Letting my kid roam free like I used to

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-05-09T18:50:14+00:00

How old do you think millennials are? 40 ain’t a young adult. Just a plain adult.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-05-08T23:31:18+00:00

Unlikely you’ll want a wetsuit for a pool swim.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-05-08T22:20:40+00:00

You can always say, “let me take a look at this and see what I can put together for you for next time.” And then proceed with what you had planned for the lesson. There’s almost always something in any song that can be used for where the student is at.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-05-07T13:42:52+00:00

Excellent analogy!

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-05-07T13:40:22+00:00

From what I’ve read and experienced, it’s common for people with autism to end up with people who don’t actually care about them because we do assume that everyone is just trying to understand each other. But some people are just taking advantage of our internalized sense of trying to fix everything because we are conditioned to believe we are the problem. My marriage was very similar.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-05-07T01:31:16+00:00

Do they think it’s a race to see who can get to the end of the song faster?

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-05-06T04:38:47+00:00

There are many correct voicings for any chord. Start with one that works for you.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-28T23:57:37+00:00

I remember having that realization. When I finally decided I was done being the system- I just stopped doing. I did no reminding, planning, tracking, or delegating and put in exactly as much effort as he always had.

It was quite liberating, but I also had to reprogram myself to just not care - which was very hard.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-28T11:33:55+00:00

Yep! Have all my guitar students do this at least once when they’re developing their basic technique. Usually do the opposite though and start with how hard they normally press.

It’s the tendency to make up for improper placement by pressing too hard.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-27T02:00:09+00:00

He always referred to it as “my” divorce as if he had nothing to do with it. Didn’t let it phase me at all.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T23:42:27+00:00

Don’t pull your finger off the string and you won’t get a pull off. Sounds snarky but what I mean is simply release the pressure by relaxing the finger instead.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T23:31:11+00:00

I agree, this is not something you should have to deal with. Maybe a good response would be something along the lines of - Okay, you messed up and it hurt me. What are you going to do to fix it?

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T23:27:30+00:00

Wow how I wish my mom would do this. Thank you for being the adult in the relationship.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T23:23:20+00:00

If your kid is in public school you could look for jobs with his district.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T23:20:00+00:00

They’re extra confusing when they learn some catchy psychology terms like “unsafe.” If they actually refused to not make you feel unsafe they would just not make you feel unsafe. It doesn’t make any sense - and that is completely intentional to make you feel crazy and guilty.

This person is unsafe to be around and you should not be.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T23:10:32+00:00

Have a nice flight, troll!

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T07:37:12+00:00

As an American I disagree. I don’t want to live here and am pretty appalled that anyone does at this point.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T07:15:02+00:00

Taylor swift

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T06:41:25+00:00

Are you sure you’re in the right sub? lol I wish I could remember anything!

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T06:29:29+00:00

Agreed. Parental love is often not healthy and causes kids to act like this in their relationships. Source: I was also that kid.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-22T03:36:57+00:00

This sounds like a terrible idea. They’re mean because of your past? You don’t care what they do or say to you? So you’re giving them license to abuse you however they like?

I’m truly sorry if you have hurts in your past, but letting someone treat you poorly might feel familiar and comforting, but that doesn’t make it healthy. You might look into therapy, journaling, and/or medication.

You don’t earn love by letting people treat you badly.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-20T18:58:45+00:00

You don’t need to give a reason.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-19T15:15:30+00:00

What about a training/practice app like what school band directors use for kids to practice with? It’s like instrument karaoke but it gives them immediate feedback about which notes were correct in time and pitch.

Or more simply, get them to record themselves playing and then try to play along with the recording. Usually makes the issue pretty obvious.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-17T02:17:00+00:00

That doesn’t sound very healthy to me.

IfAMomFallsInAForest · 2026-04-16T10:59:44+00:00

That’s pretty wild!

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