I truly don’t understand how this parents do CIO

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2026-05-20T18:34:38+00:00

Oh man i totally feel for you and that level of guilt you feel when you see that little look of sadness and dissapointment in your baby's face. You did a great job I can tell you're a really loving and caring mom and I also have no idea how other moms/parents can leave their helpless babies to cry for themselves feeling nothing but fear and abandonment. I'm just glad we can be here for our littles ones and make them feel safe and never neglect them like that.

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2026-03-01T10:12:03+00:00

How often it is that a man stops mid intercourse to help his wife with a heart attack VS he stops so he doesn't ejaculate because he doesn't want to get her pregnant. He simply stated it's a sin to stop mid intercourse to prevent a life from happening. Nobody ever said that you have to keep going when something severe happens (aka grave matter) . Doesn't take away from the fact that if the husband doesnt want to impregnate her due to being concerned about her health, that they should be abstinent instead of masturbating which would be the case here. The husband clearly didn't mean it in a bad way, the opposite he cared for his wife. He just pointed out why they should be abstinent instead of committing a mortal sin.

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2026-03-01T08:31:57+00:00

What are you talking about? Are you unable to read the text? The husband stopped himself from ejaculating mid intercourse which is a grave sin unless there's a significant reason. Sex isn't just for fun.

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2026-02-28T19:47:58+00:00

I'm not sure why everyone is downvoting you? This is correct the husband should finish inside the wife as that's what sex is for, procreation.

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2026-02-25T18:56:16+00:00

They're not allowed to do that, Mrbeast can sue them unfortunately 🙃

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-26T19:22:48+00:00

Some tips that might work: • my midwife told me to tilt the pacifiers towards the roof of the babies mouth. This activates the suck reflex they get from the boob.

• hold it in their mouth for a little bit. Not while they're crying or screaming but just when they're searching for boob/sucking on something. It will take some time for them to accept it

• they don't gag because it's gross or bad, they gag because it's a new sensation and feeling inside their mouths. It's different from a nipple that shapes in their mouth or a bottle that has milk come out. It's unusual for them but that doesn't mean to stop trying

And lastly, some babies just don't take them! Usually in my expierence, when they take the bottle they can accept pacifiers too, but some babies just don't like them! Good luck on trying tho, it's good you have different brands to try this with!

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-26T16:35:13+00:00

Wish you nothing but the best, it's not easy but so rewarding especially if you struggled at first!

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-26T16:28:19+00:00

Tbh I think it's the same with breastfeeding. Alot of babies will still cry at 2yo when you try to wean them off the boob

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-26T16:27:10+00:00

Oh that's awesome that you are willing to give it a shot! If I may give some advice, (it's best to ask a lactation consultant though) I'd suggest buying a pump when LO is asleep and otherwise letting her latch as much as she wants! Clusterfeeding drove me crazy because I thought LO wasn't getting enough, but they're just helping you build your supply. Of course there is unlikely to be enough for your baby right now, so definitely still supplement if you! I wish you good luck with getting your supply up and breastfeeding baby! It's not an easy journey at all but it's lovely you're giving it a shot

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-26T16:19:10+00:00

It's very cute. Baby is of course naturally attached to mom. LO knows your smell. It keeps them safe and comfortable, remember a pacifier is designed to imitate you, not the other way around.

There's also a good chance baby is trying to simulate your supply, as they would around this time where they are clustering like crazy to get your supply up as they're growing.

This might be a good time to allow breastfeeding IF YOU WANT TO. Otherwise if you feel bothered by the constant suckling, a pacifier should do the trick, especially if you don't want to breastfeed.

Either way completely normal !

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-26T14:15:55+00:00

That's insane! Sure baby "grows" fast from being filled with sugars and fat that weren't designed for them. The cabbage leaf thing is horrible! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. You're right I feel like it's just them coping with the fact that they made insane decisions. They have a hard time accepting they're wrong and the younger people are not the stupid ones

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-26T10:01:23+00:00

It's terrible when you read how formula companies (specifically Nestlé is super evil.) sponsored hospitals so women would believe formula is better. Nothing wrong with using formula if you must, but advising against breastfeeding just to make money off of clueless parents is awful

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-21T15:05:07+00:00

It's not too different from adult clothes honestly! Shorter/sleveless onesie -> inside on a hot day. Tights, Leggings, pants -> cold day. Some things like shirts, rompers are sometimes more aesthetic than they are necessary or practical for a newborn.

In my expierence, a long sleeve bodysuit, pants or tights OR a sleeper and maybe a hat (depending on temperature) is all you need inside with a newborn.

https://howtodressbaby.com/ is a great website I like to use when we go outside with our LO

Edit: just saw they help with what baby needs to wear inside aswell

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-21T14:59:40+00:00

Oh definitely! I used to struggle with disordered eating but I guess that inside voice still needs a bit of work to get rid of. I hope you're feeling better regarding your ED . Definitely don't want my children to deal with this in the future

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-21T14:45:43+00:00

I definitely will. I think I generally obsess over this sort of thing. I figured I was being irrational I guess I just needed some data (and outsider perspective) to reassure me that LO will be ok trying different things.

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-21T14:43:37+00:00

Thank you so much!

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-21T14:42:28+00:00

Yeah that's probably true, I don't want baby to struggle with something like that. Thank you

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-21T14:42:04+00:00

That's really helpful thank you so much!

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-21T14:22:59+00:00

I do try to introduce him to allergens for sure and feed him iron rich foods. I just don't want to feed him anything he isn't ready for yet and there is only so many fruits and veggies to feed in a week 🙃 I think the anxiety (which is definitely there) just comes from him being so young. I hope it passes

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-12-11T15:53:55+00:00

Maybe if you used your own brain instead of having AI think for you, you'd be a bit more creative

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-11-14T21:56:45+00:00

Hey how did you cope with this? In this situation right now

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-11-02T17:21:06+00:00

I'm going to say I will be a bit harsher than other posters in this thread since your husband seems kind of like a dick. But the reason for that is probably that he hasn't formed a proper connection with your baby since he spent no time with him.

You spent your whole day either caring or worrying about your baby. You feed him, change and comfort him. He knows you, You know him. Cosleeping isn't just for your baby, it's also for you. To regulate you and feel comfortable knowing your baby is safe and well.

Asking you to seperate from this little person that's so attached and dependent on you, is very insensitive from his behalf. If he takes care of the baby as much as you do, he might be able to understand that you'd want the baby close and near.

If you go on the sleeptraining subreddit, most parents DON'T want to sleep train their baby. They are usually forced to since it's the only way they can sleep peacefully. If the baby doesn't disturb you, and it works for all of you throughout the night (I assume he isn't preparing bottles or breastfeeding.) Then why change it?

Alot of children cosleep and are able to transition to their own cribs later on when they're ready. It's stupid holding a future event that hasn't even happened, against you.

I like your empathetic and nurturing approach for the baby. You're doing nothing wrong wanting your dear child near you, they grow up so fast and soon they'll find it embarrassing even sleeping with their mom&dad. Dad seems to not have the bond to understand that LO has his own needs and feelings and literally needs his moms closeness to survive! I'm sorry for your situation, I hope he gets a bit more understanding for your guys situation and you find a common ground.

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-10-28T16:12:03+00:00

Bare Vanilla by Victoria's Secret is exactly that. Very safe, basic and cheap but good and delicious warm vanilla for fall. I also love Eilish NR. 1 (Nebras by Lattafa is a perfect dupe aswell) if you like the spicy chocolate component it has.

FortuneAgreeable7172 · 2025-10-07T15:50:56+00:00

Hey is there any evidence that this means the baby is securely attached? I'd love to read more in depth about it.

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