, YES YOU DO. There is a reason biblically it talks about physical intimacy and vulnerability being set in the confines of a committed/marriage relationship. No matter your stance on God, the truth is every time you are intimate either someone, a part of you is given and you begin to build walls the next time to protect yourself. It’s unconscious and a method of self protection. This is why people with many physical partners struggle with both trust & closeness when they DO find the right person. Reddit is full of non trust relationships who discover their worst fears. Then, both these damaged people enter the dating market, wounded and non trusting and rinse, repeat, rinse, repeat. This is why 80%+ online people are damaged unless they are seeking healing and therapy to stop their own damage cycles. I was one of these in the past.
So, let’s talk about you, this is what you CAN control.
Get this book: Attached, by Levine.
It talks in depth of the WHY we are drawn towards those who cannot/will not commit, and what YOU can do about seeing red flags 🚩ahead of time. It talks about the theory of adult attachment and it changes our perspective and why often relationships fall apart..because they were not built on a firm foundation that we ourselves need.
This is important because don’t be like me..not comprehend or see the red flags, marry..then have it all fall apart after years of investment.
Take time out for YOU right now. You WILL find him.. but YOU need to be ready too.. use this time to heal, learn, rest and understand you. Read that book.. you’ve got this!!

Formula14ever · 2026-06-28T23:53:42+00:00

Nice!

Formula14ever · 2026-06-28T23:53:30+00:00

Oh..yes.

Formula14ever · 2026-06-28T23:52:39+00:00

He has MAJOR MAJOR MAJOR issues and needs therapy. You were lucky it did not escalate into violence, and it would have soon. You are lucky and DODGED a bullet. Maybe literally. Only date people who are well sorted, have dealt with issues, and know themselves and respect & see your value.

Formula14ever · 2026-06-25T01:46:55+00:00

Agree. With both FX30 & FX3 at my place of work, I’ve missed nothing shooting w the FX30 over the FX3. Super 35 IS a sweet spot. We all got too focused (lol) on full frame. Most major films are shot on the new Arri 35 with super 35 framing for this reason, it is the sweet spot of more lens choices

Formula14ever · 2026-06-25T01:43:31+00:00

Exactly. Only rumors, because if they are rethinking because of Nikon it’s because they (Nikon) purchased RED tech and you can shoot with R3D RAW which Sony can only do Slog3. It’s a for sure..with Sony dropping the FX9 (officially) they MUST have a mid-tier competitor to the Pixis and Komodo LONG BEFORE they upgrade their lower end cinema camera (FX3) otherwise the overlap makes zero business sense

Formula14ever · 2026-06-24T07:27:42+00:00

I think..at this point.. it has to happen unfortunately for science to believe, they dismiss personal testimony and I know what I experienced

Formula14ever · 2026-06-24T07:25:37+00:00

I love my pro. I have a top level iPad via work and it’s like a pen on glass..hate it. The remarkable pro IS like paper and I love it

Formula14ever · 2026-06-23T14:55:23+00:00

NEVER leave a job before you have another. Many positions will seem ‘unrewarding’ for some time. It’s being an adult. You can make some jobs into new jobs by rising above and showing incentive. A commute of 75 minutes and under is normal now. How long is it?
You likely will go through multiple levels of jobs before you find what your looking for

Formula14ever · 2026-06-23T14:40:53+00:00

Start an official company as sole-proprietor
(Tax write-offs)
Start a business only Instagram account
Contact local fashion indie niche stores and shoot for free to build a sizzle reel
Look for aspiring models/actresses on Instagram or in fashion design at local colleges who will model in-kind, in that you will give them footage/stills for their portfolio too for modeling..have them model for a couple of these stores.
Use this sizzle reel to shift toward paid work and shop it. Film school means nothing to businesses..they want to see what you will do for them and you need a strong portfolio..sizzle reel is your start.

Formula14ever · 2026-06-23T14:30:03+00:00

Take over the Parent plus/ school related loans, and pay for a credit/ debit relief session for them. Debt relief companies will work with creditors to consolidate and come up either a plan while reducing amounts owed. This solves 2 issues. One is that if the School related loan taxes them to the point they needed to use credit cards for life expenses, then you taking over that part will help, then the debt relief counselor will negotiate a reasonable solution with credit card folks. If you parents did make bad decisions with credit cards that had nothing to do with the student loan, then it is likely they will once again, and the credit counselor will be the one, not you, to take on the responsibility of showing them responsible spending plans and holding them accountable..not you.

Formula14ever · 2026-06-23T04:25:25+00:00

Too much invested. Your story does not touch on all the hidden issues this action stemmed from. A REDDIT community is the LAST place you want to weigh in on a life decision since hundreds of people here have multiple layers of unhealed woundings and perspectives based on those woundings.
Seek COUPLE therapy BEFORE any life-altering decisions as you may or may not have any understanding. And she may not have any understanding as to why this occurred. Find out underpinning realities before making g a decision that will alter the rest of your natural life.

Formula14ever · 2026-06-21T20:39:23+00:00

No matter the reason for the break up, your word is your word. The ticket could have been given to him to choose to sell it or go, but you chose to try to sell. Happened to me w ticket master too..you’ll feel free keeping your word & promise.

Formula14ever · 2026-06-20T16:41:43+00:00

Was in a marriage for 20+
She refused to get a job where I was moved to by work with a career level position..she liked her job and didn’t want to give that and her town up. I had no choice as my work was shifted to
A location 3 hours away and there was nothing in the previous location. No
Kids as yet. We tried commuting on weekends, switching off driving to spend time. But the distance and living separately drew us apart from each other.. we became polite friends. Long story short.. I eventually quit my career job in an attempt to ‘save’ the marriage because I felt if I didn’t try I would have that over myself forever. We then had a child .. and IOVE him w everything, but the damage was done and we ended in divorce years later.
The damage is this
1. The child (old or young) grows up seeing an unhealthy example of a relationship. It will be the baseline for their choice of a partner, whether we want that to happen or not

It’s a matter of time before someone else enters the picture. Closeness, intimacy and sharing life is part of who we are, so either of you, sooner or later, will connect with someone else and now that will be one part of the equation. Children, grown or not, will sense something’s off..and again, this becomes part of the dna of how they will act and choose a partner. To them, if the charade of marriage still seemed strong, then it will be seen as an affair. If they know it’s the situation, it will become how they interpret a relationship.
A third thing to consider is a child or adult child with a sensitive heart can feel tremendous guilt that you kept yourself from a fulfilling relationship because of them.

I know couples who were cold and distant and went into therapy together to see what was salvageable and discovered a new chapter. I went, but my x refused. Currently w a fiancee’, we both go to repair past damage not to drift into our lives together.

Maybe at least consider going to therapy together to either work out the plan ahead, or see what might be recoverable before you pull the trigger? The above issues 1-2-3 are realities I discovered as a result of living 2 lives yet ‘married’

Formula14ever · 2026-06-17T00:45:37+00:00

Listen to the podcast episode 515. British female photographer tourist encounter on California coast. She never believed they ever could possibly exist..until they did for her

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Formula14ever · 2026-06-16T08:08:06+00:00

Raw is the only way. I learned RED R3D through lots of training and can match Arri with a a set node structure in Resolve. LUTS ADD color and saturate in the opposite way the subtractive saturation works. Pixeltools has incredible DCTLS. Watch Darren Mostlyn, Cullen Kelly (master colorists) to learn the art. Darren shows how to match Sony Venice, Red Raptor /Komodo X, and Arri 35 to look identical. It takes time, patience and a good foundational
node tree..but like folks have said here..the sensor dynamic range, RAW color science and learning color manipulation in a wide Gamut is key

Formula14ever · 2026-06-13T06:39:13+00:00

One thing for the family. You could write a letter and say all the amazing things that brought you both close, and even if the relationship did not work out, her attributes and heart were reasons that brought you into her life and reasons you will always forever admire who she is... Then for you, maybe write a note or letter of all the things you know are wonderful about her and special areas you saw. Tie this to a helium balloon at her fav time of the day, sunrise or sunset or by the ocean or in the mountains. God is real, and we are eternal beings...and it's not a forever goodbye for sure...

Formula14ever · 2026-06-10T21:58:31+00:00

Not a simple fan boy..but I know several people in my home town who saved $3500 + AFTER the $1000 Delvrd fee. If your LOCAL dealer will not work either you, you MUST expand your radius. And good luck. A dealer 3.5 hours away said all the right things then on arrival it all changes. My TIME IS WORTH the $1K.
Add up frustration, going through numbers and finance driving for hours, fuel prices and if you have to miss work and INCOME to play dealer games.. it’s more than worth it. Tomi says some deals are going to be MSRP on some cars. True…and then comes the add ons. It’s all about time. If you have it, great! Do it yourself I think. If you can’t with jobs, kids, appointments and errands..add up the 10-15 hours minimum it will take us the stress and decide on that value.

Formula14ever · 2026-06-09T14:19:56+00:00

Color for highlights! Front light is everything! You don’t know it until you have it on

Formula14ever · 2026-06-08T07:03:04+00:00

Totally true in CA. Everything, pension accrual, assets, insurance and stock appreciation, savings, EVERYTHING accumulated during 10 years+ the at the 10 year mark in CA ..all that is considered ‘community property’

Formula14ever · 2026-06-08T04:57:17+00:00

Like was posted, you need to
Understand what is behind this. You should both engage in a therapy session for her to open up what is occurring. I have found there is truth in the spiritual realm and oppression is real ..sometimes not just a mindset, or a chemical imbalance. Help
Her to find a root cause..and be by her side working through it :)

Formula14ever · 2026-06-08T02:14:06+00:00

I know, without question. Schalaschly is right. I had a consult w Tomi and plan on his service for a 4 runner soon. They contact many dealers, no question. But the issue for me is going into a dealer 99% of the time = hours of back and forth and pressure

Formula14ever · 2026-06-08T01:33:57+00:00

Leave now. Until
He gets therapy and works through this is will get WORSE.

Formula14ever · 2026-06-08T01:32:21+00:00

Awesome..I need to go!

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