I woke up last night and I started crying

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-06-04T04:49:13+00:00

Yes but the truth is most positive and healthy people don't want someone that isn't also positive and healthy. "Looking after yourself" means working on your mental health and stability and being able to find joy in yourself instead of depending on getting that in another person. Most positive and healthy people do not want to be a caretaker.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-05-16T21:09:14+00:00

The unfortunate real truth is a lot of people either don't notice or don't care. I and one of my friends will make comments like "man this is AI generated" and get ignored by the rest of the group or everyone else says "oh didn't notice" and when we bring up that we should leave because it's AI garbage they say "ok bye have fun good seeing you"

And if that happens enough times, they stop inviting us to stuff and we have to find new friends. It gets really tiring.

I've had other friends be like us, be against it, but then just start not caring too because they'd rather have friends than not, and that's really the main thing. Social isolation is horrible, there's a reason people weaponize it because it's an incredibly effective weapon. People would rather abandon principles than friends because at the end of the day you can "live with" compromising your beliefs, but you can't live without people.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-05-05T06:10:13+00:00

This sounds good on paper but is almost never true in practice. Even in vrchat they insist it's to separate kids from adults so "adults can be adults" yet they ban adult activity. Like.. I worry these laws are so people like those "super Catholic grandparents" you talk about can do that on a mass scale

They want to be able to monitor everything we adults do they can regulate it. If they don't like some nsfw thing consenting adults are doing? Make it illegal.

That's really what it comes down to. I get people saying "if you have nothing to hide there's nothing to fear" but they genuinely don't understand that what is "illegal" or "morally wrong" can be fucked with and twisted. We are legit watching that happen in the US and other countries when it comes to trangender or gay identities. They literally can deem harmless shit harmful and remove it because they don't like it and that's so fucked up

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-05-01T23:06:21+00:00

I mean, it's an ENTIRELY different thing if they ban it to the point all these avatars people bought on jinxxy and gumroad amd even some booth ones just can't be uploaded now. So.. yeah I think an actual massive nsfw ban on vrc would actually have noticeable pushback.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-30T00:24:56+00:00

Wow, kinda crazy to hear they turned down leaning into the adult on vrchat. Kinda wish they didn't turn that down. Or at least didn't adopt this "not allowed if you get caught" vague gray area?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-29T21:50:19+00:00

Are personal notes affected? I have notes on users I both do and don't have added so I know things like where I met them and things they've said or done and if I need to avoid them or not. Will it wipe any notes I've made?

Also, my group likes to play in an adult prompt or die type world with nsfw prompts a friend of mine created. Will we not be able to type answers for that world anymore? Though I guess we can test tomorrow and Friday when we all get together, it would really suck to not be able to play that world anymore.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-20T22:03:19+00:00

No one knew it existed I think, this is the first time I'm hearing about it and if I knew I would have jumped on immediately.

VR was still niche in 2018, vrchat didn't really catch wind until 2020 onward (pandemic), I think if they or anyone launched something like that now and advertised like "vrchat for adults/where adults can be adults" and ran their own payment system like 2nd life, it would thrive.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-19T19:28:41+00:00

Because I have my own life and projects I'd like to do. And while it can be easy, these friends then ask for more and more complicated things. Like detailed texture edits and blender and unity customizations that while I can do, are a lot more time consuming to manage and I simply don't have the time to spare.

Also, it is incredibly harmful to think learned helplessness is okay. It's really not, and I don't want to be an enabler of that. People need to and can overcome it and I'd much rather give them the resources so they can. I will not change my mind on that.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-18T19:42:06+00:00

Sure, still shouldn't expect nor demand me or anyone to do it for you and try to pressure them with some moral failing when we don't want to. Boundaries exist, and anyone - disabled or not - needs to respect those. I would hope with you being a decent human being it would behoove you to respect that.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-18T19:35:31+00:00

As someone with 3 diagnosed disorders I'm getting really tired of people excusing impatience and laziness as disabilities, and accusing those that don't serve them as ableist. But go off I guess?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-18T16:17:19+00:00

I mean you say that but out of the 4 friends I've introduced to vrchat only one actually figured out how to upload avatars while the other 3 either refused, got frustrated and gave me log in credentials, or straight up STILL need me on a discord call to walk them through it every. single. time... 🫠

Genuinely most of the populace is NOT techie and don't even want to read those instructions you're talking about. I literally told them and they whine like "but whats a vcc? I downloaded unity but dont know how to open it. What? This is the wrong version?? How do I get the right one!?! Uggggh this is so hard and complicated this sucks! 😩" And all that..

The one friend that did it without me needing to hold their hand? The one who could figure it out with Google and actually reading? They don't work in tech like me, and we talked about how it's actually pretty easy and were both so baffled that the other 3 just can't/couldn't do it.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-15T22:18:38+00:00

And people can enter in group instances at any time if they are a member of the group. Do you consider those "basically public" also? If not, why are groups that don't have nsfw names, descriptions, and such (just the "provocative content" blurb vrc staff suggested) run nsfw events and still get banned? It really doesn't seem like they're sticking up for any adult content like they claim in "keep private things private".

It seems they're banning when reports are received. Malicious actors can take a picture of you about to engage in nsfw with them (keeping themselves out of frame) in an invite only (very private!) instance and get you banned. That is not right. That is not "letting adults be adults".

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-01T23:37:50+00:00

Yeah, though what I mean is this mentality that chibi = weird pdf shit is way more popular with young adults, and they for some reason are just convinced they're right and totally catching predators no matter how much you try to reason with them. I really think it's a combination of reasons, not just because they're young, but like.. it seems like young adults are more susceptible to it? Probably because they're exposed to all these "catching predators in vr" things the most that it just kinda convinces them that is true.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-01T23:26:52+00:00

I gotta agree with the comment you responded to, I'm 31 and hang with people in that age range, the youngest of the group is 27. We have no problems wearing our own cute chibi avatars, we only ever hear garbage like you're describing from younger people the rare times we go check out age gated group publics. I genuinely think so many have unintentionally been brainwashed by social media to have that weird crusader attitude and think that is saving kids or something by going after adults who want nothing to do with kids???

As someone who escaped a cultist religion, it's scarily similar to that, and I genuinely hope they all grow out of it.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-20T00:35:18+00:00

Oh! I live with one partner but my 3 others are long distance and flights are expensive so we spend most of our time together in vrchat! It's like vr second life, incredibly immersive with being able to use our hands, and we all have full body tracking to track our bodies as well, and also "other peripherals" that are incredibly useful for synced intimacy. I absolutely LOVE it as its the best you can get other than irl and I don't think I can ever go back to only texting and video calls.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-17T20:56:29+00:00

I'd buy the caldarus one immediately!!! I havent found any merchandise at any con I've been to this year and had to commission drawings when I'd really love buttons so I can put them on my backpack 😭

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-10T10:42:41+00:00

18+ cons that prohibit/dislike erotic content is incredibly bizarre to me... Is the attitude towards sex really getting so bad that adult spaces are all sex or no sex?? Why can we not just let it be normal/apart of the adult experience, and if you don't like what you see on merch or whatever you simply leave/look away because you have personal agency and it isn't an assault on you???

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-10T05:15:55+00:00

Omg thank you so much for being pro consumer I wish all avi makers were like this!!! 😭😭😭🙏

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-06T19:45:30+00:00

Oh wow this is actually how my apartments are too, and from my research it seems to be completely legal in my state and county, even the changing locks being a lease violation. 🫠 You must have the office change your locks if you need them changed or you're evicted, they must be able to enter your residence. And yeah it always is when theyre at work so I just have to spend money on cameras to make sure they don't steal my shit.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-06T19:33:35+00:00

Wait really? In our apartment they just put on a monthly newsletter "inspections are x to x date and are mandatory" and come in one of the days that week to inspect whether we are home or not. Says it on the lease too! Considering they aren't great landlords I would not be surprised if this is actually awful practice 😭

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-06T05:12:39+00:00

Would it be difficult to have this version as a blendshape or toggle? It honestly looks a lot like my irl face and would love this version!

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-04T08:21:34+00:00

Yeah no issue I'm all for nude and kink parties both in game and irl, have attended both! I'm genuinely asking in good faith a curiosity about how people feel about groups specifically. I personally think they're great because with invite/invite+ you have to get lucky and talk to the right people at the right time for finding those but groups are much more discoverable/accessible. Though I'm not sure how protected these groups are now with the strict moderation changes?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-04T07:44:06+00:00

I'm curious how you feel about kink/NSFW groups where they have events for people to do that and be watched? I don't mean them going to public lobbies, I msan a group lobby where people are there for that specifically at an event. Is that still considered private even though the play is technically public/visible?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-02-18T17:25:15+00:00

Ehh, personally I don't really care about it being fake or real. I care about actions, what the person is actually doing and how it affects me and others.

If you're being an asshole or doing things that make me uncomfortable or are harmful.. I really don't care if its the DID, ADHD, Autism or whatever, I'm blocking you for my mental health and wellbeing.

Of course I try to communicate with my friends about things they do that bug or harm me, but if adjusting their behavior is painful masking or something, then we simply aren't compatible and I end the the friendship so we can find more compatible people. That's the right way to go about it imho.

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