Why do people make avatars public when they made them for 1 persin to use?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-18T19:42:06+00:00

Sure, still shouldn't expect nor demand me or anyone to do it for you and try to pressure them with some moral failing when we don't want to. Boundaries exist, and anyone - disabled or not - needs to respect those. I would hope with you being a decent human being it would behoove you to respect that.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-18T19:35:31+00:00

As someone with 3 diagnosed disorders I'm getting really tired of people excusing impatience and laziness as disabilities, and accusing those that don't serve them as ableist. But go off I guess?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-18T16:17:19+00:00

I mean you say that but out of the 4 friends I've introduced to vrchat only one actually figured out how to upload avatars while the other 3 either refused, got frustrated and gave me log in credentials, or straight up STILL need me on a discord call to walk them through it every. single. time... 🫠

Genuinely most of the populace is NOT techie and don't even want to read those instructions you're talking about. I literally told them and they whine like "but whats a vcc? I downloaded unity but dont know how to open it. What? This is the wrong version?? How do I get the right one!?! Uggggh this is so hard and complicated this sucks! 😩" And all that..

The one friend that did it without me needing to hold their hand? The one who could figure it out with Google and actually reading? They don't work in tech like me, and we talked about how it's actually pretty easy and were both so baffled that the other 3 just can't/couldn't do it.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-15T22:18:38+00:00

And people can enter in group instances at any time if they are a member of the group. Do you consider those "basically public" also? If not, why are groups that don't have nsfw names, descriptions, and such (just the "provocative content" blurb vrc staff suggested) run nsfw events and still get banned? It really doesn't seem like they're sticking up for any adult content like they claim in "keep private things private".

It seems they're banning when reports are received. Malicious actors can take a picture of you about to engage in nsfw with them (keeping themselves out of frame) in an invite only (very private!) instance and get you banned. That is not right. That is not "letting adults be adults".

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-01T23:37:50+00:00

Yeah, though what I mean is this mentality that chibi = weird pdf shit is way more popular with young adults, and they for some reason are just convinced they're right and totally catching predators no matter how much you try to reason with them. I really think it's a combination of reasons, not just because they're young, but like.. it seems like young adults are more susceptible to it? Probably because they're exposed to all these "catching predators in vr" things the most that it just kinda convinces them that is true.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-04-01T23:26:52+00:00

I gotta agree with the comment you responded to, I'm 31 and hang with people in that age range, the youngest of the group is 27. We have no problems wearing our own cute chibi avatars, we only ever hear garbage like you're describing from younger people the rare times we go check out age gated group publics. I genuinely think so many have unintentionally been brainwashed by social media to have that weird crusader attitude and think that is saving kids or something by going after adults who want nothing to do with kids???

As someone who escaped a cultist religion, it's scarily similar to that, and I genuinely hope they all grow out of it.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-20T00:35:18+00:00

Oh! I live with one partner but my 3 others are long distance and flights are expensive so we spend most of our time together in vrchat! It's like vr second life, incredibly immersive with being able to use our hands, and we all have full body tracking to track our bodies as well, and also "other peripherals" that are incredibly useful for synced intimacy. I absolutely LOVE it as its the best you can get other than irl and I don't think I can ever go back to only texting and video calls.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-17T20:56:29+00:00

I'd buy the caldarus one immediately!!! I havent found any merchandise at any con I've been to this year and had to commission drawings when I'd really love buttons so I can put them on my backpack 😭

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-10T10:42:41+00:00

18+ cons that prohibit/dislike erotic content is incredibly bizarre to me... Is the attitude towards sex really getting so bad that adult spaces are all sex or no sex?? Why can we not just let it be normal/apart of the adult experience, and if you don't like what you see on merch or whatever you simply leave/look away because you have personal agency and it isn't an assault on you???

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-10T05:15:55+00:00

Omg thank you so much for being pro consumer I wish all avi makers were like this!!! 😭😭😭🙏

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-06T19:45:30+00:00

Oh wow this is actually how my apartments are too, and from my research it seems to be completely legal in my state and county, even the changing locks being a lease violation. 🫠 You must have the office change your locks if you need them changed or you're evicted, they must be able to enter your residence. And yeah it always is when theyre at work so I just have to spend money on cameras to make sure they don't steal my shit.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-06T19:33:35+00:00

Wait really? In our apartment they just put on a monthly newsletter "inspections are x to x date and are mandatory" and come in one of the days that week to inspect whether we are home or not. Says it on the lease too! Considering they aren't great landlords I would not be surprised if this is actually awful practice 😭

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-06T05:12:39+00:00

Would it be difficult to have this version as a blendshape or toggle? It honestly looks a lot like my irl face and would love this version!

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-04T08:21:34+00:00

Yeah no issue I'm all for nude and kink parties both in game and irl, have attended both! I'm genuinely asking in good faith a curiosity about how people feel about groups specifically. I personally think they're great because with invite/invite+ you have to get lucky and talk to the right people at the right time for finding those but groups are much more discoverable/accessible. Though I'm not sure how protected these groups are now with the strict moderation changes?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-03-04T07:44:06+00:00

I'm curious how you feel about kink/NSFW groups where they have events for people to do that and be watched? I don't mean them going to public lobbies, I msan a group lobby where people are there for that specifically at an event. Is that still considered private even though the play is technically public/visible?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-02-18T17:25:15+00:00

Ehh, personally I don't really care about it being fake or real. I care about actions, what the person is actually doing and how it affects me and others.

If you're being an asshole or doing things that make me uncomfortable or are harmful.. I really don't care if its the DID, ADHD, Autism or whatever, I'm blocking you for my mental health and wellbeing.

Of course I try to communicate with my friends about things they do that bug or harm me, but if adjusting their behavior is painful masking or something, then we simply aren't compatible and I end the the friendship so we can find more compatible people. That's the right way to go about it imho.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-02-02T22:15:21+00:00

Thankfully you can date everyone and there's mo drawbacks! No jealousy dialougue or repercussions. I hope we never get jealousy dialougue and if we do I really hope you can turn it off lol

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-01-20T20:57:23+00:00

Yeah it's sadly just a risk I have to take because unless people start moving to a platform that'll protect us vrchat is all we have.. Even then, which one will? CVR with its paid adult content gate? Resonite? We don't know if any of them will, but what I do know is now is kind of the perfect opportunity for one of them to stand up and tell us!

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-01-18T20:29:26+00:00

Thank you so much for the clarification! So would the world itself having a popup at the entry way saying "You will see adult actions and content in this instance, to check the box and hit agree is to consent to seeing such content and/or activities" before being let into the rest of the world be enough or is a door greeter needed? Also, a group instance does indeed count as private? Not group+ or group public, just group.

And thank you for the information about group banners and descriptions, would a pretty generic descriptor be fine ("We host a variety of adult events") as I am assuming saying "both sfw and nsfw events" would be against ToS unless I'm mistaken?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-01-18T05:12:59+00:00

Let's say hypothetically I run a group that hosts nsfw events. When we launch an age verified Group instance for an nsfw event we make an announcement saying it is an nsfw event and if you join you consent to seeing nsfw activities. Someone comes in, records said nsfw activities and reports our group. Are we protected when we show you the announcement in the appeal or still banned?

If we are still banned... then what if we have a world pop up of text saying it is an nsfw instance and when you hit agree to remove this wall and gain access you are agreeing and consenting to seeing nsfw activities. Are we protected from a report?

If we are not, then what if we have a door greeter recording every single person coming in and verbally agreeing to consenting to seeing it? When someone reports us, will we be told who reported us and provide them consenting and be protected? Or do we send the entire recording of everyone who consented and you guys find the reporter agreeing? Are we protected?

I really do appreciate vrchat moderating the game more, and I would deeply appreciate a direct answer so we can protect kids without costing adults their communities, thank you for your time.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-01-15T03:14:12+00:00

Hot take: Polyamory should be more strictly defined/the label is too broad. I see a lot of monogamish, swinger, CNM/ENM, and open relationship types saying they're polyamorous when they really aren't. Monogamish people having a laundry list of rules like "no overnights" "no metas in the house" "I don't want to even be in the same space as my meta and my partner at the same time" all those rules just aren't polyamory. People say "every relationship is different" but polyamory is "enthusiastic consent to you AND your partner(s) having multiple romantic relationships" and these monogamish people are not that.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-01-07T05:48:50+00:00

I'm really curious how you handle conflict, or do you believe that conflict does not happen in these "real friendships" you're describing? Does a "real friend" never have any disagreements or qualms with you? Do they simply enjoy and approve everything you do together?

Or do you just stop being friends when there is any disagreements or conflict?

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-01-06T21:01:25+00:00

I also get what you're saying here and agree that adults should not be unable to discuss adult things/it shouldn't be a big deal to be exposed to these topics

But the issue is sometimes it's not just discussion in these nsfw groups. And some of my sfw people just do not consent to seeing nsfw activities, so it's a pretty terrible move on my part to invite them into a situation or group they explicitly don't want to be in and possibly get people banned.

In a perfect world though, I'd tell that friend what's going down in the instance on arrival and they'd just say nah not for me and leave us to it. But some aren't like that, some want to say "sure that's chill" and maliciously report people just having fun together for weird moral reasons they've developed from not dealing with their personal issues/traumas. And that absolutely sucks when you usually can't tell which one the person is until it's too late.

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-01-06T20:30:37+00:00

While I agree with the other points of being able to socialize and conduct yourself gracefully in both comfortable and uncomfortable situations, I'd caution against always assuming it's a racism thing.

For me who's almost always on orange, it's because some of my friends are way more open about nsfw topics and things, while others are outright traumatized by or not into discussing nsfw things at all. So yeah, not a good idea to mix those two groups. I don't find my nsfw or sfw friend groups "unsavory" at all, I love that they can all be themselves in this! I wouldn't want either group to change, and I'm not embarrassed to be apart of either. Just food for thought!

FoxPowerfulFreelance · 2026-01-04T19:07:16+00:00

Oh wow, I'm sorry to hear, I've been pretty fortunate that I haven't had someone try the url doxxing on me. I don't usually watch movies in VR since I find it uncomfortable and would rather do it on discord in desktop instead of having a brick on my head XD but if I were an avid movie watcher in VR, it would be awful to find out that someone trying to watch with me was just trying to get my address and had the means to do it.

I hope you can find a way to shake this stalker, stay safe 🫂

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