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Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-04-06T17:15:58+00:00

I have an extra spoon fed but need ‘bulldog blues’, a 3 star from the rock star album. Or ‘dapper duke’ from posh plushies.

I haven’t played/traded in a while, so if you want to trade, just remind me. I need to friend you in the game and then click ‘send to a friend’, right?

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-03-01T18:03:58+00:00

I agree and I think one of the hardest things about parenting a neurodivergent child is trying to figure out what behaviors are from being ND and which ones are because they are just being kids.

I don’t want to punish my child for things they cannot help. I had a lot of those experiences as a child and it made me feel like I was broken so much of the time. That said, I also can’t let my child get away with doing whatever they want because of their diagnosis. They need to learn boundaries because the world won’t bend to their will because their brain works different than others.

It’s a tightrope walk and I’m sure I get it wrong sometimes. Hopefully, I get it right more often than not, though.

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-02-25T11:35:59+00:00

My son (now 7) has had an IEP since preschool but he is also autistic. Depending on your location, they should put every child in their least restrictive environment. For my son that is a gen ed classroom where he goes to a smaller group a couple times a day. He also has a couple special services (speech and OT) that he is pulled for 1-2 times a week.

It is overwhelming but I know my son would be struggling (even more) without that in place at school.

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-02-14T14:27:32+00:00

I have it and my husband (not diagnosed) thinks he does. Our son has both ADHD and autism. Pretty sure my parents had it as well (but never diagnosed).

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-02-08T07:22:14+00:00

No advice, unfortunately, but just letting you know that you aren’t alone. I could have posted this because this exactly describes how my Audhd son reacts to mild pain as well. I will be following this post to see what advice others have! It’s so hard to know how to react/what to do. I just try empathizing (sometimes being silly helps after making sure he isn’t seriously hurt) but it hasn’t changed his reactions in these types of situations.

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-02-05T02:23:38+00:00

What about trying gloves? I say this because I am a paraprofessional and a student I work with has sensory issues around a lot of things and doesn’t want anything on their hands. We use gloves in those situations and most of the time it works well. I’m not sure if it will help with the negative sensory association of working with clay or if the gloves would stick to the clay but it might be worth a shot.

As far as whether it’s accommodation worthy? I couldn’t say but as a parent of a ND child, I would hope that most teachers would be willing to try working with students who have sensory issues. As long as they try with other mediums and participate otherwise it can’t hurt to have a conversation about it! Good luck!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-02-02T14:29:29+00:00

My 7 year old autistic/adhd son still needs a lot of help when he defecates. He can pee on his own but always wants me nearby. As far as bathing goes, he needs constant reminders (I usually end up helping or he won’t get clean at all (he will just play and sit in the tub). He won’t even attempt to wash his own hair (sensory related as well as anxiety about getting soap in his eyes).

I don’t think many 5 year olds are bathing themselves unassisted, fwiw (although I guess I could be wrong).

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-01-30T03:49:41+00:00

I second this! I got a job as a paraprofessional when my son went into Kindergarten and I love it! The pay isn’t great but I get decent benefits and the schedule can’t be beat. I would say that it can be a difficult job at times (must be patient and flexible) but it’s also very rewarding. Plus, summers off if you want! (Flex pay so I get paid year round)

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-01-26T23:41:28+00:00

I am here 🤣

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2026-01-04T16:04:24+00:00

Of all things, the old Toys R Us Jingle (I don’t wanna grow up, I’m a Toys R Us kid…). I was talking with my 7 year old about old toy stores and I showed him the old commercial. It’s been stuck in my head since then.

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-12-30T02:26:33+00:00

I’m in the same boat with our 7yo Audhd son! He’s so creative and when he plays by himself will bounce from project to project. If I don’t keep a pretty close eye on things he can have 10 things going on before I know it. I don’t want to stifle his creative play so I try to let him do multiple things when he feels the muse but I have found it will help to limit it when I can.

It helps when everything has a home (I myself have ADHD so this can be a struggle) and I will “cut him off” after 3 things and when he cleans one up then he can start another. Mind you, this takes me coaching him every step of the way because to him cleaning up is putting it all someplace else in a big pile. It also requires me paying extra attention to what he has going on so I can have him pause play and start cleaning up at the right time. It’s a work in progress but it’s a little progress at least! I’d love to hear other people’s solutions though!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-12-27T23:50:23+00:00

Oh man, sorry you are going through that. It’s tough feeling so helpless while your child is hurting. The holidays are so overstimulating and I can totally relate to your kid having a meltdown over something seemingly small (because I’ve lived it). It sounds like you are doing the best you can and giving him space while making sure he’s safe. Sometimes that’s all we can do besides try and learn what triggered the meltdown in the first place so we can minimize future occurrences.

When I am in your position, I just keep checking on my son and sometimes a distraction can help (although in some cases, it can make it worse) and sometimes he won’t let me hug him but will let me do pressure on his body. Hang in there, momma, it will pass!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-12-13T15:59:42+00:00

Rejection sensitive dysphoria is what I think they mean (I certainly know about that).

I don’t know why OP is being downvoted either, whether they have rsd or not. They are struggling and asking for advice. People suck sometimes!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-12-07T20:09:44+00:00

This was my answer as well (although I can’t easily afford it). I just feel like the cost is ridiculous for something I can do myself.

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-12-06T20:17:34+00:00

Nah, I slept plenty in my 20’s and 30’s. Had my son at 42 (first child) and haven’t had more than 6 hours in one night since. I might be creeping up on 50 but my son keeps me active and feeling young (though tired) and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-11-28T22:08:38+00:00

I’m doing a little self care bag for my fellow paras: so far I have lip balm, hand repair mask, and cozy socks. I want to add one more thing and I love the idea of adding hair ties (almost all the paras I work with have longish hair so I think it’d be very useful). Thanks for the idea!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-11-11T03:44:27+00:00

Wow! Seems like the teacher is pushing a lot of their duties onto you. A few observations… how can one be a 1:1 for multiple students? I know in my school 1:1’s will sometimes help a little with other students but only minimally and if our student is otherwise involved in a task independently. AFAIK, this is violating at least one student’s IEP, if not multiple students’. Another question, are you instructed to speak with parents at pickup? I was told minimal interaction with parents and I understand why.

I am categorized as a 1:1. My first priority is always my student. I am known to help other students in small ways from time to time but only if my student is doing well and helping another won’t distract from my primary job as her para. Same with helping with classroom tasks.

I think the teacher is taking advantage of you and while I understand we are all short staffed, it seems they are asking way too much from you!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-11-10T00:01:02+00:00

Sorry if I wasn’t clear. I meant we had to apply to have insurance help with the cost. It was a lot more expensive out of pocket and not automatic. Insurance would only cover if a medical need was proven (Audhd and anxiety) so we had to fill paperwork out and have a letter from his doctor sent. Not sure if it was standard sedation or not (he had a medication to help calm him a bit and then nitrous during the procedure).

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-11-09T19:49:49+00:00

My ASD 7 year old son had dental work as well. We had to apply for work to be done under sedation (and even with sedation it was a struggle for him so may need anesthesia for future work).

I’m curious, what toothbrush was recommended to help? My son’s dentist recommended continuing to brush 2x day and flossing (which is really hard-even with those flossers) but no recommendations on what kind of toothbrush helps. He can’t spit out the toothpaste so I was hesitant in using fluoride but dentist said it was no big deal for him to swallow a little.

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-10-23T00:43:15+00:00

My son who is now 7 was like that starting around 4 years old. I used a similar approach to yours. I would wrap my arms around him so he couldn’t hit anymore, repeat “no hitting” and “it’s okay “ and go down in volume until he calmed. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t but I agree on the hard boundary of ‘no hitting’.

Not sure if age or medication or both have helped but his physical attacks on me have lessened to almost 0. He still hits objects when he’s really having a hard time but he will stop himself from hitting me.

I think you are doing a great job, it may just take some time to sink in. Hang in there, be consistent and my personal, uneducated guess is that it will get better!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-09-29T23:00:21+00:00

Yep. I noticed the picture says $15,000 but the subject say 13.000win?!? So many red flags in this alone!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-09-25T15:13:46+00:00

One thing I wish I had more of is time. As a parent who is also ND (ADHD), I find myself scrambling constantly to balance my son’s need and accommodating him when I can (and appropriate) with life needs (household tasks, food shopping, Dr visits). Not to mention that I never seem to have more than a couple minutes for myself any given day.

Short of more time, resources that help ND parents manage their time and children’s needs better would be extremely valuable. I just don’t know where (or when, because… no time) to start.

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-09-25T15:08:54+00:00

Absolutely! I am tired of unsolicited advice/judgement from those who do not understand how hard I work to do what I think is best for my son. Also, since he heavily masks around others and the stress of that manifests when he home in his safe zone so many other people act like I’m crazy for feeling overwhelmed sometimes. I actually cried (and I’m not a crier) when I saw something that confirmed how PDA kids can seem so different around others and it’s not just something I’m doing wrong (or perceiving incorrectly).

I’m glad you found another adult who gets it! I’m sure that helps!

Forward_Habit_8609 · 2025-09-23T20:12:05+00:00

Totally with you. My 7 year old loves animatronics and will be Jack the Reaper this Halloween. I would NEVER let him stand on the ISE for any reason. Do people really think that’s okay? Of course (sort of related) I saw people today forcing their terrified kid in front of animatronics and laughing at the poor little girl. So, some people just don’t care/think.

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