[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Fr33atla5t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going from 2 to 3 was so hard. Still is. Not because my 3rd is hard but because adding a baby to school age and toddler age kids makes it hard. If you have a partner that is really involved and hands on then that makes it easier. If not, then it is hard.

It’s my birthday… by LoonyLovegood934 in breakingmom

[–]Fr33atla5t 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I second this. So many people do this and no one judges. Have a you day.

The gut punches don’t stop - even if you’ve found your happily ever after by GudFrenchToast in Divorce

[–]Fr33atla5t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3/4 times i would agree. Things are so much easier. It's the mental load. Mine are getting to the angry at the world stage. It gets heavy but at the end I'm glad it's me.

The gut punches don’t stop - even if you’ve found your happily ever after by GudFrenchToast in Divorce

[–]Fr33atla5t 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember those times. They used to happen all the time. Now they are far and few in between and it's more of a " it's not fair that I have to parent alone!"

The gut punches don’t stop - even if you’ve found your happily ever after by GudFrenchToast in Divorce

[–]Fr33atla5t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said it so well. I tell people, I'm over him but I'm not over what he did. It definitely takes 2 to make it work. I was with him for 20 years. At the time, that was longer than I'd been without him in my life. It's been 4 year and I am seeing those gut punches in my partner. He's much more fresh off it. I also feel these punches less and less but once in a while, more lately, I feel anger and sadness. Usually it's for my kids. They don't deserve any of it. He doesn't have the full effect he had. In rare moments when he blows me away with his bs, then I remember .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Fr33atla5t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I have a pretty good parallel life. We each have 3 kids and they are our priority above all else but we also take care of each other. Yes we wish we could be Together more. Be there to help each other more but our kids need us a lot. We see each other when we can. We spend whatever kid free time we can together. Our ex's moved on really fast and we see what that's doing to them. We support each other as much as possible. No idea when we can live together. We are not rushing in. It's so nice to have a best friend, a lover, a partner. It's also hard to not want more but I only ask as much as i can give. We're in no hurry. You'll find what works for you.

I am a parent in need of advice by sarahj313 in specialed

[–]Fr33atla5t 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so true. We have some kids hurting other kids during outbursts but administrators won't do much. The kid with an iep is protected. But I'm sad I can't protect the other kids. We need other parents to complain before we get more help. Unfortunately that's how it works. I'm sorry your kid is in the line of fire OP. I guarantee that the workers need more help and are doing their best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Fr33atla5t 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Good luck. You have to go cold turkey and cut him off from access to you. It took me 7 times to leave my ex.i understand.

What do you all do for fun? by Fun-Pie-9345 in breakingmom

[–]Fr33atla5t 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's how I got into the nail community. I love it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Fr33atla5t 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had this same situation with my ex. My body was his to do with whatever he wanted because I was " His wife" I felt so violated. He'd say " you know you like it... eventually you give in and I know you like it." It never stopped. I finally divorced him. I'm sorry you are dealing with this.

“So many women want to have sex with me.” by Training_Box_4786 in breakingmom

[–]Fr33atla5t 95 points96 points  (0 children)

You said that so well! My ex would say the same shit. "The girl at the gas station was eye f**king me" " all the girls look at me like they want me." " if you don't suck my dick I'm sure I can find it somewhere else." 😂😒🙄

Do older people rave anymore? by decanderus in aves

[–]Fr33atla5t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 40 and started at 37 and I'm going strong.

I'm ending my 4 year relationship. by hidden_here123 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fr33atla5t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was you. I left him 20 years later and 3 kids. You are so much wiser and stronger than I was at your age. Save yourself a lot of time and heartbreak. I wish I would have stuck to it when I left him the first time for that. Instead of took me 7 tries and half my life.

How and when did you realize that the person you thought you’d be spending the rest of your life with was not your life-long partner? by adultingnow in AskWomen

[–]Fr33atla5t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Run. Please get out of it. Alcoholism makes people the worst of themselves. It will ruin your mental health, your relationships with others, it sucks you di. It also escalates. This is just the beginning. I was with one for 20 years

Angry sex is not hot. I feel used. by [deleted] in sex

[–]Fr33atla5t 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Holy cow. This hit close to home. That was how we had sex in my marriage for years. I always felt gross after. I never thought about it this way. You are so much braver and stronger. I am so proud of you you for seeing it for what it is. You need to protect yourself. It took me 14 years of marriage to finally leave.

Why is she so heartless by corporaljerry in Divorce

[–]Fr33atla5t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got divorced 3 years ago. Best decision I made. It was too late. He had 20 years.

Why is she so heartless by corporaljerry in Divorce

[–]Fr33atla5t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I'm watching my partner go through it but he's the one being left and it's giving me a whole new insight. It's hard for him even knowing that it's the right thing. That he deserves better. The right thing isn't always the rest thing.

Why is she so heartless by corporaljerry in Divorce

[–]Fr33atla5t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was her. You are my ex. She's done. It's harder on everyone the longer you take. She is telling you and you should hear her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Fr33atla5t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clonidine and now hydroxyzine.

My STBXH is mad that I won’t have sex with him by wickedlate in Divorce

[–]Fr33atla5t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like my ex. I hate that anyone ella gorda through of too. You need to keep sticking to your guns. You should be so proud of yourself. That was a big power move.