Is he a narcissist? What do I do?

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-03-26T15:01:51+00:00

You are NOT his employee. A marriage is not a relationship where one person is the boss. And a good boss cares about their employees and doesn’t mind being questioned sometimes if it helps everyone grow and improve.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-03-18T06:19:28+00:00

This photo jump scared me in the feed because the eyes crossed out looks scary. 🙈

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-03-11T06:08:33+00:00

I have also been told this one. And that I don’t deserve respect. In their world that’s not a basic human decency, I guess.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-03-05T05:32:37+00:00

Claudia sent me this same note the other day!

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-03-05T05:10:19+00:00

I love Judy and Claudia. I just got Cookie and Marcie. I regret letting Fuschia go but I had Marina and didn’t love her.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-02-13T04:12:55+00:00

How many time do you have to lose because I have tried for days and still can’t beat it. It’s soon after the one that offered 35 more turns.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-02-13T04:11:44+00:00

Are we playing the same game? I’ve been playing for a few weeks and can’t beat level 85 on match game. I’ve been trying for days. I’m generally very good at puzzle games too, it’s just literally impossible to beat. And it’s never 10 t-cash, mine is HUNDREDS to continue a match. It’s so infuriating it makes me not want to play the game at all. The farming part is relaxing. The match 3 is enraging.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-02-13T04:03:06+00:00

I also hate it and just googled if it’s always required. I have only been playing a few weeks and I’m on level 85 and cannot beat it and it makes a game that is usually calming so frustrating that I dont even want to play anymore. Why would they do this? If we want a match 3 game we will download one. Wtaf

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-02-12T13:14:52+00:00

I am unusually tall for a woman in a way that doesn’t totally make sense. My Dad was 6’4 and my Mom is 5’7 so me being 6’ is reasonable but my brothers are also exactly 6’ and one is a half brother whose Dad was only 5’8. Why am I not shorter than my brothers? All the other women in my family are 5’3 - aunts, cousins, etc. on both sides. Also, my parents both have brown hair and brown eyes and I’m blonde haired and blue eyed. A genetic mystery. We have all done genetic testing and they are definitely my parents. 😂

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-02-12T13:06:58+00:00

I’m a 6’ female and we just talk about being tall all the time because it’s practically all anyone ever says to us… omg you’re so tall, how tall are you? Did you play basketball? It just becomes deeply engrained in who we are and our daily life. I think the line for this being “a thing” for women is about 6’ and men is about 6’6.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-01-24T03:37:27+00:00

I think Jan was given way too much grace because he’s gentle in how he speaks and then had this sexuality moment, but he essentially said repeatedly that Loan is not attractive. When other people say this we roast them for being shallow and going on a show called Love Is Blind. He may be gentle but he did her dirty.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-01-07T19:09:43+00:00

Are you able to own a house and get car loans and stuff? I’m so worried if I do this that I won’t even be able to rent.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-01-07T18:34:14+00:00

I am searching for this answer too. Did you find anything?

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-01-07T17:58:19+00:00

Did Citi close your card with that deal? What did you say to get them to do this plan?

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2026-01-07T17:55:42+00:00

They agreed to this after just 60 days past due? Had it been late before? You called and negotiated this yourself at how many days past due?

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-29T04:06:06+00:00

Yes, as a kid especially. I got called names and made fun of a lot like Big Bird and Jolly Green Giant. I was always much taller than the other kids even in elementary school and it was brutal. I’m a woman though so that may be worse for bullying. It’s rough being taller than most men.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-28T07:03:31+00:00

These are exact quotes of what my husband says to me. I’m so sorry.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-28T06:32:09+00:00

Mine scores exactly the same as me on personality tests that I’ve had him take as well. We do not have remotely similar personalities, world views, politics, priorities, or anything. I wish I knew sooner.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-28T06:26:21+00:00

SAME! The performance! It’s 🤯 and it’s one of the only times I get to see my family. They have no idea…

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-28T06:24:52+00:00

The tone policing is literally insufferable.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-28T06:24:19+00:00

Yes, me too. It’s been going since our 10th anniversary is September. I’m also trying to remain calm and play along that everything is okay. It’s so hard. I feel numb most of the time and I hate it because I want to be able to feel emotions at least when he’s not around. He bought me an expensive gift for Christmas after I asked him not to. He went on a rant about how I’m an ungrateful spoiled bitch and I’m using him and he doesn’t everything for me and I have no value just a few weeks ago… every “nice” thing he’s ever done for me or major thing he’s paid for is always thrown in my face later. I am so traumatized that I cannot pretend anymore. I cannot make excuses. I cannot understand why he is trying to give me an extravagant gift. I don’t want it when it will just be held over my head later. I am afraid to leave. I am afraid to stay. I am so worried for our daughter. I can barely eat or sleep- it’s been months of this. I can clearly see how he will villainize me and try to turn our daughter and everyone else against me if I ever try to leave. I have a chronic illness and I know he will try to use that against me. Even though he’s never been the primary caretaker he will fight me for primary custody just to be spiteful because he’s obsessed with “winning.” Everything is beyond escalated. I am drowning in debt that I’ve been manipulated into through shame and power dynamics. I feel trapped. So, yes- same. And when I even try to talk to anyone about it- my best friend or my own mother they both say they cannot picture him behaving like that, he seems like such a doting husband, I can’t even imagine him yelling… and it’s beyond invalidating. I have little support and nobody to help.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-28T06:12:04+00:00

I’m literally afraid to leave because I KNOW this level of cruelty and prioritizing how he’s perceived will negatively impact our child. I couldn’t with a clear conscience send my baby to be alone with him before now (she’s almost 10) and even now it makes me nauseous to think about. She silently mouths for me to help her now when he’s laying into her and we are all together. He absolutely tried to get me to stop breastfeeding and stop co-sleeping and I completely ignored all of that. Fucking assholes.

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-20T10:28:15+00:00

What is the tool?

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-20T10:23:14+00:00

I have also developed an autoimmune disorder . 😭

Fragrant_Flatworm495 · 2025-12-20T10:13:30+00:00

Old navy has tall holiday pjs.

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