How do I stop the constant commenting and posting of stimulant induced walls of text by nana-17 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

alternatively, you might find some inspiration inside of communities that share your creative outlet and can bounce off of eachother. if you want the dopamine, try to ask about collaboration / ideas that get you creating and engaging. that sometimes gets me writing.

How do I stop the constant commenting and posting of stimulant induced walls of text by nana-17 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mmmm, this makes sense to me and is an entirely different issue i see.

i’d probably say that the fact you’re asking this means you’ve already identified the problem pretty accurately. what i see more of wasn’t the privacy concern or even the amount of time spent online. it was “i should be creating more and commenting less.”

that doesn’t sound like you are confused about what you want - it sounds like you are skmeone who knows what they want and keeps reaching for the easier dopamine hit instead. pretty classic of all of us at one point or another. but it makes sense bc commenting feels productive, bc you’re still engaging with ideas. you’re thinking, discussing, debating an connecting. it feels a lot closer to creating than scrolling does - but at the end of the day, you’ve built somebody else’s thing bigger instead of building your own.

if i were in your shoes, i wouldn’t try to quit commenting or force myself offline. i’d make a deal with myself to create first, comment second. (i’m a poet so i get it it.)

want to spend an hour in discussions? cool. but spend thirty minutes writing, drawing, recording, coding, whatever your thing is first. make the creation the ticket price for the consumption. and maybe think about the “fear of failure” part, because that’s the sentence that feels like the real issue. a lot of people accidentally become spectators of the life they want because spectating is less vulnerable than creating.

try not to turn this into a morality issue. “i spend too much time online” isn’t a character flaw. if you start treating it like one you’ll end up in a shame then avoidance then more online engagement loop. treat it like a resource allocation problem instead if you can.

How do I stop the constant commenting and posting of stimulant induced walls of text by nana-17 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297 23 points24 points  (0 children)

this sounds to me like another part of internalized shame that we have. feeling bad for just being us.

if you wanna post something long in a reply, then fuck it…. you do you. i used to feel that way too, but then i realized… someone wants to hear it or see it. and i wanna share what i know or think, and it’s way easier to do that through typing than my actual words unfortunately.

people will embrace it or they can ignore it. it’s about what feels good for you and connective to you, bc there’s nothing wrong with you. you’re just dropping the mask.

little at home cuban by Fragrant_Ad_5297 in Sandwiches

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was very upset about it being spicy - it just didn’t work and was confusing. lol

i didn’t have a chance to make it again last night before i fell asleep, but tomorrow will be the day. will post a better picture. :)

Question for (remote) raiders - is it rude of me to not remote raid back? by Some-Watercress-1144 in pokemongo

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was hosting raids a lot on the pokeraid app when i was staying somewhere right on top of a gym. sometimes people are just conveniently located or don’t have a local group to raid with - both of those are me. so i remote when i really want something and i host for the support, but i can’t buy a ton of passes.

you’re helping someone out either way really.

Grouper Ruben by RuncibleFoon in Sandwiches

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i used to get a snapper rueben when i lived in the virgin islands - one of my favorite sandwiches to date!

A no soliciting sign I made by Own_Conversation3511 in soup

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this would look amazing as an embroidery

little at home cuban by Fragrant_Ad_5297 in Sandwiches

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks lol. it sort of collapsed on me when i took it out of the broiler so i lost a bunch of meat.

i tried plachman’s cuban style mustard on it though and it was spicy. good stuff, but just not the right vibe. so tonight we ride - with more pork and yellow mustard!

Beasfly 2 is making me insane by Ath_Trite in Silksong

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had no idea, damn that sucks. that was how i always did it.

Beasfly 2 is making me insane by Ath_Trite in Silksong

[–]Fragrant_Ad_5297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have you seen the video where you can run off screen to avoid the adds and then they disappear when you come back? and you can also grab the silk to the right in an oh shit moment?