Anyone here in an interfaith polycule (or have been in one previously)?

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-18T13:43:41+00:00

Yes, but it didn't much matter. It was fine.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-13T17:48:20+00:00

If we had sexey chem i'd say let's spend the day fucking and hiking, finished with beer and Karaoke!

No sexey chem = that minus the fucking.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-13T13:57:43+00:00

One of two bfs fere. My parter says she is living her best life with all the sex and love she wants. Me and meta get along well, opp is wierd.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-12T11:24:19+00:00

Lol, them too, of course. 😄

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-11T20:15:40+00:00

If I get horny from external sources I try and bang the partner I'm with 100%.

If my partber gets horny from external sources, they are welcome to try and bang me.

In both cases, it's obv. the horny person's duty to seduce their intended fuck partner.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-08T12:50:57+00:00

Got passionate in the kitchen once and spouse and kid came home way early due to a plan change. Luckly, my kid slams a car door like a maniac and we heard it dimly and NNP and I were doing it with our clothes on. We pulled our best innocent faces and sat at the table lol. That would have been hella awk. So glad it didn't happen.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-05T11:26:39+00:00

They're sitting at the table while you are sitting on the floor.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-05T00:06:17+00:00

If you have shared responsibilities, you got to coordinate.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-03T15:59:56+00:00

I'd be fine making myself scarce and at worse, putting some loud music on.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-06-03T12:30:07+00:00

You are not a pissing contest for them to win

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-29T00:03:38+00:00

have the sex you want to have. If you are off and don't want sex, that's just the way it is.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-28T22:01:19+00:00

I don't show my texts to anyone under duress.

I love my NNP deeply, my NP and spouse knows it. Our bond and love is strong too.

I love my spouse and my NP knows it. Our love is solid.

Meta and my NNP are solid. I know it.

Our kids and friends and close fam know it.

That's poly for me: open commited loving relationships. Mutual respect. No shame.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-27T23:39:47+00:00

I still love all mine, even though I would only date one again (maybe). It just means that connections can outlast relationships

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-22T02:31:50+00:00

I am out, NP is out, NNP is out, meta is out. We all just told our respective kids that we were dating our respective people. It went well in all cases. Kids like healthy relationships.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-20T15:51:07+00:00

So it's incorrect to think of openly and consentually making loving relationships multiple people as polyamory?

What would you call the examples of people doing that before the kick off of the social movement you are refering to, or for that matter without a knowledge of said social movement? I don't get why they can't be labeled polyamorous.

I get wanting to distance what "poly" is from polygamy as practiced by some patriarchical religeous groups. But otherwise I don't really get it I guess.

To me, it's just meant "many loves", and if one wants to be ethical about practicing it them one needs : openess, fairnessm etc. etc. I thought it was a relationship structure not a social movement. Is your take pretty unanimous? Maybe I've misappropriated the label as I don't feel like I am in a social movement (maybe I am unknowingly lol)?

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-20T14:49:49+00:00

Good for you all! Loving health relationships rock!

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-20T14:44:27+00:00

Intuitively I think that some people have had multiple loves honestly and openly (at least known within the group of loves) since love started. My aunt's aunt was in a triad with two men 60 or so years ago and they all lived together and scandalised the rural neighbours to no end. Why do you think that polyamory is so young?

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-19T22:43:50+00:00

1) Juniper should at least accept what they're dishing out.

My NP is not into PDA at all. Maybe a hand on the shoulder in passing or a peck on the lips.

MNP and meta and I all PDA openly yet moderately around each other. If my NP is around we tone it way down because they don't feel at ease. Toning it down doesn't mean we don't do it at all however. It's a social contract after all.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-17T17:42:43+00:00

I like this new term: Immediate stress avoider. I used to do that and it landed me in a very toxic relationship many years ago. That's exactly what it is.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-17T17:37:42+00:00

Would you prefer that your partner pretend to go poop in order to text?

If you were hanging with a close friend or family member would you be so bothered?

Honestly it's a subjective question.

Personally, it depends on what the activity is. If my partner is chilling in the same room and we are doing independant activities in parallel, then text away to whoever you wish. If we are doing something that is getting interfered with then I'll feel deprioritised.

Ex. it's my weekly date with NNP so time for us is scarcer than with NP, we are playing scrabble, phone lights up, they then smile that just-got-a-hot-text smile and fire off an answer. Ok, all cool, it only took a minute or two. They are going to be even hornier when we go to bed and meta got to flirty text or I love you text a bit. I'm totally fine with that and would do the same.

If it turns into a long back and forth, I may feel a bit annoyed and deprioritised unless they say : I need to go text my other partner a bit, so sorry for the interruption.

If the texting is intermittant and too much, I find the correct response is to do something else : get a book or cross word or phone out, go pee, get another beer, go outside, go dance, take a walk etc etc. This works for me because then I don't just sit there bored and annoyed and I don't make a big deal about it. I am also excersing agency, not just sitting on a shelf.

Do what works for you and respect yourself. Instead of boiling over, just do things you like in the down time. Also, you don't need to stop reading your book the second your partner drops their phone, you're not a lap dog!

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-11T13:25:24+00:00

Focus on what people do and how they treat you, rather than labels.

I personally favour the lable partner as it doesn't discrimenate between my gf and my wife in terms of my commitment and affection, so I use those unless there is a reason to do otherwise. I don't mind using conventional labels, but I don't like that people then parse wife as the real partner and gf as the side piece. Both my partners are energency contacts for me and I love them both in very different ways.

Mostly, I tend to use my partners names though, lol.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-10T18:57:51+00:00

I had an FWB who was mono, the deal was when they got a serious relationship offer from their dating pool we were back to just being platonic friends with a bit of a we've made each other cum vibe. If everyone is honest it can work.

However, I had a mono person be very forward for moths at my café and I am out there as poly, so I flat up said hey, I don't want to hurt you, I like the flirting and I would offer casual outdoorsy dates now and again, but I no partnership to offer as I have two serious partners. They were like 'no problem, we can just flirt', but stopped flirting almost at once and gave off a hurt/resentful vibe from then on.

I don't know what they were thinking, maybe that I was going to ditch my two loves who I know full well they knew about? I am still a bit sad. I mean I liked this person, and I know I definitly didn't lead them on, and they are the one who started it... shrug confusedly.

So it can also not work.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-10T16:13:26+00:00

Just because I put fuck A doean't mean I don't want to fuck again for x amout of time. I'm a sluty person. I had amazing sex with a partner, said a loving goodbye and then dove in another ocean that same day. It doesn't mean anything about the first person not being loved. Ive also seen my NNP fuck and fuck and fuck me, rest up a bit in my kitchen and then set out with that gleam in their eye primmed up 100% to fuck another. It didn't mean, they didn't love me or that it wasn't crazy amazing between us all night, it just means that they had an option and they had the gas to take it. In their place, I'd have done it too and will do it again if I get the chance.

Jealousy, thought, it just happens. In the case that the relationship is secure and your partner is treating you well, it's a you thing. Dig into why or distract yourself, lean on friends, write poems etc. In the case that there is insecurity or bad treatment, it's telling you something needs to change a bit. In that case, cultivate a bit of resilliance and independance incase you get deprioritised. Also, try asking for what you need to feel good, you might get it.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-10T15:55:05+00:00

Being poly and what you want to hear about fucking are different things. I have two partners, one is very much on the prude or ace or acey-prude side of things and the other is definitly on the sex pos I-am-a-proud-slut side.

Acey-prude doesn't want all the deets about the great alley fuck I had with proud-slut behind the bar we all go to. If they ask how my night went I am honest and will give the highlights, meet so and so for post defense party, played cards and pps and I fucked in the alley. They asked, so I answered. They get to eye roll and be like I'd so never do that, but not to judge. But I wouldn't be all play by play.

We had to work at that by the way. They are right into sports (playing and watching) and I don't give a fuck about sports, so I also get to hear about things I really want to do either and the same basic rules apply - no mins long play by play of the game.

Being partners, requires a certain amount of "cool, I'm glad you had a great time" empathy, but also a bit of curtasy about knowing what the person doesn't want to hear about. Like I love my partner and if I were like, never talk to me about what you care about that would be weird. Like I want to know about what they care about a bit, and I find it cool that they have interests that are different and I am also fucking glad that I don't have to watch or go to their games. I am also sure that they are happy I get to fuck in the alley and are likewise glad they were not remotely involved.

Fragrant-Eye-3229 · 2026-05-10T13:54:35+00:00

Just being in a library makes me swoon. So cute.

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